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  • Kkmay
    Kkmay Member Posts: 156
    edited July 2019

    Ladies I don’t share those emotions with her. I’m keeping them to myself. It is just the way I feel about the whole situation. I keep all the negative feelings aside because I know it is not the appropriate time.

    It’s really hard for me to read everywhere that her prognosis would have been a lot better if she had been treated earlier. Something that would have improved her prognosis significantly

  • Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
    Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Member Posts: 609
    edited July 2019

    I realize that I'm so angry and so sad with this desease, that there's not a good way to interact with me. If somebody talk to me about people who had breast cancer and now are fine, that bother me (I don't know why!) But if they talk about people who die, that bother me too. If I'm alone I wanna be in company, but if I'm are in company etc etc. How can I blame anybody else?

  • kber
    kber Member Posts: 394
    edited July 2019

    Yndorian - I understand! I realized this morning that I've basically gone into work with a chip on my shoulder for the past two weeks - generally mad at my medical team (you know, the people who are working to save my life). Today, it was for making me take a pregnancy test before I start radiation. I know, intellectually, why the need it. But I was unreasonably annoyed at having to suffer yet another blood draw! Never mind that the tech was gentle and it took all of 5 minutes out of my day.

    I'm not easy right now, that's for sure! But I'll forgive myself - it's been a rough year.

  • maryna8
    maryna8 Member Posts: 1,810
    edited July 2019

    HI all, my step-daughter did not comment once on my BC while I was going through initial surgery and chemo all through spring into summer. Even when I saw her and had a bald head she didn't ask how I was. I felt crappy throughout, so once I felt better I asked her about it. She said she thought BC was so common and so easily cured that she was never worried about it. I think the perceived lack of caring is a mixture of denial, and a lack of education about BC (and honestly, who wants to learn about it?), and also the ability to compartmentalize and concentrate on other things. I did try to do some educating, but I don't know how far I got. Before I had BC myself, I did not even know there were different types. I have learned a lot about BC, and I wish nobody had to learn it ever again.

    Best wishes to all!

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