Is anyone else an atheist with BC besides me?

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  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 2,755
    edited December 2018

    SoCalLisa, Do you ever think that perhaps atheists are born not made?  So many of us just sort of slide out of faith and usually at a fairly young age.  Perhaps some people need stories more than others and we are definitely a story telling species.  What do you think?

  • AliceBastable
    AliceBastable Member Posts: 3,461
    edited December 2018

    Everyone is born atheist. All religions have to indoctrinate.

  • DivineMrsM
    DivineMrsM Member Posts: 9,620
    edited December 2018

    SoCalLisa, your social life has been interesting! I was a huge fan of Catherine Marshall's writing which was a positive influence on my life, and have read both books you mention. Guideposts was also some of my favorite reading, especially the early years when I became a born-again Christian.

    I realize this is an aetheist thread so I don't wish to hijack the train of thought too much here. I would say I lean towards being an agnostic. However, it's refreshing to read the posts here instead of people putting their faith in “the Lord." I can never deny that the Christian faith got me through some tough times and saved my sanity, but I just can't go there anymore. It sort of makes me feel like a traitor, but, to use an expression I try not to use often, “it is what it is.”



  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 2,755
    edited December 2018

    AliceBastable, Religion started with storytelling and in every age most believed the stories to be absolutely true and a minority understood them to be stories.  Indoctrination may cloud the issue but I think at the core there is a mental difference between atheists approach to stories and a believer's approach.  I was thoroughly indoctrinated in my religion, but still stopped believing or realized I didn't believe in my early 20's.  Do atheists stop believing or do they realize that they never believed? Were bible stories always Santa Clause stories to us?


  • santabarbarian
    santabarbarian Member Posts: 3,085
    edited December 2018

    I'm really glad reality is enough for me. I never believed.... but the again both parents and all 4 of my grandparents were not religious.

  • JoE777
    JoE777 Member Posts: 628
    edited December 2018

    Just a thought or maybe a question. Story telling of experience, story telling by way of explanation, story telling as in lies, story telling for fireside entertainment. a clear definition helps

  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,710
    edited December 2018

    I was definitely born a non-believer. In 3rd grade I heard about a plan to have me baptized (insisted on by my Roman Catholic grandparents) but when my parents came to get me from school, I had already ditched. I clearly stated that any further attempts would end the same way. I never understood how people could believe the stories from the Bible or in Santa Claus either.

  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited December 2018

    My mother died when I was 4. I was told that God wanted her in heaven. I never trusted him after that. I thought he sure had a funny way of showing his love. The grandparents who raised me took me to church regularly. Dad would loan me his watch with a second hand so I could practice holding my breath during church. I think they quit going after I left home, so perhaps the whole show was for me. We took the kids to Unitarian church in Texas because you really needed to have a church identity there and then. Moved up here when they started middle school and high school. Have not been to church since. If I need a spiritual boost, I find it walking in the woods or hiking in the wilderness.

  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 2,755
    edited December 2018


    Wren44, How long can you hold your breath?  Smile


  • Murfy
    Murfy Member Posts: 342
    edited December 2018

    Interesting. I'm thinking one's upbringing plays a role too. My parents were both atheists BUT hard core conservatives. So, I became an atheist conservative too. Until graduate school, when I left home for good, got smart, and became an atheist liberal.

  • AliceBastable
    AliceBastable Member Posts: 3,461
    edited December 2018

    I grew up attending a UCC church, which is pretty laid-back. My Mom was sort of religious but also thought going to church was something you were supposed to do - especially for a family new to town. I enjoyed it at the time, but outgrew it when I left home. It was just part of the social environment growing up in the 50s and 60s. My Dad got dragged to church, very reluctantly, on Christmas and Easter. 🎄 🐇. I think my paternal grandparents were atheists, or they just never thought about it one way or another. My aunt married a devout, Mass every day Catholic, but she never once went to church. That took guts in a small town. So I had a good example of seeing non-churchy people as normal and good.

