HRT despite risk?

Thanks for your responses! Sorry for the delay, I'm in law school and so things can get quite busy!

I have a number of symptoms that I'm frustrated with. I've gained 40lbs, I'm achey all the time, depressed, Moody, now it looks like I'm developing stress incontinence, etc. I feel angry a lot that my treatments and the long term effects were downplayed and now I'm stuck with the body of an older woman.

I have p450 syndrome and have a very difficult time finding drugs that work on me. I haven't been able to find an antidepressant that does.

I am already not doing the AI inhibitors because between not being able to tell if my body is using it properly, and possible side effects making my quality of life worse, it's not worth it to me.

Unfortunately, I am later stage than both of you, being stage 3 with lymph involvement. So far, none of my doctors will discuss HRT with me, like it's impossible. But it's getting to the point where I feel like it's MY body and should be my choice. No one acknowledges the vast differences in genetic metabolism and outcome variation so everyone applies a one size fits all approach. The irony is that they don't know if it will work, but they won't try other things because of possible adverse outcomes. In other words, I am not like most people, so I may not benefit from treatments that benefit others, but I can't try things that haven't worked for others, even if they might work for people like me. It's beyond frustrating, and I'm left regretting my treatment choices completely.