Anyone else feel insecure after everything was done??

KayS - Be kind to yourself....Kay this whole experience is life changing...I dont know yr age, but literally you were handed a diagnosis that in two seconds took your whole world and flipped it upside down or at best, sideways...have you gone to support groups or met other survivors in yr area?

Hang in there. I think we have to accept a new normal, a new us. AT least that's how I looked at it for me. Unfortunately we find out who stands by us and who disappears. I have not told too many people about my having cancer and this has been a year for me also. I don't know how people will react though in some respects I don't care. I guess I don't feel the need to tell many people. When it comes to possible being in a relationship with someone..I would wait until I think how I feel about the person and if I would want it to go further then I'd bring it up. At some point they would notice it Think love me and accept me for how I look, for how I feel is what we need. I need to know it doesnt matter to them I'm not perfect. I wasn't before, now it's just a little more visible.

Local chapter of American Cancer Society may have support groups listed. Even hospital where you had surgery. Google breast cancer support group near me..even add young to the description.

KayS, it sounds like you have close friends and family, and love and time are great healers. The fear of recurrence is always there, but sometimes it's worse. I cried this morning because my spine hurts (I've never had back aches) and I'm getting results of bloodwork tomorrow. It wears you down, and if it weren't for my husband, I'd crash, but I keep hoping that everything will be OK and that the insecurity will lessen over time. I try to do stuff I love because it keeps my mind off cancer and it's a good idea anyways! Maybe there's something like that that would help your new self grow.

Kay - I found a support group at church. The ladies are awesome. It’s comforting to be part of a group that identifies what you are feeling and dealing with. We follow each other’s progress and everyone has a story to tell. Recently one of the ladies shared with us about her daughters being tested positive for the BC gene. We are all supporting her and offering shoulders to cry on. I don’t think anyone understands better than ones who are DX with the same disease.,

Also, the cancer center where I had treatments has a support group as well. It’s so therapeutic. My DH is supportive but he doesn’t really understand totally.

Diane

I believe it's especially difficult for the younger people who have breast cancer. Some people share all aspects of their life with family members and Friends. I am not one of those people. I tend to be very private. I Share my cancer diagnosis and treatment with a few close people. There aren't many support groups for women in their thirties or early forties. Part of the reason, thank goodness there isn't a high percentage of women with breast cancer in their thirties and early forties. I find the Susan Komen Foundation to be an excellent resource. They will hook you up with a mentor in your age group with a similar diagnosis. American Cancer Society might be beneficial also.

Here Here! I'm with you Salamandra -- my Prince Charming needs a label and to fall out of the sky indeed!