Learning to deal with friends just not being there.... :(

Hey I totally get it!

It is like hey guys, did you forget about me over here?

I think that having a cancer diagnosis really brings forth the people who are comfortable with it and will love you as much as they can and it pushes away the folks that we don't need in our lives at this time because they aren't doing us any justice.

I am experiencing a similar experience with an old group of friends that I am now realizing are very wrapped up in unhealthy behaviors. One of them told me she is using drugs because she was too upset by my diagnosis. I cannot deal with this blame and lack of this person's ability to self-reflect. Too much energy that I don't have. Also, sad that she's using drugs. All a bummer!

BUT we get to clean out our bodies and emotional worlds of ALL toxic things - including people! I say a prayer for them, grieve the loss, and have to move on.

Hugs!

I was older when I was DX but it seems reactions or lack of from friends is the same. I get they are afraid. It’s not like we have leprosy but you can’t convinced some people that BC isn’t contagious.

I tried not to be so self absorbed with my DX and I turned to people who had been through it. Several family members including my sister and SIL were also DX.

I found solace with ladies in my church support group. They all understand of course. That helps.

On the home front I kept my game face on so I didn’t alarm my son anymore than I had to. Several of his friends lost their mothers to cancer so he was pretty scared he would too.

Time helps. So far, so good I’m 7 years out this month.

Diane