Here's what cheezed me off today

I figure I may have one good decade left so being around negative narrowed minded people is a waste of my precious time.

Luckily we didn’t have to deal with family drama on Turkey Day, hubby came down with a cold. His father called to see what time we were coming and hubby answered the phone. When FIL heard my hubby coughing, he told us not to come if he was sick. By that time I had the turkey in the oven.

Yeah, rohanna, I’d like to know where they get off telling other people what we are! Mine is 74 and one big baby. And she did practically tell me I was a hypochondriac too.

No lie Alice! Thinking of sending her a pacifier for Christmas and a pkg of depnds!

lol

It may depend on whether your parents were dysfunctional or not.

Maybe your Mom is also passive aggressive? Alice was so right about that! I never saw it coming.

Does what you want fall on deaf ears? Does she know you are closer to your extended family? Some people just refuse to change their behavior no matter how old they get.

I hope she’s not making you feel guilty about the physical distance? I’m not feeling guilty but mad at myself for getting sucked in. Gave her the benefit of the doubt way too many times. She’s been a lifetime control freak. Rewrites history, aka gaslighting, manipulator.

How about this?

Hi everyone...just want to add my two cents about not so great mothers. I think it's really difficult for most people to understand. Mothers are suppose to be kind, supportive and love us unconditionally. Unfortunately we are not all that lucky! My mother was a narcissist who only cared about herself. She was a source of stress for me until the day she died. I was able to combat all those negative feelings by being the best mother I could be. I'm very close to my kids and I think they would tell you I'm a good mom. Its sad that my mother and I missed out on so much but it's just the way it is. We all have to overcome hardships. Good luck to all.

Well my Mom has stopped being a pinhead and now my husband has taken that spot over. Had to cancel my hair appointment for early July because that's what he wanted. Tired of every time he gets like this, I am the one who has to bend! So I told him today that I won't be going out of the house for the rest of the summer because I will look like an old hag because of having to cancel my hair appointment. Told him too that if he wants his hair cut to take the clippers to his parents house and have his stepmonster (stepmother) do it for him as I am not until he gets off the attitude that I have to sacrifice all the time!

Really need to vent! Very depressed since my dog passed the other day. My so called family (hubby included) knew how close I was to the dog. He saw me through cancer treatments and was there for me whenever I was sick. We got him when he was a puppy and he was with us for 12 years! How can you not help but become attached to a sweet furry face! I treated him like he was my son, not just a pet! I used to jokingly call him Son when he was naughty! Now all the pinheads in my family are basically telling me to suck it up and move on! Like I am supposed to forget he existed? How quickly they forget that I was with the dog when he crossed the Rainbow Bridge! Where were they? None of them were with me when he took his last breath! None of them held him for the last time! What gives them the right to tell me how long I should take to get over this!

Yeah, when I lost the first dog we had together I was devastated. DH had the same attitude, it’s just a dog. Get over it. No, he wasn’t JUST a dog. My baby, friend, confidant, baby watcher, home guardian, companion when dh wasn’t.

Take your time, tell them all to put it where the sun don’t shine.

Our whole family was grief-stricken when our fur-baby Hilts passed four and a half years ago. He was as much a part of our family as any other member.

Condolences to you on your loss.