35 Yrs. Old & Diagnosed with IDC
My husband bugged me into going to the doctor in July due to pain and a small knot. I kept telling him it was no big deal because I was young. Unfortunately, that small knot turned out to be breast cancer so I am very thankful my husband took this seriously.
At the ultrasound, the tumor looked to be about 6mm, but after the biopsy it shows to be at least 9mm. So far, I have seen the surgeon to get the results of the biopsy and receptor test. Based on the results, the tumor is Stage 2, ER/PR + and HER -.
So far I am handling this all fairly well since I am able to research some of this. Hopefully, I will continue to handle this as well as I can, and with a positive attitude. My husband is not handling it as well, but he did lose his father 1.5 yrs. ago to colon cancer as well as one of his good friends being diagnosed with liver cancer. We have not yet told my 6 yr. old son, and to be honest I not know if I want to tell him right now other than Mommy is a little sick....he is a worrier.
I do have to make a decision on what type of surgery I will have. I am pretty uncertain if I will have a lumpectomy or a mastectomy. The surgeon stated that my age throws a bit of a curve ball into the standard treatment.
I have an appointment scheduled with an oncologist and will be requesting genetic testing due to my age, not family history. Hopefully, with a little more information I will be able to make an informed decision.
I would greatly appreciate any feedback on how you all handled the news, decision of surgery, treatment, and beyond.
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Hi Bookworm14. I’m so sorry about your diagnosis. It’s good it was caught early though. It sounds you’re on the right track so far. Once you have your genetic testing it’ll be easier to make the decision on type of surgery. That was and still is the toughest decision for me.
I was diagnosed in July with IDC er+/Pr+ Her2- stage 1. Things moved so fast for me that I had no time to think and I was scheduled for a lumpectomy beginning of August. After a few weeks thinking about it I decided I’d rather have a mastectomy and remove the whole breast than to do a lumpectomy and have the possibility of it coming back. I’m meeting with Plastic surgeon on Tuesday to decide on type of surgery I’m eligible for.
There are different options that I know of but I’m thinking of having reconstruction right away to avoid multiple surgeries. They also told me if I did mastectomy I wouldn’t need radiation. This is also important for me and shifted my decision to have mastectomy.
It’s been a roller coaster of emotions but my family and friends (at least those who I’ve told) have been a Great support.
I’ve been reading a lot of the posts here to see how everyone else is handling things and decisions. It’s been very helpful.
Hang in there. Wish you best of luck
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bookworm, sorry about the news but glad you were able to find this board. I was diagnosed with IDC earlier this month. I'm 41 and still in disbelief. It will get better (the anxiety part) as days past. I was a complete mess the first few days and still am, just to a lesser degree as I continue to learn things. I read a comment on here that made so much sense the other day and wanted to share it. The diagnosis process is a process. And it will frustrate you at times. It takes a while for doctors to gather all the answers. Hang in there for this process. (I'm still in the midst of it). I visit the board when I feel weak. I have a husband and young children as well. It's tough at times to battle and be super mom sometimes but you can do it.
I have my bilateral mascetomy scheduled for next Tuesday. It was just the right decision for me. Everyone is different. You will make the right decision for you - it’s what feels best to you.
Hang in there. And hugs to you.
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Kiso20,
Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post. I have to agree about how fast everything is beginning to move. I meet with the oncologist on Friday to see about genetic testing. While I am leaning heavily towards a mastectomy, I am still not feeling 100% certain. Having a great support seems to be something that would make some of this stuff we are dealing with easier. I wish you the bestwith your appointment on Tuesday and through the rest of your journey.
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Sadlynew2018,
Thanks for taking the time to respond to my post. I have found that this site and community has been extremely helpful the past two weeks. This whole thing just does not seem real. I agree with you about this all being a process and that we just have to get through it. Hopefully, you are getting to a point where you are getting more information about your next steps after surgery. Sending you good luck and best wishes for your surgery Tuesday
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Hi, I was diagnosed on the 8th June (I'm 39 with 2 small kids) IDC 8mm right breast with extensive DCIS. I decided on a bilateral mastectomy for the same reason many do, to reduce the risk of recurrence in the other breast. My decision was based on doing everything possible for the best oncological outcome. That said, there are no guarantees whichever choice you make. Just important to feel most comfortable with your decision. I've since had the Oncotype test, 12 score so no chemo. I'm discussing radiation with my MO because of the very extensive DCIS. Thereafter will start Zoladex and Tamoxifen.
It's a tough journey but each day gets easier. I wish you all the best with your journey.
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I'm so sorry you have to go through this! The decision on lumpectomy or mastectomy is hard. Survival rates are virtually identical. Mastectomy brings the local recurrence risk way down, and radiation brings the local recurrence rate after lumpectomy down as well. Lumpectomy + radiation is not as radical a surgery, but that doesn't mean the choice suggests you wouldn't be doing all you could to protect and prolong your life. And remember--mastectomy remains on the table as an option if you change your mind later. Good luck getting through these tough early days. You really can do it!
