Just diagnosed - Can’t. Stop. Crying. (41yo)

You remind me so much of where I was 4 years ago- diagnosed with stage 1, grade 2 breast cancer.

I was 44 and had 3 young kids. I lost a lot of weight due to anxiety and struggled to get out of bed. My psychologist persuaded me to go on antidepressants. I stuck to this for a year and then got off them. I have had many ups and downs since my diagnosis!!!

You have a really good prognosis and should plan on doing well. The shock will fade away!!!

Take care

So sorry ur here. Take a breathe, know u have our support. I like u couldnt stop crying, left work on a friday and cried all weekend when I first found out. Than cried ever time I heard a result or tried to talk about my dx. Felt like my life was out of control. But actual it was all the pieces of a plan to get healthy and take control of the cancer diagnoses. I believe when I was first diagnosed my mind was going thru flight bcuz I was frighten and now I'm fighting cancer with knowledge to make the best choices. . Ive been thru chemo heading to surgery in Oct. with great support formus here, family, friends and all my doctors. My suggestion talk about it..cyber hugs. be kind to urself.

sadlynews2018, I read thru ur posting and see u found August group for surgery and started a Oct. Chemo group. If u have any questions I'm in the April chemo group and we would be happy to give you suggestions. I have a port it was placed 2 days before chemo started. At first neck soreness/ bruised from them placing it which lasted a few days and than slowly I adjusted to the port. I like it, put some lidocaine on about an half hour before chemo and I dont feel the pokes. Best recommendation thru chemo, always ask ur doc. Or infusion group questions, they can recommend things to try doing chemo. Example, I had headaches my first time after infusion. I called my doc. She told me what to do and they change my pre.- medication from zofran to Kytril during infusion.

Sending good vibes and may u have a peaceful weekend .

unfortunately, I find myself crying way more now non stop after chemo started. I was in shock, sad, mad when I was first diagnosed, but the doctors kept saying I’ll beat this and be fine so I thought ok cool no big deal. And when the doctors and nurses would tell me the chemo side effects, they seriously made it sound like it wasn’t too bad and I may not even get side effects, so again I thought ok cool no big deal. Then once chemo started, the flood gates opened. I think it was then I realized what I was really dealing with. I’m not saying this to scare anyone, just saying this was my experience of when the reality of having BC really hit m

thank you, meow13. Yes, there’s just so much info and contradicting info. I honestly didn’t do much research before now, but after the second chemo really kicked my butt, I’m trying to educate myself more. I also told my husband that he needs to make sure i follow a schedule for medicines to take to help the SE’s. He would try to get me to take medicine before, however I kept denying it so I wouldn’t be adding more drugs to my body. But now I read on this site how important all those medications are.

Sadlynew2018- I won’t lie, once the chemo starts, it will be tough. But that’s great you are preparing yourself! I will pray that your SE’s won’t be that bad!

Rachelcarter35- staying positive is so hard! Our lives have been turned upside down. How do we stay positive?

hey sweetie hang in there we are here for you been there but have Hope that what got me thru. I am now a 24yr Survivor Praise God. Sorry you are here. msphil idc stage2 0/3 nodes Lmast 3mo chemo before and after got married we were planning at diagnosis was 42yrs old 43 when treatment was done.Use me for Inspiration sweetie.rads 7wks 5yrs on Tamoxifen

Sadlynew2018, you hit the nail on the head. People can help you and offer advice all they want, but unless they have had a cancer diagnosis themselves, they just don’t understand. I felt like this too. People try to be helpful and understanding, but all I could think was, yeah, you have no idea what you’re talking about.

I went through several stages of grief and anger, sadness and agony... I’ve learned that that’s Normal. It will get better, I promise. I’m 1.5 years out from That dreadful day, and even though sometimes I get stopped in my tracks if I’m reminded of cancer, I think about what I’ve overcome and what is left for me to do here.

You’ve got this. You have to; there’s no choice. You’ve got in it you, we all do.

Now fight this SOB.

Well wishes coming your way