My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer

50's(Lynne)~Avery is a lovely name, very rare and I really like that a lot. The same goes with Cameron. They are precious. I can't imagine what it would be like to have the chance to actually have grandchildren, but my daughter said to me the other day that she isn't sure if she really wants to have children. It's expensive and she doesn't like how the world is going. I did have to agree with her points. I have to say that if I had the chance to not have to worry about people when I'm gone, I would be a lot less worried and anxious about being sick . But then I see those beautiful children you just posted pics of and I instantly have a heart melt down. She loves babies and they love her. Maybe she will change her mind. I don't know. But it's a really deep subject anymore, no matter who I talk to that are of a certain age. When I was young, it was.... you get Older.... find that one .... settle down....have a family....and the cycle goes on and on. But less and less it seems they want the responsibility and selflessness that comes along with being a parent. It's quite interesting!! But one never knows what this world is going to be in 25 years!! Scary thought. I will live vicariously through you all! Much love ~M~ Oh and Lynne we will be with you during your scans. Mini me will be in your pocket making distracting noisesto take your mind off of them. We know how you feel. You're not alone! No way!

Mae~ hope you're safe and having a blast but getting enough rest as well! When our California correspondent checks in!

50's girl. I would love to watch dolphins and whales in Aulani. I know we're going to the Pearl Harbor Memorial, too. Eight grandchildren? I always thought I would have more than two but with my DD health problems it's not a good idea. My DSIL has his hands full with his job and taking care of my DD. My DDIL had to stay in the hospital for two months prior to Blake being born. No more grandchildren for me.

My DD eye doc told her yesterday it was like working under water when he did her ONSF procedure, because there was so much spinal fluid behind her optic nerve. She feels so much better now that it is drained. The slit will let it continue to drain. Her left eye will be done Jan 4. These procedures will keep her from losing her eyesight as well as decrease her headaches. WiN win!

I have PET on January 9. Now that Christmas is over, I already feel some scanxiety creeping in. It's been 5 months since my last one. As we all know, anything can happen in five months. I wish not having pain anywhere was an indicator of no MBC progression. I didn't even have pain a year ago at DX, except for a cough, and it was in lung, chest and liver. But, I do have some confidence that I've only been on Ibrance one year. I should get another year out of it. Also, I had y90's that looked successful in my last scan. I hate MBC. It's so unpredictable.

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Grannax~ so relieved to hear that your DD and the plan they have come up with is working!!!!!!! Clapping 👏 for you both. The fact that the pain and pressure have been relived is such a Big deal, for the sweet girl. Nothing worse than watching a child suffer. Moms always would rather take away the pain. It is just something moms just do! Please give her a hug from me. I can still see her smiling in that tree!! That Is why, I love sharing the waywe do. Now I have a face to put with sending my happy thoughts of strength and recovery her way! You're a wonderful mother my friend! Much love ~M~

Mae or San Francisco correspondent - I love the home on wheels. It looks like you're having a fabulous time. Enjoy enjoy enjoy.

One shocking thing that I am noticing reading through these posts and looking at the glorious pictures is that you are all so young. I'm 60 but you ladies have young families and husbands. May God grant us all ease and a wonderful healthy new Year. Back to reading through the posts.

Tanya ~ if you're running a fever higher than 100.3 you should call, I don't think they will delay your ibrance unless your blood work counts are too low to continue. That would also only be a delay until you're blood recovered enough to allow you To retake it again! Jump on the dayquil train and keep the doseages coming, or what your choice of cold relief is.......You have been the caretaker for a him now! Please make sure you rest or you will definitely get that cold. Eat well also. Drink a lot of water to flush your system, and wash and wash and wash your hands!

Gout!!!! OUCH!!!!! My DH gets that when he has too much red meat. And it's killer painful! He can't even wear a sock or have a sheet over it, the pain is that bad. I feel so bad for him. I hope he got the amazing medicine fast that really does work. Also, sorry that he got that nasty cold going around. My son has been sick with it for 13 days. So far I have been lucky and staying away from them and their belongings. Washing my hands a lot helps tremendously! I know that if I am not getting sick like I used to catch every single thing. Now (knock on wood) since they removed the tumor and I have been on chemo, I just don't seem to get sick! I am very thankful for that. I used to get sick, really sick every 8 weeks. Pneumonia, bronchitis, upper respiratory infections! Sinus infections! Always sick. They thought it was my one lung, (I only breathe on one lung due to another issue before cancer) so getting sick, they attributed to my Lung function, it wasn't, it was cancer, and it came out of no where! The day I was diagnosed, I ran 6 miles in an hour, that very day! It was mind blowing. So listen to your body always.

