Need advise-going flat

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  • Raque510
    Raque510 Member Posts: 16
    edited February 2018

    Thank you all again, so, so much! You have helped me find the courage to accept what I want for myself.

    I have known what I want for myself for a long time. I, like some of you, have never been "attached" to my boobs. I spent many years feeling like walking breasts (at 5'2, 34DD). After this diagnosis, and UMX, I realize that I have this choice and this chance. I don't want reconstruction. It wouldn't be for me. It would be for everyone else. To me, it feels like DEconstruction. I suppose so is getting a prophylactic mx and skin removal. But being asymmetrical is too emotionally taxing for me--if I was smaller, it would be a different story but it is what it is. I want to go flat to get whole again and stop having to focus on this one part of my body I've never been able to embrace or escape. Hallelujah.

    My husband is incredibly supportive of whatever I choose. He's seen the "after" pictures of flap surgery and had mixed reactions. Some he recoiled at. Some he thought were pretty damn good. He's seen pictures of flat women and exclaimed, "Still beautiful!" He's loved me and my body through pregnancy and childbirth, weight gain and loss, cancer. I am truly doing both of us a disservice by questioning or doubting his love and devotion. It really is easy to project your own doubts onto others than to face and overcome them. I'll have to really learn to love this body and as Lisey so succinctly put it, value it as the tool it is meant to be.

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  • GenevaC
    GenevaC Member Posts: 47
    edited February 2018

    Great to hear the self-accepting, body positive thoughts from many women here. I did wonder a lot about reconstruction ( I’m 40) but since my diagnosis /surgery 3 months ago, I’ve come to be comfortable as I am. I have ordered my first prosthesis and anticipate wearing it when I return to work. Meanwhile I’ve taken the kids to the pool half-flat (I’m small chested) which makes me proud of myself for not letting others’ expectations prevent me from living my life.

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  • aweate
    aweate Member Posts: 53
    edited March 2018

    I did it and so far so good. It was a hard choice but I am happy! Drains are drying up at the week mark so hopefully those come out soon. Thank you so much to everyone that helped me with this choice. I know that the surgery and living flat is what is right for me. On with life and here to healing well. I am proud of myself for being brave.

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  • Lisey
    Lisey Member Posts: 1,053
    edited March 2018

    It's awesome you went flat Aweate.. here's to Rocking the new you!

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  • mojoputts
    mojoputts Member Posts: 2
    edited March 2018

    Thank you for your post. And your comment that your belly looked big without breasts to balance it out. I've been trying to imagine how that will look. I'm a little chubby but am working on it.

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  • MtnGrrl
    MtnGrrl Member Posts: 1
    edited March 2018

    I feel or felt your pain. I had reconstruction on the right over 4 years ago and suffered the iron foob. I finally convinced the PS that I am done having this constant reminder in me and want it out. I had my explant March 2nd. got the drain out march 8th. and started PT today. I felt instant relief. I was one of the scared ones not knowing how I would cope being flat on one side. I got to the point of just not caring anymore just get it out. You are right they make it sound like it will be just like normal but it isn't. And definitely not a new normal we want to accept. I am so happy it is gone and as far as I'm concerned my last surgery.

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  • bluepearl
    bluepearl Member Posts: 961
    edited March 2018

    Yes, my belly looks bigger but it IS a reminder that that kind of abdominal fat is dangerous, especially to your heart, so it also indicate visceral fat accumulation around organs. Best way to get rid of it is a low carb (simple carbs) diet. I do that and two days a week, I fast on protein only OR 500 calories per day for two days.....the fasts are really good for you. My belly is getting less and less too and some of my heart palpitations have gone. Ad I walk 2km per day and on Sunday, 6km.

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