my wife is in detail

hauser,

First, breast biopsies are highly unlikely to cause a tumor spread--I asked multiple surgeons plus looked it up in the medical literature.

Second, if the two of you are not convinced the mammogram shows a need for biopsy, I suggest having the films shown to a breast radiology specialist, the sooner the better.

Third, oils and positive thinking etc. can be helpful to her in dealing with the anxiety of the situation. To understand and properly deal with that mass, she needs MD specialists.

Also, I hope she appreciates what you are doing for her.

Any more questions, just ask, and let us know how things go. Best wishes.

This is so hard. The mental/emotional element of health is huge. I'm sorry you're dealing with this, I imagine it's extremely frustrating and scary.

First, yes, there's a good chance it's not anything dangerous. So everything could be fine. Hold on to that if you really can't get her to follow up further.

But, yeah, there's also a chance it's cancer or something else alarming and would really benefit from informed medical intervention.

I wonder, are you in a place where that kind of intervention is feasible? Ie, does she have good health insurance and job security if she needs to take medical leave? If not, see if you can work on getting those things in place.

I think one option might be to see if you can find a naturopathic doctor (that she would feel inclined to have confidence in) who has a positive relationship with allopathic medicine and could be in a better position than you are to encourage her to also seek conventional diagnosis and reassure her about the processes.

Do you have children? I think that might be a fair point to raise with her too - that her health choices stand to impact not only her and you but also the kids. Maybe that could help push her to at least seek a medical second opinion. Maybe there are options other than, or at least before, a biopsy that she might consider. Like if you could get her under a sonogram or MRI that showed something risky, maybe she'd be more inclined to accept the biopsy. (And of course, maybe it will alleviate concerns).

Finally, and whether you have children or not, I think it's worth thinking about counseling for your and possibly for both of you. Even if this is (and hopefully it is) benign, medical problems and health scares are kind of inevitable in a long life. The denial approach can seriously impact marital relationship and quality of life. Without pressuring her into any particular medical procedures (and a biopsy is an invasive medical procedure, even if they're very safe and routine) I think it's very fair to say that as long as you are together, her health and your health are connected, and to see whether you can get to a place where youf feel like a confident team.

hauser

"...an eyedologist that can cure anything"

Does this person have a web site? Can you post the link?