Newly diagnosed and terrified

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  • Hope0813
    Hope0813 Member Posts: 14
    edited March 2019

    Thank you ladies! And thank you CaliKelly.

    I feel very good today, thank goodness. It helps me easily imagine the possibility of all this as a fading memory one day. My next treatment is chemo and I am sad that it will push me into menopause and so my husband and I probably won’t be able to have a second baby, but at least I’ll hopefully survive to raise the beautiful little girl we already have.


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  • blah333
    blah333 Member Posts: 270
    edited March 2019

    True, but you can be hyper informed. I tend to go off the deep end and recently clouded/near ruined two months of my life during a long biopsy mess up and redo, because of the phrases "cortical thickening" and "missing fatty hilum" in my lymph nodes (which had been swollen since at least 3 months after my surgery. Everything I read pointed to bad news..... you have to wait before jumping to conclusions as well.

    That being said, I do prefer to over-google than not at all... but I think I will lay off a bit more since my most recent experiences. I wish I had read more about breast cancer BEFORE I got it. I accidentaly did a lot of things that made me slightly more susceptible. It probably still would have happened at some point, perhaps not as soon.

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  • kaylajane
    kaylajane Member Posts: 41
    edited March 2019

    Hope,

    Glad you are having a good day!

    I thought you might find this article of interest. Kikkan is a young mother, Olympic Champion (so in great shape), and still got breast cancer. It can happen to any of us.

    https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/20/sports/kikkan-randall-breast-cancer.html?action=click&module=Editors%20Picks&pgtype=Homepage

    I am halfway through my harder chemo. Phew! One day at a time (although I do have an app that tells me how many days till that is done 😀

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  • Rah2464
    Rah2464 Member Posts: 1,647
    edited March 2019

    Kaylajane what a wonderful post to share. Thank you.

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  • santabarbarian
    santabarbarian Member Posts: 3,085
    edited March 2019

    Hope - I am SO glad you are feeling better. You have absorbed a lot of shock but you are about to discover, and are discovering right now, your true grit and strength. Cancer is nothing I would ever wish on anyone, but there are a lot of lessons in it, and among the most powerful are how beautiful life is, and how much we want to be alive, how much we love our loved ones, and how strong we truly are. These are things you will carry with you into your post treatment life and they are very powerful things to know.

    I can picture you a few years from now, with a tantrumming toddler, thinking, "I am so happy to be here!!" :-)

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  • edwards750
    edwards750 Member Posts: 3,761
    edited March 2019

    Hope - it is a scary time. We all feel your pain. Try not to let your fears consume you. It’s hard but know this- BC has come a long way in research and treatments since I was DX in 2011.

    Doctors are still scratching their heads as to why some women get BC especially younger women like you. They simply do not know. This insidious disease is supposed to be reserved for genetic connections and an unhealthy lifestylesbut we do know now that’s not always the case.

    In my case my sister and I both got BC. Our mother had it when she was in her late 60s. She did take Premarin during menopause which we have discovered is a direct link to BC. Who knew?

    I think we all agree support from family and friends is paramount. Rely and accept help when you need it. A church group I joined was a godsend. We compared notes and offered suggestions based on our individual experiences. We even had a radiologist and psychologist come and talk to the group. It helps when you can go one on one with experts. We have a small intimate group but we have become friends.

    There is reason for hope and optimism. While BC isn’t one size, fits all there is a lot of sage advice available on this website. Who knows better than us what you are going through?

    Btw I am 7 years out last August. So far, so good. I had IDC, Stage 1b, Grade 1. I had a lumpectomy and 33 radiation treatments. I took Tamoxifen for 5 years.

    Keep the faith and keep us posted.

    Diane

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  • beep7bop
    beep7bop Member Posts: 130
    edited March 2019

    Let me repeat you didn't do anything wrong!! OK you are a young mother who has been given a bad awful knock. It is never easy being a new mother, I can remember sitting with my baby rocking and crying. I didn't know why I was crying just cried. I loved being a new mother, but I was so tired. You have every reason to cry if that is what you need to do. Don't be so hard on yourself. Just Love your baby, your husband because he is lost in this too and most of all love yourself.. You will pull thru thus. Life will get better. God Bless You.. You will Smile threw those tears. Kick BC in the BUTT!!!

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