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  • vampeyes
    vampeyes Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2018

    Congrats ksusan on sticking with Keto and being down 14#'s already, that is awesome!!

  • vampeyes
    vampeyes Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2018

    This is a vent:

    Got my blood work results back today. Have to say I am a tad ticked at myself and the nurse practitioner. During my appointment I asked for testing to be done to see why I am anemic or why my rbc and hg were low on the last blood work. I guess I should have specially asked for iron, b12, to be done because she didn't order it. So now my hg and ALP are low, cbc is the bottom number exactly. I googled ALP and being low can mean malnourished, could be low in zinc or other minerals, could be due to anemia....if only we knew what vitamins I am low in so I could fix it. Nope gonna have to call Tuesday for an appointment that will take 3 weeks to get in for more blood work, then another 3 week wait to discuss the results. Dear God I hate our Canadian health care system!

    Sorry just frustrated with the pain and fatigue.

    Happy Thanksgiving fellow Canadians.

  • ksusan
    ksusan Member Posts: 4,505
    edited October 2018
  • vampeyes
    vampeyes Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2018

    I am sorry for being a negative Nellie, I get frustrated and then my emotions take off on me. (Wonder how bad I was before therapy!)

    Anyhoo, just stopping in to share an easy recipe we tried last night. Pared it with cauliflower/broccoli rice - it was the only vegetable in the house. Halibut Smothered in Cream Lemon-Dill Sauce.

    https://docs.google.com/document/d/1pIV9GE19b7k2KY...

    A good change up from all the turkey we will be consuming in the next few days!

  • Egads007
    Egads007 Member Posts: 1,603
    edited October 2018

    Morning Cave Peepers!!

    I'll be posting the continuing wrap saga today, just getting my schhhhhtuff together. This past week has been an absolute biotch….never a dull mo!

    KSuze - WOOT!!! You wrote: "At the end of 11 weeks of keto, I'm down 14#. 11 to go to first goal; 8 beyond that to functional end goal" WOOT!!!!! Way to go, you must be so pleased, I know we are! Love the goal setting, big congrats! Aminos taste, well my cavedude says I have a sense of smell and taste like a bloodhound. I can pick off the taste of sugar from 20 paces, and always thought it was because of having so little of it for years now. The other thing may be the brand I used (Naked Coconuts & another I can't remember the name of). Brand to brand can make big differences with paleo cooking. I didn't realize there could be a genetic component (or even knew there was to taste).....can you expand further? Sounds very interesting!

    Vampriella - I have no clue why I responded to your blood work issue in PM and not here LOL! Your previous doc advised against walk in clinics for sensible reasons...folks want a doc to follow and be knowledgeable about individual health needs.....history etc... However, and as you know, we have a health care crisis here in Canada, so many without a PCP and can't get one. Leaves us no alternative. For simple stuff like blood work though the results are sent to your PCP in under a week, and they will even review the results with you. My own PCP is over an hour away. If I have a minor sinus infection I'm not waiting 2.5 weeks for an appointment (and worse infection) when I can run into the walk in for a 'script. Keep us posted on your progress! Lemon Cream Dill Sauce.....omg, I'm so trying that recipe!!!!! Did you take a pic??

    Btw....negative Nellie?? I think not! This is a safe cave for venting....all part of the lifestyle, so vent away Nellie LOL!!

    Happy Thanksgiving for any and all Canadians reading along! As usual I'm totally unprepared and running around like a turkey with it's head cut off.... and after all the wrap making attempts.it's looking like turkey wraps LOL

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  • ksusan
    ksusan Member Posts: 4,505
    edited October 2018

    I don't know if there's a genetic component, but there is for cantaloupe, cilantro, and unnatural sweeteners.

    I'm using Coconut Secret, FWIW.


  • Egads007
    Egads007 Member Posts: 1,603
    edited October 2018

    KSuze - a genetic component in how these items may react with a one’s sense of taste? That, to some, these foods may taste different than what the average joe may taste? Pardon my ignorance...and sorry if I’m pestering...just find it pretty darned interesting!

  • ksusan
    ksusan Member Posts: 4,505
    edited October 2018

    Yup. E.g., I find Diabetisweet (isomalt) bitter and not sweet, whereas lovely wife's family perceives it as just like sugar.

    It's now thought that finding cantaloupe and cilantro disgusting has a genetic component.

  • Jadedjo
    Jadedjo Member Posts: 469
    edited October 2018

    Vampeyes 

    Still lopsided but not as obvious. Thank you.

