November 2018 Surgery Support Group

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  • HockeyChick_CA49
    HockeyChick_CA49 Member Posts: 31
    edited October 2018

    Thank you Jamiesue! I'm nervous but looking forward to getting this over with. One more milestone to check off the list.

  • Renee04
    Renee04 Member Posts: 5
    edited October 2018

    Hi everyone! I'm a member of the November club.... scheduled for BMX Nov. 15 with TUG reconstruction. I'm trying to make it through my last three days of work 0before all my pre-ops start next week. I was diagnosed 9/30/18 and waiting for the surgery has been very stressful as I feel like the cancer is just spreading each day despite my doctors' reassurance. I'm glad that I found some fellow "November breast mates". I look forward to reading about all of your journeys and supporting you along the way.

  • evily
    evily Member Posts: 63
    edited October 2018

    Welcome Renee04! I actually had to Google TUG reconstruction because I wasn't familiar with it - very fascinating! I know what you mean about feeling like the cancer is spreading the longer you have to wait for surgery... BUT, just know that breast cancer is typically very slow growing, so even waiting a couple of months or more for surgery is not considered risky. So, even though I know it's hard, try not to worry. You're gonna be okay! :-)

  • Renee04
    Renee04 Member Posts: 5
    edited October 2018

    Thanks evily. I know you are right. I'm hanging in there.

  • MCBaker
    MCBaker Member Posts: 1,555
    edited October 2018

    I am getting nervous about living alone, and the process of recovery. Most of my family lives quite a ways away from here, and my sister, the nearest relative, is going to have surgery just a few says earlier, so she won't be available to help. I have a male friend, our relationship is in the very early stages of <<maybe>>, and he is going to have surgery in several months. I have friends from church who will be willing to help, but I don't know how much. I am going to meet with a motherly friend who has been through it next week, but.... I am just scared of being alone, and having to do everything for myself.

  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited October 2018

    Welcome, Renee04! We are sending you good vibes for your upcoming surgery, please keep us posted on how everything goes! We're all here for you!

    The Mods

  • CasM
    CasM Member Posts: 110
    edited October 2018

    Hello everyone,

    Is a wire localized excisional biopsy considered a lumpectomy?

    Edited: I found a good conversation from 2011 in regards to the difference. BLUF, a biopsy is for diagnosis and a lumpectomy for removal of cancer.

  • Dovely
    Dovely Member Posts: 91
    edited November 2018

    hi guys! I’m joining this group for my reconstructive surgary on 11/7. I had a BMX in 10/24 that was supposed to be DTI but I had to postpone two weeks because my tissue wasn’t happy. I did vacs for a week and got them off Monday. Waiting waiting...

  • mnsotamom74
    mnsotamom74 Member Posts: 126
    edited November 2018

    bilateral double mastectomy scheduled for November 6

  • RosieRed
    RosieRed Member Posts: 257
    edited November 2018

    BluGene, HockeyChick, and kells2357...wishing you the best. Hope you are doing well.

  • BluGene
    BluGene Member Posts: 44
    edited November 2018

    @RosieRed

    I’m feeling great today. Some tugging and uncomfortable feeling in my breast when I’m up and about. I do wish I was able to find a wire free bra before my surgery. There was none locally here with a front closure, and I didn’t have enough time to travel or order online. I think that would make the difference, though, so, something for those to consider who will also have pmx or lumpectomy this month.

    I could have gone back to work even yesterday, save for the fact I don’t have a proper bra to wear. I’m feeling well, healing well, and in good spirits. I get intense itching from time to time, and not even at incision site. My neck and ribcage would be so itchy it would keep me up at night. All that’s is getting better now too.

    Thinking of HockeyChick and Kells today!

    My next step will be a dmx. I’m not sure what that time frame is going to be, but I expect within 6 mo to a year.

    I will be getting results on Nov 13. Could have got them sooner, but I’m going out of town on a conference, and I didn’t want to know until after.

  • Debkap
    Debkap Member Posts: 12
    edited November 2018

    This was a reply to MCBaker:

    I wonder if your doctor makes the request if you could get a visiting home nurse for even a couple of days? Even if they just came for 30 min. or an hour, you could have help with dressings/drains and maybe some personal care?

  • MCBaker
    MCBaker Member Posts: 1,555
    edited November 2018

    My insurance will pay for a home health care aide. And I will check into it if no-one steps up to the plate. A friend who is a nurse will be bringing me home. I think I just need to wait for a while and see what happens. I would rather have someone who I already know. But maybe I will also qualify for a few visits from a visiting nurse.

    Thanks for the reassurance. It will all happen in due time.

  • BluGene
    BluGene Member Posts: 44
    edited November 2018

    Got my results back already!