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I opted for a lumpectomy, even with an aggressive TN tumor. For me, taking away the entire breast just seemed wrong - I couldn’t get comfortable with the idea, especially because a woman I met had a BMX and less than a year later had a recurrence. However, I understand why people make this choice. I feel that I can make that decision in the future - it is hard to decide.
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VL22 and Okkate75,
Thanks for taking the time to post your thoughts and experiences. I did see a few instances through other members that opted for mx, but still ended up with a recurrence as well as those with lumpectomy. I guess we just have to make the best choice and take a chance that we are doing everything we can to make it through! I think there are pros and cons for each, but it’s can be a difficult choice. I hope that my doctor can provide a bit more info to make the process easier. I hope you are both doing well.
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Palesa28,
Thanks for posting your experience. I do agree with you about making a choice you can be comfortable with. I just wish we could all get that confirmation of “do this and you will be fine”, but I know that none us with have that absolute guarantee. Good luck with your treatment!
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For everyone that posted,
Thank you all for taking the time out of your day to share with me. I greatly appreciate it.
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So sorry to see you are joining the club no one wants to join. My gynecologist in WI was dx with breast cancer at 31 and she had 2 small babies. She had a bilateral mastectomy but that was nearly 30 years ago and treatment choices and standards of care are different now. She's still alive, a grandmother and flying around the country offering free clinic care to women. May you be as fortunate as she is.
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Wallycat,
Thank you for the positive in that post! I hope that with the advances in medicine that I will be able to live a long and happy life!
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Hi, I also was diagnosed with very extensive DCIS this summer. I'm 39, have one little kiddo. I had a bilateral mastectomy on August 15 with node biopsy. Node and margins were clear but a small 4mm invasive tumor was found. Grade 3 and aggressive characteristics. Mastectomy went well (!), but I'll be working through the next steps over the next few weeks. We're waiting to see if they can do the Oncotype test on such a small tumor. I'll definitely be on some kind of endocrine therapy and chemo isn't off the table quite yet. Wishing you and your family the best!
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BT39,
Sorry to hear about your diagnosis, but glad that you are moving forward with your care! I wish you the best in your journey, and thanks for sharing
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Things seem to be moving along smoothly...I had the BRCA test completed two weeks ago and waiting for those results. My doctor requested a PET/CT scan that I completed last Monday. I have not yet heard back directly from the Oncologist, but I did get a copy of the report to my patient portal. Basedon the report the only parts that lit up were the cancer in the left breast and then an area around the sterum. Hoping that this comes back fine. Still uncertain whether I am going for a lumpectomy or mastectomy....I had read that there is a greater chance of the cancer metastasizing within two years when you go through a surgery. Anyone else heard of this?
Hope you all are doing well today.
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Hi Bookworm14, I'm sorry you're dealing with this, but I'm glad you have found us. You and I are about the same age now, although I was diagnosed at 32.
There is some evidence that the inflammation after a surgery can facilitate metastasis - BUT - that does not negate the fact that surgery is the most important piece of treatment for early stage BC. Surgery is the single largest chunk of your survival statistics, and the biggest opportunity to be cured.
Some studies suggest that anti-inflammatory drugs after surgery help to minimize the risk of distant metastasis. You could ask your doctors if it's something they recommend, or maybe others here will chime in who have done it. See: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3831877/
Also, don't worry about your PET scan lighting up yet - I've had PET scans light up, and it turned out to be nothing. PET scans are great, but they are not perfect. We are all wishing you the best as you go through the next steps, please keep us posted.
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Thanks for posting! I kept going back and forth about lumpectomy and mastectomy...but with the report from the doctor of BRCA2+ I guess my decision has been made. He did state that the other section showing up may just be inflammatory, but he would keep an eye on it over the next few months. Thanks for the well wishes, and I hope you are doing well!
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Hi Bookworm 14-- you've gotten a lot of great advice from the folks so far. I guess I'm a bit late in chiming in regarding the lumpectomy and mastectomy as you've gotten your genetic results back. It's really how you feel about your breasts. For me, I couldn't wait to get rid of them since they're trying to throw cancer parties. I didn't want to deal with one side, uneveness, etc., and somehow I had a gut feeling I needed to do a bilateral. It turns out on my "non-cancer" side I had DCIS (working its way towards IDC) and a lot of weird benign stuff going on so it was a good thing I listened to my gut instead of the articles coming out saying women were "taking unnecessary drastic step" of mastectomies. I knew that a bilateral mastectomy was right for me (and I later found out i had a genetic mutation too..bleh....mutant club!).
It sucks having to deal with this, especially at our age, but keep asking questions of your medical team and keep on rockin'!
