Is this normal to feel like this?

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Eigna
Eigna Member Posts: 438
edited September 2019 in Just Diagnosed

So it's been a few days now that I was diagnosed with IDC. At first I was sad and overwhelmed and days passed I was better feeling a bit more positive and accepted the facts that I need to put my best to fight this thing. However today though it kinda got to me again. We were driving and passed by a house where a bride with her bridal party was coming out from her house. I just thought of my kids which are still young 7 and 9 years old and my mind went to the worse: will I be still around when my kids get married?

I know I shouldn't think like this but I couldn't help it. Do you have these moments too?

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  • DorothyB
    DorothyB Member Posts: 305
    edited September 2019

    Yes, it is normal. Scary thoughts, but normal. Keeping a positive mental attitude is important, but very hard to do. I try to focus on doing the things I can do to stay healthy and also I pray.

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  • Sjacobs146
    Sjacobs146 Member Posts: 770
    edited September 2019

    Totally normal thinking. I was diagnosed 5 years ago and I still have my moments, but much, much less than before. BC has changed my thinking about a lot of things though. Im living more for the moment and enjoying life more than I did before. Doing things I'd always wanted to do but put off. I'm also getting more exercise and treating my body better in general.

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  • Eigna
    Eigna Member Posts: 438
    edited September 2019

    Thank you for your replies. Trying to stay positive as much as I can.

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  • Missmom79
    Missmom79 Member Posts: 202
    edited September 2019

    yes yes yes absolutely. I was just diagnosed 3 weeks ago and I heard someone talking about their grandchildren and I have kids who are 18(son) almost a 13 year old daughter and a 8 year old son. When I overhear day them talking I started to tear up in the waiting room waiting for my MRI of my breast and just felt like I’ll nebr be able to see my kids have kids and there are MANY other triggers and thoughts that cross my mind. It’s almost as if I can’t enjoy anything anymore.

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  • Eigna
    Eigna Member Posts: 438
    edited September 2019

    Missmom79 i totally understand you. I feel sad all the time. I wonder if I will ever be able to enjoy life again without any worries....

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  • Missmom79
    Missmom79 Member Posts: 202
    edited September 2019

    ya it’s good to know that we are not alone and and that many woman feel this way. Prayers

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  • MelissaAshley
    MelissaAshley Member Posts: 15
    edited September 2019

    absolutely. I was diagnosed less than a week ago and everything is a trigger. I also can’t stop thinking about how I will probably never have children now. Trying to live in the moment as best I can...boy is it tough.

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  • mom2bunky
    mom2bunky Member Posts: 189
    edited September 2019

    Yes dear, it is perfectly normal. Also, do not be surprised if you have episodes of wanting to throw things and yelling because you are just so damned angry. It's okay. It's all okay.

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  • beach2beach
    beach2beach Member Posts: 996
    edited September 2019

    So normal. I went through shock, crying, numbness, yeah I'm going to get through this, back to will I see my kids grow up, crying.

    Wash, rinse, repeat.

    Whatever it is, whichever way it comes..let it out. You'll find ground soon.

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  • AngieB92
    AngieB92 Member Posts: 323
    edited September 2019

    I was diagnosed almost a month ago. I have my first oncologist appointment tomorrow. My MRI showed more cancer than the initial biopsy but so expected that. The first two weeks I couldn’t see a future. The more I worked my way through this thread, the further I got away from the ledge. I still worry and I’m still sad but not every minute of the day. I still talk about the future because I want to have one. Some of the most valuable advice I’ve read here so far (and there’s a lot here) was that the time between diagnosis and treatment plan is the worst.

    Hang in there! You are not alone

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  • bcincolorado
    bcincolorado Member Posts: 5,758
    edited September 2019

    It is normal to get overwhelmed at times. I used to just want to get in the car and keep driving like maybe I could drive away from the cancer and all that it does to you. Hang on. It will get better and you are definitely normal.

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  • Rrobin0200
    Rrobin0200 Member Posts: 433
    edited September 2019

    2.5 years out, and I still have those negative thoughts. However, it’s not nearly as bad when first diagnosed. Gradually, it will get better. Time is of the essence...

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