Just diagnosed and scared.

Sounds like you’re in good hands, love.

I think chemo will depend on tumor size and lymph node involvement and receptors. Radiation will depend on tumor size, lymph node involvement, and the kind of surgery you have.

it could be stress. You’ll have answers and a plan soon to beat this.

Totally agree with the "you are in the worst of it" comments. Seriously, once chemo starts, or the surgery is over, it is so much "easier". I met with the surgeon. She walked in the room and I busted into tears. I met with the oncologist and I busted into tears the minute she walked into the room. I met with the MRI tech and I busted into tears. For two months, I busted into tears every time I was asked to change into a gown - by the by, the most important question on the gown - open in the front or back, because it is different with every single procedure you have.

Take tons of notes and bring someone to appointments. You will only hear a fraction of what is said and hopefully the counterpart can fill in the blanks.

Also, take the meds! I got Valium for the MRI biopsy and it is the only thing that got me through. I took Valium for the wire localization and it's the only thing that got me through. If a procedure is going to hurt, don't let them tell you it's no big deal. Get the meds!

Hi Love, the pain is from the lymph node surgery. The incision is in my armpit, and is a very sensitive location with a lot of nerves. Those nerves are now healing, and are pretty painful sometimes, although I can tell it’s better than immediately after the surgery. And they did give me good medication after the surgery. It just takes time. I certainly didn’t mean to scare you about pain, Just to say that I understand how awful the waiting is.

The final diagnosis is what you get after all your surgeries are done. In my case, I didn’t feel a lump but something showed up on my mammogram. I had to have a needle biopsy, and that showed cancer,

OMG Love, that had to break your heart , to see your baby so scared❤. I never had the blessing of children, but am a doting Auntie to many! Show your babies, that you're not afraid! Whatever is in store for you, YOU CAN DO IT!! Let your babies see that strength. My hardest thing was telling my Mom, we had lost my brother to Melanoma, and just as she was getting over that, my sister was killed in an accident! My Mom was devastated. If I could have gotten away with not telling her, I would have. I played it down, never told her my stage until I was completely recovered, and back to my super human self😉 Your children need to see that you'll be ok. You are definitely in my prayers, I believe with all my heart prayer helps! ❤❤

Hi Love,

I promise the shock of it all will calm down once you start formulating a plan. The fear was just so overwhelming in the beginning, I never thought it would go away. It has been my experience that God will send you "beacons " of hope along the way. Look for them. Your co worker that had breast cancer was one of them. Meals appeared at my door just when I needed them. Cards and text messages pushed me forward when I was sad. Complete strangers would give me encouragement. You can and will get through this! I'm sending you big hugs 🤗

My kids were 14 and 16 when I was diagnosed. Scott and I have been married for 18 years. It was hard for them at times, but we all made it through together ❤️

Prayers for MRI to go well