Grannax~ You mentioned you didn't have pain, my onc assistant told me last time when I was set to scan, it had been six months and I was terrified!!! She said. how do you feel? Do you feel aches ? Or do you feel new pain? I didn't feel new pain at all, it was just jumping aches and I felt pretty darn good. And my scans matched. How I was feeling. So try to remember that as you go In there. If I am honest with myself, I knew there was something wrong b fire diagnosis,I didn't feel well, I was always fatigued, it was obvious and scary. But deep down I knew something wasn't right. I didn't feel that way going into the last scan! From that scan, I was deemed in remission! So hold on to us tight.... real tight and we will walk you through! Much love ~M~

I love all the photos everyone is posting; they are spectacular and help personalize this thread in the nicest way.

I felt like this Christmas for me could have been billed as "...and the role of Santa Claus will be played by Mrs. M!" I really made it happen and it almost looked effortless.

First off, dh and I came down with a stomach virus the day before Christmas eve. Sick as a dog. Could not get out of bed. Come Christmas Eve day I felt fifty percent better and amazingly finished prep for 20 members of my side of the family to come celebrate.

On Christmas morning, still recuperating. In addition to giving the usual socks and sweatpants type presents, I surprised dh and ds with a few gifts they had no idea they were getting, fitbits for both plus dh got a desperately needed new iPad that he never asked for. They were thrilled.

That afternoon we visited my mother in law in the nursing home. I took our dvd player, hooked it to her tv and we watched an hour compilation of home videos I had made from ones I took over 20 years with that side of the family. She was thrilled.

My stepson, his wife and my two grandkids came in Christmas night and stayed all the next day. I babysat the kids for the afternoon and it was a magical time. I was thrilled.

In all, there I was making sure four generations had a memorable Christmas. Gifts, food, atmosphere for everyone. While getting the stomach flu and getting over it. Oh, plus keeping that other pesky shit at bay......you know......mbc.....

Yes, ladies, we are amazing. Don't ever forget it.

divine I loved the family movies idea. I only have still shots but when we pull them out everyone shares their memories of the events.

Mic I'm already sick with sniffles and sore throats. I had bloodwork yesterday so I'll call and see what my numbers look like. Thanks for the tips

Lynne(Man) Really enjoyed your photos! You go, Harley Mama! Cool jacket! We are having similar weather here in Maine, of course. The oil furnace and wood stove are struggling to heat the house. Glad I took my grandson sledding on Tuesday! I won't worry about your safety so much on the tricycle!

Lynne(50's)- Bretton Woods is sooo pretty! My folks met in the early 50's at Crawford House(no longer). We visited NH all the time as kids! Stay by the fire!

Tanya-bummer about that darn cold and gout. I am 59, and DH is 71 but we are raising our 8 yr old grandson.

Divine- you are indeed Divine! The women are the memory makers! My DH is an engineer, and they can be like Mr. Spock! He does appreciate my touches, though.

Grannax- good news about your daughter-thank heavens! I have a feeling your scan will show stability, but damn, don't I hate the scanxiety.

Keetmom- 1000 hallelujahs for your scan results.

Micmel- you are such a sweetie! I'm happy that you enjoyed the pic of my rings. I love vintage jewelry, and also funky silver pieces.

Mae- you must be just loving your vacation!

love to each-may the force be with you. MJH

hi everyone, hope you all enjoyed Christmas. Love all the photos. Wishing everyone a happy and healthy 2018. Best wishes for all of us facing the usual scans etc, but just remember to be thankful for every day we have. Valencia is a lovely city, but so quiet at Christmas. Looking forward to a new year party!! X

bubbles on the beach on Christmas Day. Trip to aquarium was good and great architecture!!

Minnie~I love those pictures Minnie. That is the coolest bubble!! I have never seen one that big. My first instinct is to run up and pop it!!! The child in me never leaves ! That is so neat, to look at that bubble with palm trees over looking the ocean! I am thrilled to see the beautiful fish my kids used to move their mouths as the fish did, when they were little guys!! Absolutely beautiful coloring and picture of that fish. Looks like a great time! Much love and happiness! ~M~

OMG~Hello little beautiful Anastasia! Welcome to your new family. Your mommy is the best!!! You luckily little lady. Claudia~ she's perfect!!! And I mean perfect. Keep sharing !!!🤗🤗🤗🤗love and miss you. ~M~

Keetmom~I am thrilled to hear that your scan results were good. I have no idea how the heck I missed your post. I never do that. I was looking for you. As I always do. I am thankful you're doing Good! Sounds like busy with the kids is a good thing especially when it's Christmas, can you believe it's already almost a week gone away already?. Then freezing January. It's been so cold I haven't gone anywhere and today I ended up with the nasty bug that my family has been bouncing around the house.... 🥂👏❣️ For your scan results. May you have many many many .........years of them! Much love ~M~

I apologise to all you ladies suffering cold weather, I had a lovely sunny afternoon yesterday on the terrace in shorts!! Mind you it does cool in the evening, but just a jacket, so nothing like you are experiencing.

Love that German shepherd puppy, brings back happy memories.

Just a question, do some DHs have trouble coping. Mine seems a bit strange and distant at the moment

Happy New Year to all!