  • TabzIsMyAngel
    TabzIsMyAngel Member Posts: 62
    edited December 2018

    ananda8 - "Do atheists stop believing or do they realized that they never believed? Were bible stories always just Santa Claus stories to us?" Good question(s). Speaking for myself, I was loosely raised Catholic... we didn't attend church regularly, but I was required to attended weekly catechism classes through elementary & middle school. I received my first communion and confirmation, but only because it was expected, not because I actually believed in it. Once I reached high school & was allowed to choose on my own whether to continue the classes, I opted out. Even as a child, bible stories were just that to me - stories. Along the same lines as Aesop's fables & Grimm's fairy tales in that they functioned to teach a moral, but were in the end just stories.

  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited December 2018

    TabizMyAngel, Off topic, but your avatar is one really gorgeous cat.

  • AliceBastable
    AliceBastable Member Posts: 3,461
    edited December 2018

    Ananda8, religion started as tales to explain what was unexplainable at the time. Then the people in power realized it was the easiest way to control the citizens, so those tales became mandatory beliefs.

    I think it's possiblenthat before all these contradictory and anthromorphized religions, people were more reality based and if they felt worshipful toward anything, it was the sun, moon, and stars, which had a direct impact on their lives. Look how many expressions regarding just stars have come down to us: my stars, lucky star, wish upon a star, catch a falling star, etc. These might be the watered-down remnants of early beliefs.

  • TabzIsMyAngel
    TabzIsMyAngel Member Posts: 62
    edited December 2018

    Thank you, Wren. That was my Maine Coon cat Tabitha (aka Tabz). She survived mammary cancer at age 12 and I lost her a few years ago at the age of 19 1/2. Thus my user name.

    This is my new baby, Chloe. I adopted her a few months ago. She had been overlooked for 3 yrs at the rescue shelter because she is FIV+. She's an absolute sweetheart, much like Tabz; so playful, chatty & loving. (As you can tell, I love the big fluffies )

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  • Springflowers
    Springflowers Member Posts: 85
    edited December 2018

    I am so happy I stumbled across this thread, all you women here are smart and interesting. I am going to read the Sue Monk Kidd book. I was raised without religion, became "born again" at 13. Married a man from a very conservative evangelical church. We raised 2 kids in the church. About 10 years ago, after 4 years of soul searching we realized the psychological trauma we all had experienced. 3 of us are now happy atheists/agnostics and my husband still struggles ( he was deeply brainwashed his whole life). I am so happy to be out of it and so much healthier. That is not to say that there were not good times and good things, sometimes I miss the community part but I know I am much better now. Even going through BC I have not felt the need to turn to religion, I feel stronger without it.

    Thanks guys, look forward to reading more of your posts.

  • TabzIsMyAngel
    TabzIsMyAngel Member Posts: 62
    edited December 2018

    I just realized the irony of choosing an "angel" username. :) I actually consider myself an agnostic or secular humanist. But it's nice to feel we still hold a connection with loved ones who have passed and that their essence (soul/spirit for the religious) still surrounds us or brings us comfort.

  • JoE777
    JoE777 Member Posts: 628
    edited December 2018

    I'm interested in how atheists sometimes speak of spirituality or something of that nature that has no matter.
  • JWoo
    JWoo Member Posts: 1,171
    edited December 2018
  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 2,755
    edited January 2019

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    Happy New Year to all!  May it be filled with peace and joy for all.
  • SoCalLisa
    SoCalLisa Member Posts: 13,961
    edited January 2019

    Religion was and is a tool to enforce Social controls.

  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 2,755
    edited January 2019

    Religion also supports those in power who support it.  It's a dictatorial feedback loop.  Notice how formerly atheistic Putin is now supporting the Russian Orthodox Church and how the formerly anti-government church is now supporting Putin. The same can be said about non-religious Trump now supporting certain religious groups (who regularly pray over him) and how certain religious groups are now deep into politics. 

    As Barry Goldwater said, “Mark my word, if and when these preachers get control of the ... party, and they're sure trying to do so, it's going to be a terrible damn problem. Frankly, these people frighten me. Politics and governing demand compromise. But these Christians believe they are acting in the name of God, so they can't and won't compromise. I know, I've tried to deal with them.”

