Who has the right to delete a memorial page

I am interested in knowing that as well. Why did her husband care about her posting here? I’m sure it was a source of comfort to her and many others as well.

Diane

Legally, I'd say the executor of a deceased person has the right to ask for the removal of a post or posts. However, BCO needs to remember that the original post is but an anchor for other members to post their comments and they should not be taken down unless these individuals request it. I can recall when the original "IBC This ain't Facebook" thread went down and nearly a hundred pages of comments disappeared. So much valuable info went down the gurgle.

Mods, could you please work out a way where the removal of a member's posts don't delete comments of those who went to the time and trouble to post?

Just had my legal paperwork redone with the prior one done 12 years ago. The main thing I noticed in the first draft was language was added regarding digital property “owned” by me and it spells out what my executor can do regarding my digital property.

“Edited to add: I'm just wondering if it is a violation of copyright of what I write if it is deleted by BCO without my permission?“

No it is not, as your posts are not copyrighted. Additionally, when you joined, you agreed to the terms of use, which allows bco.org to modify or remove posts at their discretion.

The problem when threads/posts get deleted is that information is lost.

I understand the Community is a source of support more than a source of information still I venture to say when it comes to ground level common sense you get much more here than you would in a 20 minute conversation in your doctor office. Not necessarily about direction of treatment but most importantly about how to hold your wings up while negotiating this shitty thing.

I find for example Lulubee posts on incontinence, constipation and how to take care of your feet on Xeloda priceless - her observation about NOT soaking you dry feet is clever and she is spot on, oil but do not soak. Not to mention the detailed description on symptoms of a pericardial effusion a classic - not easy to pick up but she was all over it in emergency. !ita57 is guts and dignity and her thread is followed by many because it sooths like nothing else - that she manages to stay off opiates with her disease is amazing and potentially beneficial - we know morphine has immnusuppressive effects. Traveltext flag for BC in men is tireless. Z and Curious keep punching it out. Heidihill is a mountain of calm and wisdom. Grannax Y90 has inspired many. exbrngrl thread on joy and life and stage 4 rocks. Susan trial on brain mets. There are Soooo Sooo many others that I could go on forever but my point is when you delete threads you delete information that is beneficial to many.

That act of community benefit must be balanced against the act of privacy somehow - for my part I know that when I post I post - I have a period of time to delete if I have second thoughts - but then its out there.

(Traveltext knows I deleted a me post that he found ok - it cut a little too close and I felt unusually shy, I cant reproduce it because I put the lid on a lot of it, but looking back I should have kept it, it was the truth)

So mods there must be a way to write this up so people can delete their own posts but not the entire thread?

There is so much value in many of these threads...

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“I think it's shit. I don't think that anyone but the person posting should have the right to request deletion. What about her rights?“

I wish that entire threads wouldn’t disappear when the the op, or others as the mods decide, ask for removal, but we all understood that this was possible when we agreed to the terms of use. There may be circumstances, that we’re not aware of, that cause this to happen from time to time

I find it disturbing that a thread can be eliminated totally when only the original poster chooses. What about the rest of us who benefit from the thread and have posted there ourselves? I often see posters referred to themselves as the "owner" of the thread, but I have never felt that way about any thread I've started. I wonder if that is actually part of the user agreement or just their mindset about running a thread. No one should "own" a thread or be allowed to have other people's words deleted unless they violate the user rules. Again, the easy answer should be that if a person chooses to delete their threads and posts therein, those thread headers are replaced with a generic BCO placeholder saying something like "the original thread post has been deleted by choice by the member." We might lose whatever it was that the originator posted, but not the whole thread. It would not be hard technically and would solve this continuing problem. Sorry, traveltext, not big on the idea of giving notice--I choose not to get emails and I'm not always on everyday--and if it is a long thread, would not want to spend time gleaning information in haste.

Mods, let's please get a workable solution before this happens again.

This problem has come up several times before. This was my response on the technical issues thread. I repeat it here, hoping that maybe the technical team has had time to find way to implement these suggestions. 

Aug 25, 2018 09:28PM
Mominator
wrote:

Moderators, 

Suggested option 1: Maybe a phone call or private message to suggest to a person, rather than leaving, that they take a step back from the boards. Maybe a small bunch of posts need to be deleted while they take a break, but the rest of their contributions could be left behind, explaining that their contributions are valuable and other members depend on the information contained in the threads. 

Suggested option 2: If they still insist on leaving, could you separate the user account from the created threads? Then deleting someone's account would be just their profile information. Maybe you could delete the user name, but leave behind the posts. The credit could go to "Deleted Member" or something similar, leaving the posts behind. If a person doesn't like their posts, they always have the option of deleting individual posts. Again, a small bunch of posts need to be deleted, but the rest of their contributions could be left behind as Deleted Member. 

For example, we lost a lot when B** asked to be deleted. Her "death bag" has been recreated, but many threads were lost. The Amen prayer thread, for example. (From my point of view, it looked like a misunderstanding, and only a small cluster of posts were bad. If those posts were removed, maybe it would have been resolved. There's probably more to the issue that what I saw.) 

Suggested option 3: Worst case, deleting an account would delete all their posts, but leave a blank/place holder as a post. Similar when we see "This post deleted by user" but there's still a space there. The thread still exists, with blank posts from the deleted member. 

If the deleted user/poster is an original poster in some threads, then the original post will be blank. You could offer one of the active users the opportunity to replace the original poster's post with some other head post describing the thread.  

I appreciate the balancing act of handling many thousands of users with many different opinions. I hope my ideas here do not suggest you are not doing a great job or minimizing the job you do. Or maybe I'm misunderstanding how things or users work.

Best regards,

Madelyn / Mominator 

Logically put Beesie. I'd add: then update the TOS.

Mods, this is not a difficult coding job, you really should move on it asap. The long-termers here don't need one more reason to retire from the boards.

We are going to work on changing things from a technical standpoint, as not to delete entire threads!

Great news. Thank you.