    Good news is it is not invasive.

    However, I’ve been bumped up to High Grade DCIS. Solid form with necrosis.

    Also, there was one margin at 1.5mm

    They suggest rads, but I so badly want to avoid it. I’m 35, so my age is playing a part in the treatment plan. I want to just do dmx and cross my fingers it will be over.

    I’m being referred to the cancer clinic for further discussion.

  • Kstinekd
    Kstinekd Member Posts: 40
    edited November 2018

    Hi borogirl and all! I'm having prophylactic nipple sparing BMX on Nov. 12 and will have pre-pectoral tissue expanders and eventually silicone gummy implants. Going in for pre-ops next week. Met with integrative medicine specialist this week who did guided imagining to prep for surgery. It was really interesting. Heading back there again in four week post-op for nutrition guidance. Anxious to get this moving. I was diagnosed on my wedding anniversary and the day before my daughters bday in early October. It's been a whirlwind and emotional roller coaster. The forums are helpful and also a bit scary sometimes. I also just received genetics test results that I am CHK-2 positive. I am having test for a larger panel in case there are any other genetic variants. I have two daughters who are 8 and 11...I am 45....so I am trying to care for myself and also feel bad that they may have inherited this from me. Only one family member of mine (a living aunt who had the same cancer at same age as me), as far back as my family remembers, has ever had cancer....so its frustrating that it has popped up in me. But I guess it's time to move on and do what I need to do. Hanging in there and waiting for surgery.

    BTW....I have read some posts about feeling helpless and feeling like it is spreading. I started growing broccoli sprouts. It supposedly stops the cancer from spreading and could potentially kill the cells. Who really knows, but at least I feel like I am doing something to help the cause for now. :) And it's fun to grow them.

  • SarahNola
    SarahNola Member Posts: 47
    edited November 2018

    hi ladies! happy to have found y’all! I have a BMX scheduled for 11/30.

  • MCBaker
    MCBaker Member Posts: 1,555
    edited November 2018

    Welcome, Sarah.

    Kstine, those broc sprouts might be just the placebo I need. All of the cruciferous vegs are good. https://www.drfuhrman.com/library/eat-to-live-blog...

    I am going to help the church ladies get ready for a funeral luncheon today, so I can talk about my fears of being alone during recovery. Probably why they called me, now that I think about it.

  • Jayco921
    Jayco921 Member Posts: 1
    edited November 2018

    I would like to be added to the November group. I was dx’d with IDC in early October. What a whirlwind this has been. Having my bmx on November 19. I believe I will have TE’s but DTI would be awesome. Looking forward to sharing support as we are all on this journey together.

  • MCBaker
    MCBaker Member Posts: 1,555
    edited November 2018

    I just received a phone call from the clinic. They were finalizing the pre-authorization request and ordering supplies. Wanted to know if I was sure I wanted unilateral. I explained again that lefty faithfully fed my two babies for a total of five years, and that means a lot to me, for the same reason that I want to keep righty's nipple if possible. Righty never delivered as much milk, because of a biopsy when I was 18. Maybe the nipple can go, was always a bit deformed because of medical stupidity.

    Edited to add:

    I start thinking of medical stupidity, and noted that I see more left-sided BC here. I looked it up, and sure enough, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2315217 Probably because the left side is more able to steal blood supply being closer to the heart. I have/had two second degree relatives, the genetics are not that strong. I think it is due to the mangling that happened when I was 18. But genetic testing might reveal something.

  • crossh
    crossh Member Posts: 44
    edited November 2018

    I'm having prophylactic nipple sparing BMX and pre-pectoral TEs on November 9 with silicone implants when ready to replace TE. Four days away and I'm pretty much freaking out. I guess that's normal :). Will try to post after with updates.

  • JennieKeaton
    JennieKeaton Member Posts: 80
    edited November 2018

    I don't know how to add my name to the list above - my surgery was 10/24, but I just found this group. Had bilateral mastectomy with tissue expanders. Starting chemo 11.27.

  • evily
    evily Member Posts: 63
    edited November 2018

    Greetings to all the new group members! My apologies for being delinquent in adding you to the list; I was on vacation in lovely Jamaica and just got back last night, so I'm getting caught up. Everyone should be added now. :)

    Wishing good luck to mnsotamom74, Dovely, Dyannah, and crossh this week!

    Today I have my pre-surgery lymphadema evaluation, and tomorrow I meet with the genetic counselor. Things are moving quickly now!

    MCBaker, you and I are in similar situations in that we will both be recovering from this surgery alone. Yes I have friends who have offered to help, but I would prefer someone medically knowledgeable to help me with wound care and such. So I am definitely going to look into having a home health care aide come visit me post-surgery.