  • InnaB2018
    InnaB2018 Member Posts: 1,276
    edited October 2018

    Vampeyes, thanks for the halibut recipe! Just made it and it was a big hit with my family.

  • ksusan
    ksusan Member Posts: 4,505
    edited October 2018

    Tonight, scallops with lemon. Maybe some cheese.

    I've written to my PCP to say that after my labs next Monday, I want to discuss how to cut down the animal products and go more Mediterranean.

  • Egads007
    Egads007 Member Posts: 1,603
    edited October 2018

    KSuze- Now that's very cool...and has had me reading up on genetics most of the evening. The very first time I tasted cilantro and cumin I gagged. Now I can't live without those two, although cumin only in combination with other ingredients. Cantaloupe I could eat until I burst. Like you, I find artificial sweeteners yuck...taste sweet for seconds and turn to a bitter burnt taste, have tried them all and can't do them. Mediterranean is a nice way to go, eating that Paleo folks give a thumbs up to....let us know what the doc says.

    Inna (godda davida) - how are you doing with the rads darlin'?

    Jade - Good to see the size diff is receding. When is your first check up happening?

    Sorry for not posting the continuing wrap saga kids. I hit a brick wall today and didn't have it in me to do much more than chill....after finally getting caught up on paperwork and thanksgiving prep. Whew! We're going sideways with turkey day and having something completely out of the box. As usual I'll post that too...and the wrap thingy. My cavedude is starting to call me a wrap star....Tuwrap Forsure. :))))))


  • JKL2017
    JKL2017 Member Posts: 437
    edited October 2018

    Egads -- our own (w)rap star! Happy Thanksgiving to all you cave-dwelling Canadians!

    BTW, I have a friend who NEVER eats cilantro; says it tastes like soap to her.

  • Egads007
    Egads007 Member Posts: 1,603
    edited October 2018

    JKL!!! So happy to see you post! Bet that 4yr old is keeping you busy! Let us know 'sup on your side if you get a mo.

    Edited to add: If I bake with a predominantly coconut flour based recipe the finished product tastes like I’m chewing on a bar of Ivory soap. My cavedude doesn’t get this at all. I googled it and I’m not alone. The theory is that most soap products include coconut oil. Although you can’t smell it, people like me unconsciously pick up the scent. Scent and taste is tied...so eating a coconut flour cookie all I taste is soap. Strangely enough this only occurs with oven baked goods.At least I don’t blow bubbles :))))

  • InnaB2018
    InnaB2018 Member Posts: 1,276
    edited October 2018

    I am one of those people who can’t eat cilantro. My daughter with her two science degrees says that people like me lack the enzyme that helps taste and digest it. To me, it tastes like wet dishrag.

    Rads start next week. In the meantime I am on day 6 of the horrible Pylera antibiotic. 4 more days and I am done! Nausea and dry mouth are my regular companions now. But I have to do it to protect myself from stomach cancer. Talk to you later ladies! Time to take another pill.

  • ksusan
    ksusan Member Posts: 4,505
    edited October 2018

    Best wishes for a peaceful night, Inna.

  • JKL2017
    JKL2017 Member Posts: 437
    edited October 2018

    Egads, that 4 year old turns 5 on Wednesday & is truly the cutest kid on the planet. She facetimed me today to show me her Halloween costume (she will be an owl - in a tutu!) & to practice saying "WHOO will give me candy?" That child is truly my heart.

    I picked the worst week to eat clean. I totally forgot my birthday was last week so I didn't get to eat my own birthday cake! But DGD4 will have cake on Wednesday so I'll go to "Vegas" to celebrate with her. The good news is that I'm finding my groove at the gym again. In fact, I plan to bike for an hour & get in a "bonus" weightlifting session tomorrow. (Gonna work off that birthday cake before I eat it!)

    I'm finding this whole discussion of smell/taste very interesting. So what kind of flour do you use for baking, Egads? I guess we all have our food idiosyncrasies. I seldom use artificial sweeteners because they all taste like chemicals to me. And like you, Egads, I only like cumin when it's combined with other ingredients. By itself it smells like sweat to me!

    Inna, I'm sorry you can't enjoy cilantro - I love it, especially in Tex-Mex (cilantro-lime rice is awesome). Pylera sounds horrible. (I hate taking antibiotics, don't you?) But I'm glad you only have 4 more days. How is everything else going for you?

