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  • djmammo
    djmammo Member Posts: 2,939
    edited July 2018

    kangcongrl

    Any results yet?

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  • Cathy1975
    Cathy1975 Member Posts: 35
    edited July 2018

    My results are Tuesday at 2 pm fingers crossed


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  • Cathy1975
    Cathy1975 Member Posts: 35
    edited July 2018

    Update on me. Blood pressure is just about stable 99/68 temp is 99 I'm still really tired tho. Also I got my divorce packet put in the mail today. My husband has been calling and texting but no I'm sry, I'm an ass, forgive me... Nothing!! Just do you want me to come home tonight? No I don't want you to come home, you walked out on me at a very scary time in my life. That shows my I can't count on you. Esp. in a time like this.then I get another text saying can I come home and make love to my wife? I don't have to stay the night or anything? Wtf??? No!!! Why is he playing with my emotions like this? I love him with all of me but I don't feel as though I can depend on him to be here emotionally for me. If I let him come home, how long is it going to be before he gets pissy and leaves again? I thought the point of being married is to be committed to one person, be by thier side through thick and thin, sickness and in health. To be my rock and visa versa. Security, stability and love. Am I wrong????

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  • moth
    moth Member Posts: 4,800
    edited July 2018

    Cathy, I'd suggest both of you not make any quick decisions. This is a stressful time for everyone. You're not wrong but I also think you might be underestimating how terrifying it is for caregivers to find themselves so helpless and worried. We all can react inappropriately when faced with something so scary. Slow down, go to counselling together and individually and take baby steps. I don't think it's reasonable to necessarily expect a partner to always be there, to not be affected, to not want to run away screaming in tears. It's their battle too - be gentle with each other and the mistakes you'll both make.

    best wishes

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  • Cathy1975
    Cathy1975 Member Posts: 35
    edited July 2018

    Thank you Moth,

    I'm very scared an I feel alone even when he's here. He says the wrong things at the worst times. I don't expect him to know everything, I don't. I just want him to understand my fears and try to keep me calm. Instead he starts an argument with me so he can leave and then say it's all my fault he left, when he starts the argument. He's a good man but this is his first marriage and hadn't a clue what he's doing. I just want to feel loved not ignored. And he is a very arrogant man. He thinks he Knows everything about everything and noone can tell him different. I bite my tongue all the time cause not everything needs to be an argument. I pray once I get a diagnosis things will change.. it's just makes my worry that if it's this easy for him to walk away during the waiting period, is he going to be there for me if it is cancer?

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  • Cathy1975
    Cathy1975 Member Posts: 35
    edited July 2018

    Very nervous and going out of my mind today lbvvs. My appointment is tomorrow at 2. Pathology report for my biopsies. Mad, nervous,scared,sad,so many emotions!!! I called surgeon's office this morning and they said Dr has my report and she will go over everything with me in person and I can have a copy of the report when we are done.

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  • nonomimi5
    nonomimi5 Member Posts: 434
    edited July 2018

    Cathy. Sending prayers your way. Good luc

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  • Cathy1975
    Cathy1975 Member Posts: 35
    edited July 2018

    Thank you so much

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  • Cathy1975
    Cathy1975 Member Posts: 35
    edited July 2018

    Hello everyone

    I had the excisional biopsy done today. Feeling sick and very sore

    My freaking ice pack busted so had to take the gauze off ugh.

    Dr cut me along the areola , stitches, glue and steri strips.

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