  • JennieKeaton
    JennieKeaton Member Posts: 80
    edited November 2018

    MCBaker and evily - tomorrow I am two weeks post op. I live alone, and have been very independent. My mother came to stay with me for surgery - I expected it to be a week or two - looks like it's going to be another two (total of four weeks). I have to honestly say I don't know how I'd be doing this alone. The biggest issues for me have been the chest/torso tightness and weakness to lift, etc. For example, I didn't even have the strength to lift up or put down the sofa recliner. Little things like that. Perhaps I could do more if forced, but I honestly have been less able on my own than I thought. The worst day was the second morning after I came home - I was so stiff I couldn't get out of bed and down the hall alone - I simply couldn't move well enough. Don't want to scare you - just hope this helps you plan some.


  • JennieKeaton
    JennieKeaton Member Posts: 80
    edited November 2018

    MCBaker and evily - tomorrow I am two weeks post op. I live alone, and have been very independent. My mother came to stay with me for surgery - I expected it to be a week or two - looks like it's going to be another two (total of four weeks). I have to honestly say I don't know how I'd be doing this alone. The biggest issues for me have been the chest/torso tightness and weakness to lift, etc. For example, I didn't even have the strength to lift up or put down the sofa recliner. Little things like that. Perhaps I could do more if forced, but I honestly have been less able on my own than I thought. The worst day was the second morning after I came home - I was so stiff I couldn't get out of bed and down the hall alone - I simply couldn't move well enough. Don't want to scare you - just hope this helps you plan some.


  • MCBaker
    MCBaker Member Posts: 1,555
    edited November 2018
  • Dyannah
    Dyannah Member Posts: 52
    edited November 2018

    I am sorry not to have been around to support you lady's. My brain is still trying to grasp it sll

  • borogirl
    borogirl Member Posts: 86
    edited November 2018

    Had my pre-op at hospital today and was able to speak with anesthesiologist about possibility of nerve blocks for surgery. He said he has no issue with doing Pecs 1 and Pecs 2 nerve blocks and said it “substantially” reduces pain. Should reduce nausea after surgery and need for opiods for pain. My BS and PS didn’t really have much opinion about it and said to check with anesthesia people. Very happy to be able to have this option.

    Prayers for all of you having your surgery this week and hope all who have already had theirs are felling better everyday.


  • RB_NY73
    RB_NY73 Member Posts: 1
    edited November 2018

    Hello, November Warriors!!

    I would be ever so grateful to be part of this group as I am having surgery on November 13th... same day as evily. I am 45 and a wife and mother of two (20&17). So glad to have found this thread for information, encouragement and support!

    Even though I was very recently diagnosed; and with much dilemma and consideration of all the pros and cons for myself personally... I have decided to go with a lumpectomy with radiation. Mainly based on my recurrence percentage wise rate being the same with either procedure. I was fortunate to be able to get this surgery date before my family leaves for vacation on the day after Thanksgiving to NOLA (we've had it planned since the beginning of the summer). Hopefully, I will be fully recovered by then??? I've read it takes a week and a half to two weeks for full recovery if all goes well with no complications. Fingers crossed. What's next if I'm cleared for surgery by my primary?

    So, just spent the day today with my primary for surgical pre-ops... answering questions, doing blood tests and having an EKG. Tomorrow they are placing in my SAVI SCOUT reflector localization device (in lieu of wire localization the day of). I'm told it's the size of a grain of rice and the procedure itself is similar to doing a biopsy. Yesterday, I did a breast MRI that took longer than expected (results came back fine), so it's been a crazy couple of days. Lots happening in a short amount of time.

    I'm hoping I'll have time to take a breath before surgery date as I have been (prior to being diagnosed) coordinating the food and table centerpieces for our Stewardship Campaign Lucheon for 125 members of our church. It will be held on the Sunday the 18th, but I am trying to get most of the hard work done prior to surgery and at the very least be well enough to direct the set up on the day of... as I've heard you're good to resume normal activities by day 3 or 4 after surgery.

    Wishing everyone all the best for smooth surgeries and an even smoother recoveries!!! ♥


  • evily
    evily Member Posts: 63
    edited November 2018

    Welcome RB_NY73! Hopefully we will both have successful procedures on Nov 13! I had a wire-localized surgical biopsy last year and was pretty much okay to resume my usual activities after just a couple of days, so I think you will be okay to supervise your church luncheon. Supervise, don't do any of the heavy lifting (literal or figurative!). :-)

  • evily
    evily Member Posts: 63
    edited November 2018

    borogirl, I am intrigued by this nerve block option. I wonder if it will be an option for me! I have my pre-op on Monday, so I will ask about it then. I would love to reduce nausea and limit my need for heavy pain drugs post-op.

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