    Vamp, I plan to try your halibut recipe next week. It sounds really good (mmm, dill). Sorry about the whole blood work saga - hope you get answers soon! It's funny, just today I read a FB post lauding the Canadian health system as vastly superior to our American one. I've always been pretty happy with my medical care/coverage but I know it can get really expensive for many people. Guess no system is perfect.

    JJo, hang in there. You're doing great! Let us know how your next appointment goes.

    And Ksusan, congratulations on your big weight loss. Way to go!!!

    I wish the U.S. celebrated Thanksgiving in October. With Christmas shopping, decorating & entertaining I always feel like I don't have time to relax & enjoy Thanksgiving in November. Maybe next year I'll celebrate with Canada!

  • vampeyes
    vampeyes Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2018

    Inna I am with you, I don't know what it is about cilantro, but YUCK! Hope you are feeling better soon, nausea is such a horrible feeling! So glad you enjoyed the Halibut recipe too.

    JKL - so nice to see you around the cave! If you can get a video of her in her costume doing the Whoo will give me candy routine - those videos are the best to watch when they get older. I have many of the twins - one that sticks out is them drinking pickle juice at age 4 from the jar. Yes I have weird kids and I love them to death!

    Jade - Glad to hear the swelling is going down. How are you otherwise?

    Today we are having our Thanksgiving dinner at my brothers, the Joey gif reminds me of my sil who does this every year. lol I think I will be ok with sticking as close to possible to eating right. The rolls will be hard as I am the the one who makes them and I know they are darn good!

    Today:

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    Tomorrow:

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  • InnaB2018
    InnaB2018 Member Posts: 1,276
    edited October 2018

    Happy Thanksgiving to all the Canadians out there!

    I usually host the Thanksgiving dinner at my house and invite everybody who has no other place to go. That’s why the list of inviters changes every year. There are some people who come all the time, though, like my parents and close family friends. Sometimes people bring their elderly parents as well. My husband calls Thanksgiving and New Year our geriatric parties, because I do that for the New Year as well. I do make one mean turkey, though

  • Jadedjo
    Jadedjo Member Posts: 469
    edited October 2018

    Hello all

    Small update that probably isn't going to be a happy one and is ,well,gross.

    In the last 24 hours I've had a lot of white stuff (looks like tissue) coming out of the right drain which doesn't seem to be decreasing at all and unfortunately it has turned the fluid milky pink and thick in the tubes. Nurse is coming tommorow and I will be asking straight up if this is a sign of infection like I think it is. So this mastectomy story may not end as well as I was hoping. Should have known better really.

    Will keep the surgery post updated for sure.

    Thanks to all

  • InnaB2018
    InnaB2018 Member Posts: 1,276
    edited October 2018

    I had something looking like snot in my drains all the time. My doctor said it’s ok. Mine was bloody, though. Good luck!

  • Egads007
    Egads007 Member Posts: 1,603
    edited October 2018

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    Morning Peeps!

    I think it's fitting that the Canadian Thanksgiving lands smack dab on Vegas Monday. Perfect timing! Those north of the border may have some confessions to get off their chest, I do. While nothing I consumed was off the Paleo list, I probably ate enough carbs yesterday to fill out my week.

    Before I get to my transgressions.....

    Inna (godda davida) - My bad, I thought you'd already started rads. The Pylera is mighty strong stuff, and I'm sorry to read you're suffering the tummy side effects. When my friend took it she suffered the same....the smell of food was enough to drive her around the bend. Hang in sweetie....hugs! LOL@ geriatric thanksgiving & new year...I bet those folks love your mean turkey!! Last Christmas holidays we visited my MIL in her nursing home and were invited for a sit down meal.....it was ghastly! They could have used you in the kitchen.

    Vampriella - LOL @ the thanksgiving gifs! You think we'd learn over the years not to stuff ourselves along with the turkey. No wonder your SIL wears 'buffet pants'! Did you cave into the rolls? Joining me in a much needed clean week?

    JKL - Awwwwwww, that's too cute!! Whooo will give me candy, what a sweetie! If you do get vid of her (as Vamp suggested) I'd LOVE to see you post...or even a pic of your little heart angel! You asked about what flour I use.....predominantly almond flour, but I find a mix to give the best results (wee bit of coconut flour to adsorb excess oil from the almond, bit o' tapioca or arrowroot flours) It really depends on what I'm making. A flour post will be coming soon...just in time to overeat at Christmas :)))))) As for the US Thanksgiving, I have to agree with you. I've often wondered what it must be like for you folks to have to prepare a huge meal (planning, cooking etc..) then go thru Black Friday followed just a few weeks later by the Christmas season......by Jan 1st you must be exhausted!! I'll echo Vamp, good to see you post, your words are missed!

