Here's what cheezed me off today

Lucky, don't count on it. My husband and yours could be twins in gift giving and this has been going on for 43 years. I did get Christmas gifts the first year we were married. Instead of looking at the sizes of my clothes while I was at work, he described me to the saleswomen. Not one thing fit and there has been nothing since. Not even jewelry. He sees nothing wrong with that scenario.

I feel like this is a silly thing to be upset over...but man it's put a dark cloud over my head. At every step of my process, from finding a lump up until getting my actual diagnosis, I've been told that this is nothing to worry about. At the ultrasound, they said they were certain it was a fibroadenoma, but they still wanted to have it biopsied due to a lobulated edge. I said I wanted it out due to it's size so we just scheduled the excision w/o needle biopsy. I never asked for the U/S report because I didn't think it would have anything meaningful in it. Turns out I had a BI-RADS category 4B with "Suspicious abnormality. Moderate suspicion for malignancy." All is well now and I trust my doctors, but I'm still concerned that they will continue to look at my age and stats and make incorrect predictions about the severity of my disease in future.

I've nearly died twice in the last 2 years because doctors wouldn't believe me when I said something was really, really wrong. "You're too young. It's probably nothing." No! I know what nothing feels like! This is not nothing! One nurse at the ER hooked me up to a heart monitor after I spent 9 hours in the waiting room with (what we eventually discovered was) a blood clot in my lung and said, "Oh! So you weren't faking it?"....Really?!

My primary care physician (who has been with me for all of my diagnoses) told me that she now treats me as if I am a very healthy woman in my 50s or 60s, as it seems to be a better assumption as far as diagnosis goes. I wish I could convince my other doctors to think the same way. It would make me feel a bit better when they discuss likely outcomes.

Not exactly about BC but kinda, here's what pissed me off today.

Brothers and I have been busting our butts doing close to 24/7 at severely ill dad's bedside. Sister, who has been in Florida for the last 3 or 4 weeks "to pack up the winter house for the season" comments that she would have been home sooner to help but her husband wanted to spend some quality time together. WTF? She and her husband are both retired and in good health. I have a part-time job, a kid still in school and a husband working 60 hours a week while in treatment for advanced melanoma. I have a 50-50 chance getting 5 more years with my hubby (even assuming I don't have a recurrence) and you two need quality time?!

Lulu, I agree with Rocky. Your sister's behavior sounds very selfish

I am so peeved off this morning. Had to call the police about a neighbor playing music so loud I could hear it over my bedroom fan which was on high last night. The person who answered the call acted as if it was an imposition for her to take the complaint. The ditz actually had the nerve to tell my hubby that if the music stopped to call back and let them know. My hubby almost said to them "Am I supposed to stay up all night just so the you don't have to send an officer over to enforce the noise ordinance?" Running on about three hours of sleep because of it.

My mom cheezedboth me and my hubby off this week. She took what was supposed to be a simple birthday party for her and tried to make it a big production.

(((((((Rohanna))))))) Sometimes sitting and crying is the most reasonable response. Is there another test they could do to get answers sooner than 6 months? I would go nuts waiting. I'm really sorry about the loss of your Mommy and all the other important people in your life. That is just way too much to happen in a short time. I'll join you in hating every *&%$ pink ribbon I see.

Awwwwww Rocky, sorry you’ve had such a string of loss and bad news.

Totally agree about the pink ribbon crapola. I like pink clothes, but won’t wear them in October. Much less buy, or support anything with a pink ribbon on it this month.

We are aware. Support research.

Mommy, I would tell FIL that you will have what ever number of cats that you want. They are alot more supportive than he is. He told you that you can't talk about anything other than what he likes to talk about, what a controlling @#$#$. I would be cheezed off as well. Nothing like having a non-supportive FIL.

Rohanna, she's not worried, but she doesn't have these spots growing inside her. I would be cheezed off.

I have been reading this site. You women are warriors. I am so glad this site exists and has been for over 7 years. Wonderful empowering warriors.

Rohanna, you've already had cancer and they want to wait? You're high risk - why would they wait? That's crazy!

We are. That way my new kitten gets to have quality time with Mommy, Daddy and siblings. Plus, she will get a little bit of Turkey just like her elder siblings.