Here's what cheezed me off today
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Sounds like a good plan 😎.
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I vote this Best title for a topic! That's all, just wanted to say😂
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Cali, drop in anytime and join us for cheezing! It gets pretty real!
Spookie, eff those bil's! Who needs them? I don't miss my in-laws at all! Not one of them contacted me when my mom, brother and cousin passed this spring. So they can all go stuff more than a turkey! And yet, they want me to send food. The Christmas tree isn't the only thing with balls. I'm thinking of sending store-bought dressing.
Mommy, congrats on the new kitten. Name? Nothing better than a purring cat! We have 6 and they make me smile constantly. This is Purrl's first Christmas and it's been interesting keeping her out of the trees. She also loves to climb into the gift bags. And of course, my daughter got them all presents.
Have a great weekend, Cheezers!
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Rohanna, the new kitten is named Grace. She’s a grey Tabby.
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Another family member just seriously ticked me off. I was on my Facebook account this morning and discovered this person put up a post about how many calories are in Thanksgiving dinner and how much and the type of exercise it would take to burn it off. I'm sorry, when did Thanksgiving become a day to not enjoy yourself? I felt like asking her if she was going to eat nothing or just salads tomorrow to fit within the information she put up, but instead I hide it. Things like that seriously take all the enjoyment of a holiday.
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Mommyof2, I refer to people like that, who get their rocks off ruining other people's fun, as turds in the punchbowl of life.
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Gotta chime in on this topic esp Mommyof2 and her FIL’s comments. He has some gall I’ll give him that telling you what to have in your own house and what topics can be discussed in his house? What’s his problem? Politics? I do think that topic probably isn’t a good idea though.
My MIL was dictatorial too. When she couldn’t get me to cave she would work on my husband behind my back. Well that came to a head one day when I had had enough and I let her have it. I wasn’t crude or insulting just gave her the facts. She didn’t say a word and it was the end of her interference.
Diane
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Dictatorial, perfect word for a situation I experienced recently. Turds in the punchbowl of life works too. I like “suck the joy”. Why does it always happen at Thanksgiving time?
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My FIL has never accepted me since I met his son. As far as his problem, he thinks that hubby and I are the personal bank to get money when anyone in the family needs it. On top of this, he is the total polar opposite in political views of hubby and I. FIL thinks that the government should give away everything for free.
Hubby and I are not going, especially since they are calling for bitter cold here tomorrow. I have everything we need for tomorrow. I have been doing most of the prep work today. On top of it, hubby didn't sound so good when he called me earlier to see if he needed to pick up anything on his way home from work tonight. Sounded like he is coming down with a cold we have both been fighting.
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Interesting about parents not accepting the spouse. My son-in-law's mother said her family didn't accept her husband (different ethnicity) until she had a son. Then they had to be nice to see the son. My daughter-in-law's family didn't accept my son until she developed thyroid cancer and he was beside her at every step. I think it's just dumb. I met my mother-in-law when I was 6 mos pregnant. She opened her arms and hugged me saying welcome. I would have walked on water for her.
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Hubby's father wants me gone so he can try to push him into going back to a previous girlfriend who was a total tramp! Hubby said “No way was he ever leaving me to go back to her" to his father and it never sank in. My hubby is the best, he was so supportive of me during my cancer battle! Couldn’t have asked for a better man to have in my life!
Gotten to the point that I feel bad for my hubby for having such a jerk for a Dad. I pity my poor MIL for having had put up with that man for all the years she has. Could give a feather less about my FIL and his attitude toward me. One of these days, he’s going to say the wrong thing and I am going to let him have it!
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Seems one of my jerk bil’s is coming for a visit on the 29th, with 2 of his kids. This is the one that said he thought he better come for DD wedding since DH went north for all 3 of his kids.
Thank Dog they are staying on the beach!! I don’t have room anyway. Lucky DD has an important gig that night with the Piano Guys, and will escape the in-laws.
And DH hasn’t said a word to me about this visit. I wish I could disappear.
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I should have listened to myself and cut my losses years ago. Me, myself and I all agree that will be done now.
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you go girl😎😎.
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This is the place to get it out before the big fat turkey arrives!
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Yep! Hubby was going to go over to his parents for a bit tomorrow without me and say that I was sick, but he isn't feeling so well now. So tomorrow is going to be a quiet day at home for us and the furbabies. He said he's is going to help me with the cooking.