    Jade - I'll say it again, so glad I didn't have to have drains. I checked out the link a member posted on your thread and it looks as if what you're experiencing could be normal part of the process. Please let us know what the nurse says today.....crossing fingers and toes it's not infection, that would be so unfair following the nasty cold you have!


    Ok, so on to my Vegas confession....I ate too much, too many carbs, thankfully I was running squeaky clean beforehand. It was worth it. We didn't do the classic turkey meal....I HATE turkey (love turkey soup and gravy, go figure). So we did a radical switch and went Paleo upscale (or what our idea of upscale is :)))))) Here is a visual.....

    Starter - Spicy Butternut apple/pear soup, (coconut cream/olive oil drizzle, toasted pine nuts & sumac garnish).....so good, spicy, warm and perfect for fall!!

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    Main - Homemade spinach/ricotta/chicken ravioli, (all paleo...the 'crust' was amazing!, recipe coming soon) Served with sautéed garlic spinach/grape tomato and a sweet potato/onion/cinnamon waffle....

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    Happy endings.....Chocolate coffee cheese cake bites with hazelnut crust (I could live off of these babies!)…

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    Traditional Thanksgiving? Not in the least! I think y'all might have gathered from a few of my posts that conventional wouldn't exactly describe me :)))) All in all a pretty darned good meal.....left us stuffed....and with leftovers yay!!

    Back atcha' later....I've got to wrap up the wrap post ;)))

    Have a great day Cavies!!


  • Jadedjo
    Jadedjo Member Posts: 469
    edited October 2018

    Thanks all,I wish it was nothing but I've noticed that the bra is also feeling tighter so there's some growing swelling too. Don't know when nurse is coming. It seems like the cold was playing tricks too as I'm getting a sore throat again and the cough is getting deeper. Can't win for losing I guess.

  • JKL2017
    JKL2017 Member Posts: 437
    edited October 2018

    Egads, give me a minute to wipe the drool off my Kindle screen. (Your food looks amazing!) I will definitely be trying your recipes (although not for Thanksgiving, since I love turkey). Those cheesecake bites ... I am going to dream about them!

    As for confessions, I ate clean all week (as I whined earlier, no birthday cake) but I did eat too much at times. I found a new local source for paleo products (sounds like I'm buying illegal drugs, doesn't it?) & went a little crazy. Purchases included some dark chocolate cups that were so good I now know I cannot buy them often. My willpower doesn't stand a chance against good chocolate. Oh, well. At least I am back at the gym.

    JJo, hope you get an answer to your drain issues.

    Inna, I love your inclusive Thanksgivings. When I lived in Colorado Springs, we used to invite cadets from the Air Force Academy to join us. Loved having all those gorgeous young men at my table!

  • vampeyes
    vampeyes Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2018

    I will confess that I did go to Vegas. I did so good through dinner and afterwards but then I got hungry, really hungry and the was nothing to grab to eat that was good for me. I tried and will continue to do so.

    Inna my brother is like that, you never know who will be at Christmas or Thanksgiving. I think it's wonderful that there are people who do it.

    Egads - those pictures look good enough to eat, looking forward to the recipes!

  • Egads007
    Egads007 Member Posts: 1,603
    edited October 2018

    Alrighty then, let us begin with dessert ;)

    Chocolate coffee cheese cake bites

    Below will yield 1-2 large-ish servings, or about 6-8 mini cups. I tripled the ingredients and made about 19 mini bites.

    Crust

    • 3 tablespoons almond flour (I used 50/50 almond & hazelnut flour)
    • 2 teaspoons cocoa powder
    • 2 teaspoons (or more) sweetener of choice (I used honey)
    • 1/8 teaspoon coffee, optional (I used espresso fine grind)
    • pinch of salt
    • 2 teaspoons melted grass-fed butter
    1. Lightly toast almond flour in a dry skillet or pan over medium heat, until fully golden and fragrant (2-4 minutes). This is very important taste-wise, so don't skip!
    2. Transfer toasted almond flour to a small bowl and cocoa, sweetener, coffee and salt. Add in butter, mix with pastry cutter, fork or finger tips, mix until thoroughly combined. Press into serving dish (wine glass or mini paper muffin liners), and refrigerate while you make the cheesecake.

