Just got the call

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Mamavirnala
Mamavirnala Member Posts: 4
edited March 2018 in Just Diagnosed

I had my biopsy Friday in both my breast and a lymph node under my arm. I just got the call that they both contained breast cancer cells. I don't know much else as another nurse is supposed to call me soon with more information. I am so scared. I have 4 beautiful daughters and I can't help but think of them during this.

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  • OCDAmy
    OCDAmy Member Posts: 873
    edited March 2018

    I'm so sorry you find yourself here. I promise this is the hardest part. Once you know the whole picture and what the treatment plan is you will feel better. This is a great community, ask any questions you might have, we are in this together. Breast cancer is treatable and curable.

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  • KBeee
    KBeee Member Posts: 5,109
    edited March 2018

    This first week before your plan is in place is the hardest. Try to stay busy. I did a lot of cooking those first few days. I froze a bunch of meals. It kept my mind busy and I appreciated them in the days after surgery, etc

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  • Mamavirnala
    Mamavirnala Member Posts: 4
    edited March 2018

    Thank you both. I feel like my treatment and everything is going to be complicated because I am moving cross country in just 11 days. This move has been planned for a year and we’ve purchased a house there. Plus, I feel like I’d get more support in the new state as I have a lot of family there and here I have hardly any. I’m just scared me moving and having to put treatment on hold is not a good idea. I also feel extremely emotional over this because I also realize that I will have to wean my youngest from nursing. She’s nearly 2 (actually her birthday is tomorrow) but she relies on nursing for naps and bedtime. So, there are going to be a ton of changes in the next few weeks and it’s worrying me even more. Atleast I do have something to keep me busy I suppose. Packing!

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  • EastcoastTS
    EastcoastTS Member Posts: 864
    edited March 2018

    Adding that I'm so sorry you've joined our little club -- but I'm so glad you found us. This place was my rock of support in 2017.

    Perhaps you can go ahead and contact a facility for 2nd opinion (even though it's not really 2nd O as you will likely do your care there due to the move). Your current facility will assist. My nurse navigator helped me get files to my 2nd opinion facility (which was in TX and I live in NC). Any large facility can set up appts in the speed of light. I Googled to find numbers.

    (you can also ask folks here about your new location -- perhaps recommendations if you do not have an idea about where to turn)

    Also, one doctor said to me: breast cancer is rarely a medical emergency, more an emotional one. Meaning, you have time to get things coordinated.

    This will get better as you have a plan in place. It does not seem possible, but this is true.

    {hugs}

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  • Mamavirnala
    Mamavirnala Member Posts: 4
    edited March 2018

    EastcoastTs I think I saw you post that on someone else’s post while I was searching around the boards before and it was very reassuring. Thank you. That’s a good idea calling them about a 2nd opinion. I will talk to the nurse who calls me today about that. I do know the town we’re going to has a big hospital with a Cancer Care center. Hopefully that makes the whole ordeal a little easier. I’m at this point where I’m looking at my daughters and wondering if I am going to be here when they graduate. I’m trying my best to think positive but it’s still a very scary time. I’m also feeling mad at myself (as silly as I know it is) because my diagnosis just upped the chances of my girls getting breast cancer and early too as I am only 29.

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  • beach2beach
    beach2beach Member Posts: 996
    edited March 2018

    Mamavirnala,

    Sorry you find yourself here, but welcome. Can't add much as everyone else has said great things. I turned 51 when I was diagnosed last summer. All I could thiink of was my kids. Doesn't matter how old they are, we worry about them. I kept telling myself I would be around to see them finish school, get married and see grandkids(hopefully) :) . i felt the same, that I've doomed my daughter. My daughter is my middle child,,turning 21 next month. I told her to please make sure she checks herself, if she questions anything she feels to get it checked and to push for more if she feels her concerns are not being taken seriously because of age. You will get through this, You will be there for the girls. Once the plan is in place , the feeling of having some control returns. You have a lot on your plate with moving. It certainly will keep you busy plus having little ones. Leaves not much time to think does it.

    No doubt you will do great.

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  • EastcoastTS
    EastcoastTS Member Posts: 864
    edited March 2018

    Listen...NOTHING you feel in the next few months is silly. Nothing. My son was 9 when I was diagnosed and he was my most vulnerable piece of this. I agree with Beach -- I don't think it matters what ages we are or they are, we're moms.

    Also, I'm so sorry that you are here in this situation at 29. That is too young to be worrying about this crap.

    But you will get through it. You will. Call the cancer center at the new location.They will advise you. (Mine set up appts on the spot for a little less than two weeks in the future. Johns Hopkins was only scheduling a week out. Even though you have time, once you say "I have a cancer diagnosis", the wheels turn quickly.)


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