My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer

Micmel, sending healing thoughts your way. It is good to hear from you. As you say, you must take this one day at a time. Rest, sleep, lounge, it is all good for the soul at a time like this. I also hope friggin Mother Nature kicks Old Man Winter out of our springtime! Some nice, mild temps and sunshine would help in your recovery. You remain in all our daily thoughts with best wishes that the pain soon takes a hike.

Bigb, I truly appreciate your comments on conversations about God with our in laws. I do believe in a spiritual realm, yet feel that always attributing the good things only coming from God diminishes the efforts that we put forth to make sure everything is taken care of. If dh and I stopped doing what we are doing, I wonder how God would handle that?

Lynne, I really get that you aren't being mean to your fil, just realistic. A side of my mil doesn't like me because I tell it like it is, too. She likes to pretend and make things up and her kids baby her and allow it. I call her out on her comments, she knows she can't manipulate me like she does her kids, that I see through her smokescreen, and she doesn't like it. And yet, she benefits from my assertiveness and having my sh*t together because it's the reason why dh and I are in a position to care for her.

I told dh, yes, your mom is 89 but she hasn't always been 89. Almost 30 years ago, she was widowed when she was about the age dh and I are now. I asked him, “are we addle-brained at this age? No!" She could have made different choices over these years, but instead, we became her insurance policy whenever things go wrong

Bigb, glad the estate sale went so well. How smart to hire such a great company to take care of the many details. Sorry to hear of your fall and hitting your head. I'm glad your dh can handle the reins over the weekend so you can take care of yourself.

Mae, I so love the cartoons of yourself!

Good morning Ladies., I am up for my morning medicine and drain recording. I don't know where this stuff comes from all the time but ugh!! One Drain....doing. Nothing except annoy me. The other two are producing a pretty good amount. I want them drains out Monday. I'm waiting for Monday for that.... but... I dont want infection but I also hate the problem of rolling over and how vital that really is to someone's sleep quality. I purchased the noise machine that they had in the hospital. I loved it. Now I have my fan and....last night I chose rain because it was gloomy. I love the rain, thunderstorms , bubbling brook, ocean, summer nights with crickets, white noise (which I also love) I suggest this little $18 machine to anyone. Seriously. It's been so helpful. And relaxing. The rain is so relaxing. Napping is actually enjoyable. I hope everyone enjoys the weekend, I am trying to start feeling more like myself. I am very sore each day... but at least it's a week and a day out! Egads when I look back. I don't know why I wasn't more scared. Just glad I have two boobs. Even my nurse friend was like girl, he did a great job! I really cannot believe how well matched they are. The pain was and is terrible, but like the nurse said when I saw it for he first time. “ “This is why I do my job, these days right here, and she cane over and hugged me. It was specialsMore than words nor pain can describe unless youve done it of course. Much love to all ! ~M~

I have to shout out to Mae and The Lynne's and bigbhome. I think it's great, “I have the PM button and I am not afraid to use it". Bigbhome~Must have gotten a hold of Chelle! You guys are precious. Thank you so much for caring ! ❤️❤️ It means the world to me. I love how things we feel can be reversed on us at any moment and I sooo respect my friends and sisters here. Love you all!~M~

micmel you are almost one week out from surgery. YAY You mentioned the drains and that one isn't working. Hopefully the doc will take that one out on Monday. Then you'll only have two of your little friends. I hated them too.

Is your DH taking off work to take care of you? It's hard to do those drains by yourself.

We are all happy that you are gradually getting back to your posting self. No one here can function very well without hearing from you.💞

I forgot to mention earlier that Monday, Dh is getting a 2nd opinion on his neck and then on Tuesday, he is getting a 3rd opinion, while I am having my Pet scan and meeting with MO for results. Both Dr's so busy, it was too hard to try to reschedule. I know that a 3rd opinion sounds excessive, but we are terrified at the possibility that he could be paralyzed! So next week will be rough!

