Is anyone else an atheist with BC besides me?
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I couldn't resist posting this.
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👍👍👍 sad but true, love it!
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ananda8 I love the "I just want to hear you beg for it" meme about prayer. Always hilarious to see white guys as Jesus. In most of Western European art, he has blue eyes and dark blond hair and beard. Oh, yes, that's SO Middle Eastern, NOT!
Also love the 'they all taste like chicken!'
As long as I'm posting on this thread today, I will share my lifelong challenge of being an atheist who's also a serious classical musician. Lots of the very best Western Civilization music was composed for church services. As a singer, I've been invited all my life to do church choir jobs, but I'm just too allergic to church to accept church gigs, except for weddings and funerals. In our concerts, my chamber ensembles perform lots of totally sublime music which was originally composed as liturgical text settings. I don't mind that a bit, but I can't get myself into a church service.
I grew up with the King James Bible language (Episcopal church in the 1960's - 1980 era), and it was spectacular: Shakespearean-era and poetic. So, the language of that liturgy is beautiful to me, and there's nothing more gorgeous than some of Bach's cantatas, which are usually religious texts--usually Biblical-- (in German or Latin). Vivaldi, Mendelssohn....I could go on and on about how much gorgeous music was composed for Christianity. And, Judaism! I've also sung whole concerts of Hebrew prayers and Yiddish folk songs that are religious. I'm also a pianist in a trio with a violinist and cellist, but there's no text conflict for that!
Where was I going with all this? Maybe to observe that without Christianity, we wouldn't have most of Bach's magnificent output! So, centuries of delusion have at least given us some great music. There, that must have been my point.....
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I will always be grateful to the artists (mostly Dutch, from what I've seen) who dragged the art world from sicko depictions of impaled saints to normal life. I went to an exhibit several years ago of paintings by Orazio and Artemisia Gentileschi (father/daughter baroque artists). The technique was incredible. This subject matter was one idiot saint going through bloody martyrdom after another. I was close to screaming "Let me out of here!!" by the final gallery. I'd seen tons of religious art before, of course (I love Caravaggio in particular), but there was something about the uninterrupted nastiness of the subject matter in this exhibit that was so disturbing. Catholics in particular seem to wallow in that whole gruesome suffering thing. I was raised mainstream, fairly open-minded Protestant, and my husband Catholic. I mentioned to him once that I couldn't understand the Catholic crucifixes with the writhing, dying Jesus. The church I went to, and I think many other Protestant ones, use empty crosses as their symbols. My point to hubby was that if you're going to believe the whole story, isn't the empty cross more symbolic of the whole Jesus thing? Anyone can be crucified, but what was supposedly special was bouncing back after death. Like a good Catholic, his response was, "That's what we were taught." 🙄 I guess they need to show all the suffering saints to scare the flock into following orders. What a sick form of brainwashing!
Somehow, I meant to tie this in with HikingLady's music comments, but it kind of got away from me!
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Alice, I agree. In particular I think that the Catholic examination of conscience is a source of untold grief. It makes one focus on mistakes to the exclusion of focus on what one has done right. This focus on what one has done that is wrong makes Catholics number one when it comes to a particular form of obsessive compulsive disorder called Scrupulosity, pathological guilt about moral or religious issues. As far as I'm concerned, the ever practical Buddha had it right when he said, paraphrasing' "Pay attention to what you are doing. If what you are doing is bad or can lead to harm to yourself or others, then stop it. Pay attention to what you are doing. If what you are doing is good or can lead to goodness to yourself or to others, then keep it up."
PS. I was raised Catholic.
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Toccata in Fuguein DMinor, written for church music. Most would readily recognize it on Halloween.
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AliceBastable YES, the bloody nails in those hanging, impaled Jesuses must frighten all small Catholic children, for sure.
ananda8 YES, mental health issues must abound with all that focus on self-flagellation and recrimination and punishment for THOUGHT sins....
Spookiesmom JS Bach would probably be a bit surprised that his amazing fugue has a life in our era as Halloween and scary-movie background music!
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Alice, Ananda8 and Spookiesmom- the church has influence on so many things in our life. Architecture, music and artwork are the first things which come to mind. Unfortunately so much of the artwork depicted gore, masochism, and subjugation of women. From a historical perspective I still find it fascinating.
Back in the early 90s, my very devout Catholic neighbor had wrist surgery. She wanted me to stay during her whole procedure and Recovery. Her family wasn't willing and she had no friends. As she was coming out of recovery she recognized me and screamed" oh my God I went to hell there would be no other reason for Jo to be here' I just laughed and told her " you're still alive" My comment could have been "where's your devout Catholic Family and Catholic friends." I was the only person there. The only reason I was there because I felt sorry for her during her time of need. For the record, she worked for the Catholic Church Monday through Friday 9 to 5. She never missed a day going to confession. I told her once she should spend less time on confession and more time on being kind to people. She informed me God forgives everything. I know not all religious people act like this woman did. I have several devout Catholic friends who are wonderful. It is amazing that particular memory has stayed with me throughout the years.