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Cuetang,
Better late than never as that saying goes! I Am not really attached to my breasts either! In fact, I will be happy to Ben able to move to a smaller size since they are on the larger size! Going with your gut is a good move as we know ourselves better than the doctors ever will, and we are the ones that have to live with the threat of this during our lives, not the doctors. I hadn’t always leaned toward the mastectomy even before the genetic test, but some people thought I was being a bit too aggressive since the tumor was not huge. I was rather glad to have that decision made easier! Thanks for posting and I hope you are doing well
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Hi buttonsmachine,
My DCIS did have a small invasive component (4mm) that's a grade 3 tumor with aggressive traits and a high Oncotype. I will likely be doing 4 infusions of chemotherapy along with tamoxifen and possibly ovarian suppression. I noticed you had issues with it coming back. I'm already worried about this and one of the reasons I want to do the chemotherapy and likely also get a PET scan first. Is there anything else you think would be important to share for someone in this situation? It seems like no matter what you do, sometimes this stuff just comes back when you're under 40 at diagnosis and it's grade 3 with aggressive traits. I would love to find more stories where this wasn't the case, but certainly seems to be the trend. All the best to you.
Thank you!
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You don't have any lymph nodes involved that you know, and with the size of your tumor that would be considered stage 1. (if there are no lymph nodes involved) and you don't get that information until AFTER surgery typically.
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Just a question ladies. Is it bad to wait almost two months from original dx to actually having the mx? My oncologist did not seem very happy, but it took over a month to get a visit with the plastic surgeon and then he said it could take three weeks to schedule the surgery. Guess I am getting a bit worried since all of this began back in late July and now I am not going to be scheduled for surgery until mid October. Then another month for results to see if I need chemo. Seems as though this is taking longer than I expected. How long was your wait
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My wait was around 4 weeks. I initially had a plastic surgeon, but immediately realized I look good flat and should have gone that way to begin with, (Plus the TEs felt foreign and hurt like a MF).. so I had another surgery about 2 weeks later to remove them and be flat and fabulous. Then I started PT about 3 weeks later. I'm doing great 2.5 years later.
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Lisey,
Congrats on hitting 2.5 years! I did think about going flat, but I did not know if I would feel comfortable...big change since the girls are rather large (40 DDD). I think it would be easier all around to go flat and have less surgeries. And added benefit of being able to go without a bra and wearall kinds of shirts with buttons! Dang near impossible to do that now without looking like the Hulk busting out of his clothes!
Just kind of worried that this wait is allowing the tumor to get larger and increase the possibility of cancer. My oncologist said if it is over 10mm then I have to have chemo due to my age. I know on the original biopsy in late July it was already 9mm. Just getting a bit worried about it I guess...told myself I would not do this, but I guess it happens.
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Bookworm, I was diagnosed in August and I am now scheduled for UMX October 25. I am in a bit of a different boat though, the ILC I have is typically slow growing. I also had to wait on a second round of biopsies because this sneaky little monster tends to hide in imaging. We were getting mixed results. The tumor board finally decided my cancer was too big for lumpectomy. I was relieved in a way, because like you in the beginning, I was back and forth with the decision. I think it is perfectly normal to worry, I wish we could all get the whole picture right away. I am a worrier though, theck on some days I worry that I worry too much LOL!! I wish you the best on your upcoming surgery.
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hi bookwarm, i am 40 and it seems unreal to me too. Sometimes i feel that this is a bad bad dream and as i wake up it will disappear. But hoping that as He put in this situation, He will pull it through. It is truly a journey or mustery hunt where one after another test result we come to know something new and hopefully it will help us shape our decisions. I have to do chemo prior to surgery and it is starting tomorrow. Wishing you good luck
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Dani444,
I worry like that as well! My husband says I drive him crazy because I worry so much as worrying he says! It would be so much better if we could just know what is going on in one visit because all of this waiting is worse than the diagnosis! Best wishes and good luck on your surgery! Keep us updated!
BeingPositive,
Sorry that you have joined the club, but I am glad that you are moving forward on your treatment. I do agree that it feels like a dream, especially at first. Unfortunately, I think the dream feeling is moving away and reality is setting in. I think a positive attitude is helping. Best wishes to you
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Having a tough time understanding doctors. Just had my surgery scheduled for October 15th and the oncologist says they will not order the Onco test until after they get the paths. I just do not understand why they would not just order the test so when I go in four weeks after surgery they will have everything. Guess I am getting a little irritated since I was diagnosed on August 3rd and looking at November12th before anyone decides on a treatment plan besides the mx. Has anyone else had to wait like this? Is there not a worry about any stray cells hanging around and no treatment being done during this wait?
Guess it is weird, but I sure would to have all the necessary test completed so after surgery we can go right in with a plan instead of continued waiting for this test and that test.
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Hi Bookworm14, it is possible that they are waiting for the path report before ordering the Oncotype test because the path from the MX will be most revealing. Actual tumor size, confirmation of hormone sensitivity etc. Size will dictate if you go straight to chemo, hormone sensitivity will confirm treatment with Tamoxifen. Remember Oncotype result assumes smaller tumor, early stage and tamoxifen treatment. All of which will be confirmed with your path from surgery, as I understand it.
All the best!
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palesa2018
They did say they would like to wait on the paths, but I guess the closer it gets to surgery the more anxious I am getting! Thanks for responding, and I hope you are doing well
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