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agsuitt
agsuitt Member Posts: 20
edited May 2018 in Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts

What do you guys do if this is what you’re me with when you try to talk about your BC? I’m three years out from diagnosis and NED. My husband lost his first wife to BC so I know this has been rough on him. He was a HUGE support during my treatments.

But, when I need to talk about it or I’m worried about something, even if it’s planning for a walk or other BC event, he says he just wants to forget it happened.

I lost a breast, my hair, my teeth, and my entire reproductive system. How exactly do I pretend this never happened?!!!

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  • pupmom
    pupmom Member Posts: 5,068
    edited May 2018

    You lost your teeth??

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  • agsuitt
    agsuitt Member Posts: 20
    edited May 2018

    lots of vomiting and dry mouth caused major dental issues for me. Had to have oral surgery a month after I finished chemo.

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  • pupmom
    pupmom Member Posts: 5,068
    edited May 2018

    How horrible! I hope you heal from all this soon!

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  • moth
    moth Member Posts: 4,800
    edited May 2018

    I think this is something that requires professional intervention. I'd suggest the two of you see a couple's counsellor AND pursue individual counselling as well. I don't think this will go away on its own and I think it could really add lots of stress and tension to your relationship if it's not treated. It's great that he supported you during treatment but you also need support in survivorship.

    best wishes

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