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Allow me to point out that many cultures have refined art, music, architecture, poetry and drama all without it being paid for by a church. The art may reflect some religious mythology, but not a fraction of what the Christian culture does. I would say that art was advertising to sell faith in Christian Europe. With faith came donations as it does today.
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Jo, she sound like some of the Catholics at the church my husband used to attend. There was one woman, not particularly old, who would always try to "out-catholic" everyone else. First on her knees, first on her feet, first with her holy ass in her seat! Rattling her rosary through the whole mass (honestly, who does that since Vatican II?), wearing a prim little HAT straight out of The Walton's church ladies! But when it came time for the sign of peace, she got this nasty sour look and barely brushed fingertips. Ugh. The one decent part of the service, and she wouldn't play nice. At the other extreme is my son's Episcopal Church: at the sign of peace EVERYBODY goes into the aisle, including the rector and deacon, and it's like a 1960s love-fest, everyone hugging and actually talking to each other and laughing. They're pretty nice. I go once in a while for the music, but the socializing is pretty cool.
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Alice-- Your son's Episcopal church' love fest sounds lovely. Genuine signs of affection.
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I'm pretty shure about some kind of God existence, but I don't believe in any religion. I believe that we all have a soul, but I don't believe in those heaven/hell stuff. I don't know if that makes me an atheist
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It was really sad when a man in his 30's with schizophrenia was sure he was going to hell because masturbation is a mortal sin.
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AliceB, My sister quite rightly objects to the sign of peace because it is a great way for old people to catch colds and flu. Perhaps that thought is what is making your old catholic lady make a face.
Yndorian1, I think you can call yourself a Deist.
Wren, That's so sad.
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My chemo month group has become an opportunity for many people to declare their prayers for each other. I'm a comfortable agnostic, and I was brought up that people should keep their religious beliefs to themselves. (Obviously I'm not a Southerner!) So it all makes me cringe a bit, and really puts me off participating there.
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Justchecking in to see if any real cerebral conversation is happening, but it appears the only way this thread can hang together is to bash and make fun of what you can't figure out. Now you can bash me for invading your safe space from the horrible world of religion. The sad truth is that without religion you wouldn't have anything to talk about.
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Hey joE77? Piss off. Would you like us to come to your religious threads and tell you what a bunch of delusional losers you are? Didn't think so. Have a little respect and we will as well.
Trish
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She's been here before. She won't stay long.
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Wow. JoE, I’ve seen you in other threads and have nothing against you but this comment was unprovoked and unnecessary. Religion and a lack there of is a big part of this thread but I don’t think we “bash” (we do joke on occasion) but we mostly express frustration with overly judgmental and intolerant church goers. This particular thread may not be the place for you and that is fine. Live and let be.
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Hey Joe - the discussion of classical music, architecture, Gentileschi and Caravaggio wasn't cerebral enough for you? What do you suggest we talk about?
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Here's some philosophy from Marcus Aurelius.
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Wow! Even some family members of atheists might visit this thread to better understand their loved one's pain but would find hurtful words instead.
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go back to your self righteous hole.
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I found our conversation together a few weeks ago, as many of us shared how we faced a difficult health issue without religion, to be very supportive and interesting. Many thoughtful and profound observations in that exchange. I've appreciated, so much, this safe and kind fresh-air space to listen and think, without judgment. I've also appreciated the doses of humor. Important medicine!
I'm a Secular Humanist. Firmly rooted in morality to inform thought and deed. Deeply committed to questioning and examining, and to justice and kindness. On a lifelong quest to self-actualize, learn, ponder and journey to more knowledge about myself, about others, about science and the universe. Adhering to these principles, as many do to religion, feels authentic to me. I am proud to believe my way, and I'm not worried about matching anyone else's belief systems.
"Who are the secular humanists? Perhaps everyone who believes in the principles of free inquiry, ethics based upon reason, and a commitment to science, democracy, and freedom. Perhaps even you."
— Paul Kurtz (1925 – 2012), founder of the Council for Secular Humanism and Free Inquiry Magazine. -
It seems that churchgoers have a hard time believing that atheists are not "in pain" due to not having a belief in God. We don't miss God! We prefer to be God-free! Believe that!
Hurtful words happen every time someone folds God / prayer into a cancer discussion..... as though God chooses who gets sick. As though if you have cancer maybe you weren't prayerful enough to get God to help you, and he let you get worse.
THAT is hurtful. I can only imagine how upset and hurt a believer with cancer might feel, that God has forsaken her despite all her belief and earnest prayer.
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Joe777, I'm not sure what you mean about "loved one's pain." The pain of our cancer diagnoses and treatment? Or the pain that some people experience when their religious family members, friends, and communities pass judgment on them? I myself do not feel any pain from my lack of religious faith, nor did pain lead me to reject religious doctrine.
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Another drive by religious bashing. I notice Joe277 doesn't have the courage of her convictions. Very cowardly to remove the original post. Now it looks as though we are just being rude to some poor, misunderstood, persecuted christian .
And btw, all of you are much more patient than I. My patience for overbearing christians has run dry. I'm damn tired of having to be polite and respectful of people who choose not to be polite and respectful to me.
Sorry for being so blunt.
Trish
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