Claudia

Chillin’ at the cabin this weekend and enjoying the new deck (no more climbing a latter to get in!)

mae. Where is that cabin? Love it.

Bigbhome. Sounds like next week will be information overload for both of you. So much to process. If I had known more about neck surgery i would have gotten three opinions too. The mets were eating up my C3, all i cared about was getting it out befor it broke. Docs said its in a very critical place. I know now that means I wouldnt have even been able to breathe much less move. But I did have a good neurosurgeon because that was 18 years ago. Basically it's a fusion with lots of titanium, screws, plate from C2-5, and graft at C3.

I hope for the best for both of you. Let us know how it goes.💞

Good day all,

I read through two days of threads. You guys write a lot. This is a novel here.

Mae in your gorgeous cabin rejoice i am rejoicing with you and your great news. That feeling when you prepare for the worst and get the best!

big B be careful I’m happy to hear about the estate sale. So much going on in everyone’s lives.

I read a good book today. When breath becomes air, it’s probably not for everyone but it really makes you think and get your priorities straight.

50s girl grannax, divine, Lynn wood thanks for sharing. I keep looking at leaves and weeds and saying tomorrow tomorrow. Well maybe today we’ll see.

Love you all

Tanya

Mae, glad your news was good. Micmel, just keep thinking it will get better. Hoping your pain eases.

I finished radiotherapy on Thursday but for last week have been suffering diarrhoea. Has anyone experienced this with radiotherapy. Or other cause could be cannabis oil I have been taking for last 3 weeks? I read the oil affects some people that way. Can't say radiotherapy has helped as yet. I have been feeling worse if anything, and so tired. Need a boost!

Sorry for the mil problems. I was the only one to take care of mine before she died. Her other sons and daughter were too busy, so I sympathise with you, especially with your own problems too.

Night all, take care x

Hello all- I have been MIA again. So much happening here, hard to know where to begin.

Bighome/Divine-the MIL thing can be so testing. So many women of that generation were completely dependent on their husbands for everything; they are devoid of life skills. It is sad. My second MIL was the one of the most trying individuals I have ever met. It took the patience of Jobe to deal with her. Most of her issues were not entirely her fault, but still..... So, applauding you for having the balls to step up and help them.

Mae-delighted to hear your good news. Your cabin looks perfect! Do not like that the spinal tap made you cry.

Dear, dear Micmel- Sounds like you are in hell. I am feeling concerned for you. I am praying that you turn the corner soon-get rid of the drains and severe pain. Lay low now, and rest, rest, rest.

Tanya-enjoy your sweet posts and bimojis!

Hi to the Lynnes and Grannax, Gracie, Lynnwood, Runor, Leapfrog, Magda, Robin, and each and every one of you dear MBC sisters.

Presently I am at Sugarloaf Mountain in Maine. DH, Grandson, and I are staying with one of my best gal pals and her DH at her condo. It is 30 degrees and snowing! This morning we drove to Quebec and went to a "Caban de Sucre"(Maple Sugar House) for a traditional French Canadian meal. It was a lot of fun and Grandson's 1st trip tp another country. Tomorrow, my friend is taking my grandson skiing. So a nice little getaway. Mr. Cancer was not invited! I'm doing well on the Xeloda; finished my first two weeks with minimal side effects. Starting Y90 prep with MRI of liver on 4/21.

Best to each, MJH

MJH, you are quite right about women of that so-called “greatest generation”. I have said the same thing, that society did those women absolutely no favors by insisting that they be dependent on men and dumb to the ways of the world.

illimae, Cool place, that scenery is beautiful! Where is this?

Robin

Hi all, at the emergency room with mil and sfil, they are getting ready to admit sfil he has pneumonia in both lungs and a mass was found in his right love. My Mo would have a fit! I am taking her to our house tonight. We will have a sleepover. Check in tomorrow.

Glad to hear you are doing ok, Micmel! We were worried about you! Sorry about the pain! Gentle hugs!