  • JoE777
    JoE777 Member Posts: 628
    edited January 2019
    Measuring Christianity, or other religions, by imposters, charlatans or simply the poorest example of that faith would be like saying all atheists are like the worst of the nonbelievers. Sweeping statements about groups are dangerous generalizations. Laying all the ills of society at the door of religion is in itself a huge injustice.
  • jo6359
    jo6359 Member Posts: 2,279
    edited January 2019

    JoE777- I enjoy your thought provoking comments. In my opinion, you sound more like a person of religion than an atheist. Just a comment not a judgment. I believe a person can have a desire to have a connection with a deceased loved one that isn't based in religious belief but a desire to maintain that bond. I have friends who refer to their children as angels and others who refer to their children as Devils. I don't believe it has anything to do with their religious beliefs. I don't care to make sweeping statements about any religious group or non religious groups. My belief is simple. Each day we have a responsibility to be the best person we can be on that given day. I will rarely meet that goal but I will keep trying. I attended church until I was thirteen years of age. Even as a child I did not believe in God. I will always respect another person's right to believe and hopefully they'll respect my right as a non believer.

  • MinusTwo
    MinusTwo Member Posts: 16,634
    edited January 2019

    JoE777 - I sincerely try not to sow dissension, but I need to express my feelings about YOUR continuing posts to this thread.

    Below in italics is your first post to this topic. I am disturbed that all further posts seem to be criticizing other people who post here or "calling them out". This is a place for people who choose not to believe in a Christian religion to vent their feelings and share their thoughts. I don't think most of us are negative or hateful. I also think most of us are tolerant of other's beliefs if they are not pushed at us. I do not believe most of the posts "demeaning or scoffing", but honest thoughts. I also believe some of us have been through horrific experiences at the hands of organized religion and should feel free to share. This should be a safe place for people to discuss & explore their COMMON beliefs. Not go back yet again and be told we are wrong. As someone suggested earlier, if you are uncomfortable with this thread, there are a ton of Christian threads on this site that might be a better fit for you.

    I think questions/civil and open discussion benefits everyone. I expected some but not as much of the negative, demeaning and scoffing of those who have some form of Jude's/Christian belief system. I was encouraged by others who had a healthy toleration for those who do believe in a higher power outside of themselves and expressed the need for universal virtues that cross all belief systems and cultures.

  • Springflowers
    Springflowers Member Posts: 85
    edited January 2019

    Minustwo- <thank you, you are right we need a safe place to talk. We have had enough of being shamed, we come here to a thread where we hope and trust we will not be shamed. I love the freedom and tolerance here, judgement and shame free. So please those who are wanting to evangelize dont do it here.

    NO MORE SHAME!

    Happy New Year Everyone!

  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 2,755
    edited January 2019

    One of my favorite philosophers is Bertrand Russell.  He is considered by many to be the greatest philosopher of the 20th Century.  Here is one of his quotes.  

    "I believe that when I die I shall rot, and nothing of my ego will survive. I am not young and I love life. But I should scorn to shiver with terror at the thought of annihilation. Happiness is nonetheless true happiness because it must come to an end, nor do thought and love lose their value because they are not everlasting. Many a man has borne himself proudly on the scaffold; surely the same pride should teach us to think truly about man's place in the world. Even if the open windows of science at first make us shiver after the cosy indoor warmth of traditional humanizing myths, in the end the fresh air brings vigour, and the great spaces have a splendour of their own.

    BERTRAND RUSSELL, "What I Believe"


  • magiclight
    magiclight Member Posts: 8,690
    edited January 2019

    Ananda...I find the quote from Barry Goldwater enlightening. I had not thought about the idea of compromise needed for politics and clearly not an option in religion. Maybe that is why I find religious leaders and their followers so frightening, there is no middle road. Everything done in the name of the religion has Gods imprimatur.

  • jo6359
    jo6359 Member Posts: 2,279
    edited January 2019

    Ananda- I am a huge fan of Bertrand Russell. "Why I Am Not A Christian" is one of my favorite books.

  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 2,755
    edited January 2019

    I agree.  Somehow over the years, I lost my copy.  The governor of my state post tracts from the bible on his government Facebook page every Sunday.  I don't object to him posting from his sacred text but I don't think he should use his official page to do so.  ( I am extremely fond of separation of church and state.) So, every Sunday I post a response to his quote from the sacred texts of other religions, Islam, Sufi, Shinto, Taoism, Buddhism and to cover the atheists, I quote from Bertrand Russell.  I get quite a few "likes" but none from the Governor. :)


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