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what a guy! Mine sat on his arse all day while I made dishes and dessert for tomorrow. And that’s what hell do tomorrow too. 😡😡
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Mommyof2 - my in-laws liked my husband’s X. She wasn’t as outspoken as I am so I’m sure they liked that. However, she also cheated on my husband. She called him home from work one day so he could find her in the sack with someone. Despicable. Anyway apparently my MIL and FIL didn’t know the gory details and my husband refused to spill his guts in court. He didn’t want to hurt his 3 sons.
I finally told my MIL the whole sordid truth when she was railing on my husband about visiting his sons. To top it off she continued to invite her to every family function. Once in a while okay she’s the mother of their grandkids but all the time? Make no mistake I let her know that too. I said I wouldn’t be there if she was.
My husband and his sibs just let my MIL run roughshod over them so they never spoke up about anything. I sure did.
It’s hard enough to have a good marriage without in law interference. My parents never interfered. Our spouses shouldn’t be put in the middle.
Diane
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I agree, but my FIL is a twerp
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Nothing to be too cheezed about (unless you get into politics, which I won't). Last year I was with my husband, two children and my mom at her memory care community for Thanksgiving. They had a terrific dinner with music and a lot of joy. I'm glad mom had the last months of her life at this great place down the street from me. Mom passed at 86 in May of this year so I have just passed the 6 month mark. She still knew who I was and still had her sense of humor. I am so glad she more or less passed because it simply was her time. A quick hospital visit after having a fever for a week and then back home on Hospice for 6 days. I suppose I should be happy how everything went in the end, but I'm missing her today.
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Was a quiet day here with just hubby, me and our furbabies
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This is a day for missing loved ones, isn't it? Most of us have memories of big Thanksgiving dinners, at least when we were children. I remember a Thanksgiving when my uncle was first married. They hosted and everything had been caught or shot by my uncle. I remember how small a quail wishbone was.
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Some years my aunt would be too drunk to remember to put the turkey in. My dad and uncle had been hunting all day. Quail and pheasant instead. Yes, small wishbones.
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This year it was just Hubby and me and our adult son. My Mom died last January, my niece and nephew have enough to juggle between going to their dad's and their in-laws and placating their mom (my sister), who will spend time with them this weekend. The weather is lovely for this time of year, so we wrapped all our food in foil and had a picnic at a local park. We invited my sister, but after dithering for a few days, she declined, because she can't have a pity party if she's having a good time. Yeah, she's one of those. She's been driving me nuts forever, but it's worse this year - like when I told her I had cancer, she said at least I didn't have to deal with Mom's lawyer. Now I'm doing radiation, which I've barely mentioned to her, and she goes on and on about how tired she is. She's a hypochondriac who refused to see a doctor, not the kind of person I have any patience with right now. So we had a lovely day without her!
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Yeah, last week I was telling my sister about my next MRI and it was obvious I was interrupting her show on an old murder mystery.
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Sorry to hear about the radiation. The last thing I wanted back then was anyone who was a downer around me. Rads was even harder then chemo as it was every day for 6 weeks. The drive back and forth was a drag and normally tired just wasn't something I do... rads wiped me out. Glad you had a nice day Alice.
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Gotta get out and enjoy the rare nice weather, and added to getting to stay in bed past the crack of dawn -- the day was damn near perfect! And we saw tons of deer in our picnic park.
Marijen, sounds like we have similar sisters. Ugh. The one person you'd like to have in your corner and it just isn't happening. When I had my kidney removed in September for another cancer, a really scary major surgery, she said she'd be there. Then she forgot until my hubby texted her, she finally showed up while I was in surgery, then left right away when I got out of recovery because she was tired. I think I need to just give up on expecting anything in the line of normal empathy from her.
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Narcissistic maybe? Mine is proud of being shallow and uncivil too. I’m not going to knock my head against that wall anymore.
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VERY much into herself, yes, and how anything going on affects HER, even more than the person involved. She complains about people avoiding her, but she's driven everyone away, or at least to a safe distance. Sigh. She's always been like a bratty teenager, but now she's 72 and it's really annoying.
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And I suppose nothing happens to her? Like cancer or other hardship? Is she living the good life? Fair weather friends are gone in an instant, especially if they are keeping their distance.
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