Sex and the city- Samantha’s cancer ordeal

Nisha517
Nisha517 Member Posts: 88
edited October 2018 in Humor and Games

Does anyone watch the episodes of when Samantha was diagnosed with cancer and think “that is so unreal.” Yes she had a lumpectomy and had to do chemo, but her behavior and side effects after chemo are so unrealistic. First, she was doing the red devil, and really had no one to take care of her during side effects. At least they didn’t show anyone. Her friends were occupied in their own lives and her boyfriend was usually off shooting movies. In reality, no matter what chemo one gets, they need someone with them at all times to take care of them. We all knew Samantha was a very strong, independent woman so maybe she was an exception, but I’m sure the strongest of woman need an extra hand around the house during chemo. And then the way she would just be out and about as if she hadn’t just had chemo. She was going to movie premieres, parties, drinking. Her life didn’t really change at all, except she shave she her head and started menopause early. I’m just saying, when I watch the SATC cancer episodes, it angers me that they couldn’t get it more accurate. Getting chemo is not glamorous!

Wondering if anyone else out there feels the same way about SATC?

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  • NancyHB
    NancyHB Member Posts: 1,512
    edited October 2018

    I love SATC and after my first dx I watched closely the Samantha cancer episodes. I found them to be wonderfully funny and a little fluffy - pretty sure I wouldn’t have looked that good at a movie premiere! She never appeared to lose her eyelashes or brows (then again even as Samantha I’m sure she had a makeup artist for those events). I loved how she lost her hair on her own terms, and find the episode where Smith shaves her head (then his) to be incredibly touching.

    I had my DH around to help during treatment, but I never needed it. While chemo can be debilitating, I don’t think everyone needs someone during treatment. My husband travelled and I spent plenty of time alone, worked full time, ran races (albeit much slower!) and led yoga practices from time to time. I think that aspect of the episodes are fairly realistic, too.

    Chemo is definitely not glamorous, but I tend to think the way it’s portrayed is true to Sam’s character

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  • Nisha517
    Nisha517 Member Posts: 88
    edited October 2018

    that’s true. Sam was just different. Maybe I’m wishing I was handling chemo as well as her.

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  • Egads007
    Egads007 Member Posts: 1,603
    edited October 2018

    As single mother during my chemo, I managed to juggle the household duties and get meals on the table without outside help. I'm not sure if it was all 'up to par', but I got it done. That isn't to say that for some chemo is entirely debilitating, or that I didn't have my days of exhaustion & tears. I think reactions/managing are different for all cases though...perhaps I carried on as close to normal as possible because I didn't have a choice, my son came first.

    Glamorous, not on your life, it's anything but glamorous. To have it portrayed as glamorous is certainly annoying.

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  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,710
    edited October 2018

    I led a pretty normal like during chemo. My hubs was home in the beginning but when he know I was perfectly fine on my own, he went back to working driving (tour buses) and would be gone 3-6 weeks at a time. My infusions were every Monday, so I worked tues-fri. I continued hosting a Sunday dinner with friends and did two 5k walks.

    I realize I was very lucky to have minimal SE’s but just wanted to say that it does happen sometimes.

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  • Nisha517
    Nisha517 Member Posts: 88
    edited October 2018

    that’s great! I wish that for me and eveeyone

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  • PhoenixCruiser
    PhoenixCruiser Member Posts: 118
    edited October 2018

    Nisha, I hear you and agree.

    I also think some responses here are tone-deaf.

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  • leftduetostupidmods
    leftduetostupidmods Member Posts: 620
    edited October 2018

    I wouldn't have been able to go through chemo all alone without anyone helping me. I could barely walk, Neulasta was kicking my butt, was super fatigued all the time, super chemo brain. Heck, 8 years later I still struggle with life long side effects. People go through it differently, and it drives me nuts when I hear "look at..... they just breezed through" . Also, I think it's very important if chemo is done before or after surgery, as well as (in case of after) how extensive the surgery was. I had BMX with immediate reconstruction, a 11 1/2 hours surgery, then a revision due to complications a month after, and I think I was still far from being recovered from it when I had chemo.

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