    Cheesecake

    • 2 1/2 tablespoons sour cream
    • 5 tablespoons cream cheese at room temperature
    • 2 tablespoons grass-fed butter at room temperature
    • 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
    • 2-4 tablespoons sweetener of choice, to taste (I used 1 tbsp honey)
    • 2-4 tablespoons cocoa powder to taste (4 for a darker chocolate version)
    • 1/4 teaspoon coffee (I used ½ tsp of espresso fine grind)
    1. Add sour cream to a medium bowl and beat with an electric mixer until whipped (2 minutes). Set aside.
    2. Add cream cheese and butter to a medium bowl and beat with an electric mixer until fully creamed. Add vanilla extract, sweetener, cocoa (to taste) and coffee (optional). Beat until just combined.

    Instructions

    Combine whipped sour cream. Pipe or spoon cheesecake mixture into the crust liners. Freeze for 20-30 minutes or refrigerate for a couple hours (or overnight). Keep in the fridge for up to 4 days, and into the freezer afterwards.

    Notes

    • Cream cheese cocoa blending: If you use the whisk attachment of your immersion blender like I did, use a DEEP bowl. My kitchen looked like something out of an episode of Dexter when I hit the on switch :)))
    • These are best frozen then left the thaw for 10 minutes before serving. Keeps beautifully in freezer for 3 months.

    Spicy roasted butternut apple & pear soup

    • 1 small medium to large butternut squash
    • 2 medium tablespoons coconut oil, or olive oil
    • 1 apple – peeled, cored and rough chop
    • 1 pear - semi hard, peeled, cored and rough chop
    • 2 large shallots ( or 1 big onion)- rough dice
    • 5 fat garlic cloves – rough chopped
    • 1 tablespoon fresh gingeroot – rough chopped
    • See notes below for more spicing options
    • 2 cups veggie stock
    • 2 cups water ( or a ¼ -½ cup less for a thicker soup)
    • 1 teaspoon kosher salt
    • 2 teaspoons maple syrup (REALLY OPTIONAL, when I add the soup is too sweet for my liking, add in increments to taste).
    • 1 teaspoon apple cider vinegar - don't miss this one, lifts the flavour
    • Garnish- pumpkin seeds (or toasted nut of choice), sumac, paprika or smoked paprika, coconut milk, sautéed diced apple all optional. This soup is fine all on it's own!

    Instructions

    • Preheat oven to 425F
    • Split the butternut in half lengthwise, place open side down, on a greased or parchment lined, rimmed sheet-pan. Roast 30 minutes or until easily pierced with a fork, through the skin at the top, narrow end.
    • While the butternut is roasting, chop the onion, apple, garlic and ginger.
    • Heat coconut oil in a large heavy bottom pot or Dutch oven, over medium heat.
    • Add onion, apple & pear and cook 5 minutes, stirring, then add garlic and ginger, and cook 4-5 more minutes, add spices of choice (see notes below) and cook for 1 minute more turning heat down to med low. It will smell divine. Turn heat off.
      • When butternut is tender, flip them over, let them cool down, enough to handle, then scoop out seeds. Scoop out flesh and place in a bowl, you should have 3 ½ to 4 cups.
      • Add the apple pear onion mixture to the same bowl.
      • blend with the stock and water, in batches, until very smooth, using a blender ( Hold lid down tight with a kitchen towel) If you like a thicker soup, add less water, thinner soup, more water. Immersion stick blender is faster
        • Add the blended soup back into the same pot and warm over low heat. Add salt, maple, apple cider vinegar. Taste.
          • To serve, divide among bowls, spoon heated coconut milk over top ( or stir some into the pot) sprinkle with pumpkin seeds & sumac powder( optional).

          Notes

          Spicing this soup is up to the chef. I added turmeric for better colour, a teaspoon of garam masala, ½ tsp nutmeg, ancho chilli powder and cayenne for heat. I never spice the same way twice….but love the results. Make sure to sauté spices with the onion apple mix, makes a big difference.

          Garnish - Add a dollop of coconut milk on outside edge of poured soup and run a knife in circulation motion to create the white ‘streaks’, drizzle olive oil the same way. Sprinkle a line of nuts and spice of choice through Center.

          If you have a vitamix soup is ready in 6 minutes after squash is roasted and sauté of veg are done. I chucked it all in the vitamix and walked away. Damned impressive machine.

