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Please try a new therapist.

If your PTSD is rooted in other causes as well, reach out for help for those issues (I say that b/c the PTSD from my own sexual abuse has returned, triggered massively by this breast cancer and I AM getting help).

You're not alone, although the support here is virtual, it's definitely real.

I agree try to find a different (better) therapist. Most of them don't say inappropriate things like that. They are supposed to help, not cause more problems.

Hi Ruby,

I too have had very negative and unprofessional remarks since my last reoccurence in 2015, from so called professionals, who should really know better! If I did not work as a Nurse I think I would have made formal complaints against 2 separate Doctors, but I did not wish to rock the boat and firmly believe karma will come into play!

I have often told friends, patients and acquaintances that Cancer can play profound mind games and it is difficult to get past these at times.

None of us are promised tomorrow but why waste time worrying about things that will probably never happen or things you really cannot change.

Surround yourself with people that you love and care about, make an effort to do one different thing each day, remember those round about you will have their own things going on...it will all help! Please do not succumb to 'C's' parasitic ways!

Big hug!

Please keep in touch! X

Dear Meow, not all of us are as fortunate. And depression cannot be reasoned away.

I often think of good ways to end things before I have no control to do so.

And dear Redrubyslippers: Have you ever thought about getting a real service dog? I don't know the source of your ptsd (and holy sh*t you have that AND cancer!!), but cci.org provides trained service dog to veterans suffering from ptsd. There is a waiting list, but look into them. I raised puppies for them! And if not military related, maybe another organization or experienced dog trainer can help. Service dogs for diagnosed ptsd are the difference between life and psychological, emotional and physical death.

rubyred,

I am so sorry you are feeling so afraid. I think it's very difficult to mentally wrestle yourself out of fear, because fears arise from the Right brain (unconscious mind). If you have a fearful R brain your L brain will never talk it out of being afraid. I am an advocate for a foster youth in my town who found INCREDIBLE relief of her longstanding anxiety through Neurofeedback. The system was "Neuroptimal". in about 8 sessions things really shifted for her. Neurofeedback works with the R brain and gets it to calm down by "feeding back" the R brain's activity in the form of auditory feedback (clicks and skips in music). It is very simple, no efforting, your brain realizes it is watching itself and it calms itself down in order to get clearer music. Once it calms itself down, and practices being there, it likes that better and stays in a calmer state.

Ruby~I understand completely that feeling. Because I live it. I'm scared to death of death. I just lost my father, and it hit me hard. Add into my own stage four diagnosis de novo,I could crumble at an opening of a grocery store. Meaning any little thing makes me sad. Any place I go, I'm sad, everythought I have is sad. Cancer rules my life. But thankfully love rules my heart. That is why I go on. My DH and my beautiful children. Sister, brother, my mother and step father. That's why I fight. I can soo understand the dried up help feeling. Or the you look fine commentary. I have been stage four now for three years and 7 months. I fight everyday, I cry everyday, I'm scared everyday. Take it one day at a time. It's all you can do. Cherish those happy moments. Every chance you get. I wish you the best. Maybe it won’t come back.. it does happen. Therapists can suck badly. Find a new one.

might be time to look for one that you feel more comfortable with?

I was just referred to a surgeon yesterday - I went to emergency room with breast issue and they feel its breast cancer. Also a CT scan shows it probably is. I am paralyzed with fear. I am already being treated for depression - I have been on paxil for years and it has worked. Now I am deeply depressed since hearing this diagnosis. I live alone but I have a great family of brothers and sisters. I am sitting at home alone now because they are all at work and I just feel paralyzed. I managed to get dressed today but I can't seem to do anything else. I am so afraid of everything I am feeling.

Yes I agree with moderators, I would call the prescribing doctor and ask. They may want to add a different medication temporarily to help with this incredibly stressful time.

Hi Ruby Red Slippers:

So sorry you are going thru this. I can relate because I was told by my oncologist the first time I had BC that the treatment will not work and I likely have two years. I was so upset because she would share this each time I went for chemo. I was stage 3 then.

Anyways, that was 15 1/2 years ago and I am cancer-free. I did have another BC primary 2 1/2 years ago (stage 1) and I am on Arimidex for it. I have had bilateral mastectomies. You can see my profile.

I see an oncologist social worker for panic attacks and depression this time around and she tells me its common with BC survivors to have anxiety and depression because getting BC is like being hit by a truck. Its a trauma. She says to not to think of the future, but to think about what I need now. So if I have a headache, instead of thinking brain mets, I ask myself what I need now... which leads to tylenol and peace and quiet. Or, if I feel sad, what do I need now? Maybe a hug, or going for a walk in nature or an ice cream cone etc... and just keep doing this. Its self-compassion and it has helped me alot. She also told me to cry if I need to cry for release. I like her because there is no pressure to be sure to eat right, or exercise or anything. Just what I need and I decide. ANd she says that most BC survivors that she has seen completely transform themselves and do what they want for jobs, for hobbies, for partners etc. She gives me hope that I can do what i want for the remainder of my life. Its my choice and to be gentle with myself because I have been thru a trainwreck.

Same as you. Hugs to you, my dear. I hope this helps.

wallan

Will dialectical behavior therapy help with breast cancer depression. I am thinking of repeating I dontbhave cancer do you think it will help or hurt?

Good morning, please LOVE the beautifully sensitive being that you are. You have every reason to BELIEVE in your every ounce of goodness, creativity, self-nurturing ability, strength and endurance. Empower your thinking with positive energy from deep within yourself.

Humans are all incredibly powerful beings. Practice meditation, yoga, Tai Chi, creative arts, classical music, nature walks, etc. to better harness your spiritual abilities. Focus on your higher self and our the wonders of our universe, beautiful sun rays, colorful flowers & leaves, birds and bees. Transition to holistic plant based diet & lifestyle. And again, most importantly, believe in and LOVE yourself because you are beautiful within. Best wishes.
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