          Leave this on the thick side and you have a perfect sauce for spiralized noodles, or for saucing fish & chicken.

          If your soup is too thick just thin with stock or water.

          Freezes beautifully, make plenty, winter is long.

          Ravioli recipe to follow.....dashing out for a bit.


        • Egads007
          Egads007 Member Posts: 1,603
          edited October 2018

          Good morning Cave Chicks!

          Popping in, KSuze's addiction in a cup right by my side, to SHOUT OUT to JKL

          JKL - I've never been the brightest crayon in the box and that may explain why it took forever for something you wrote to click in my head....

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          Happy belated birthday JKL!!!! I hope your day was a good one....even without the cake!!! 1000 apologies for not mentioning it and I hope you're not feeling...……

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          Next year you get the biggest piece of cake!!!

          Hugs n' love to our Lifer!!

        • InnaB2018
          InnaB2018 Member Posts: 1,276
          edited October 2018

          Happy Birthday, JLK!

        • Egads007
          Egads007 Member Posts: 1,603
          edited October 2018

          Tuesday just wouldn't be Tuesday without...……...

          TWO CENT TUESDAY!! - Bare Naked Lady

          As children, my sister and I couldn't have been further apart in character. Case in point, at 5 years of age she marched on to the public school auditorium stage and said…."good evening ladies and gentlemen, and welcome to the Spring Fling. Please stand to sing Oh Canada" With her index finger pointed straight in the air she finished with "I'll lead". 5 years old and had enough chutzpah to sink a battle ship!

          Then there was me, at the same age, same show, different year, dressed like a bumble bee with a yellow bucket in hand. All I had to do was run out on stage and pretend to drop honey from my bucket into a big honey barrel center stage. I got approximately 5 feet out when terror struck. Half a century later I CLEARLY remember the outline of the crowd….a hundred people, all dark shadows because the stage lights were in my face. I came to a screeching halt and I think my mouth may have dropped open, chin hitting chest. That's when the crowd started to chuckle. My teacher had to lead my frozen body off the stage……crying. I was convinced they were laughing AT me.

          Today I know my first and last show-biz experience was probably too cute for words, hence the chuckling. However, the yucky preexisting feelings of self doubt & low esteem stuck with me right through my mid 30s. With age came a dimming of the stage spot lights and more self awareness. More confidence. More affirmation of self worth.

          There are remnants though. Days that see me cringing before hitting the 'submit' button on a serious piece, afraid that chuckling may commence, all dressed up like a bee, only for people to point and laugh. I still hate the feeling.

          Loving yourself requires practice, especially for the shy and under-confident. One method is to make yourself vulnerable and hash out reactions to your vulnerability in an attempt to gain strength, even if the reactions are negative. It's not easy to bare your deep dark thoughts, but I thought it time to put a spotlight on mine. Feels good to even type this, a sense of freedom via the keyboard.

          At the risk of sounding like a poor imitation of the Dalia Lama, how do we learn to accept and love ourselves? How to throw out the yuckiness of self doubt when it strikes on occasion? Is true love of self even possible? Maybe even a little dangerous?

          What say y'all?

        • JKL2017
          JKL2017 Member Posts: 437
          edited October 2018

          Thought-provoking as usual, Egads. You started me thinking about why we do the things you described.

          Too many people in our lives erode our confidence in ways both large & small. If those individuals have too much power over us (because, for example, they are our parents, spouses or bosses) it can be difficult to overcome their effect on us. It's impossible to accept & love yourself if those close to you tell you that you're not worthy of either.

          The challenge is in reclaiming our self-confidence. First, we have to clear our lives of toxic relationships. Then we need to rebuild our belief in ourselves: through education (a degree or certification verifying your expertise); accomplishment (doing your job or something else well); or validation by others (finding people who support & respect you without feeling a need to change you). Once you become confident, you will see yourself as deserving.

          I see self-acceptance as the key. No self-doubt allowed! When you have doubts (as you're pressing "submit"), don't think of it as doubting yourself. You are simply questioning something you are about to do, not who you are. Doubt can be healthy. It forces us to think, to analyze & justify our values, even to grow. And we need to expect opposition at times since people are never going to agree about everything!

          Self-love without some doubt is just narcissism. (I don't think this requires further amplification!)

          Sorry for going on & on. Being retired obviously provides me with a lot of free time to consider these things!

          DH has fish & veggie kabobs on the grill so it will be a tasty paleo night in Northern Virginia! And thanks for the birthday wishes!

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