Finished treatment, but now have the dreaded Xnas to deal with

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rubyredslippers
rubyredslippers Member Posts: 228
edited December 2019 in Coping with Holidays, Special Days and Anniversaries

I've finished the surgeries, radiation etc, on Dec 1, but now have Xmas to cope with. Too long and intricate a story to fully explain, but in a nutshell loathe my siblings and a sister in law and can't get out of seeing them and having to be around them. How the hell do I cope with thst? It's the last thing I need. I'm depressed, going through the anger and frustration and thus is more stress tgat I don't need.


Anyone else in the same boat? Any tips?

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  • edwards750
    edwards750 Member Posts: 3,761
    edited December 2017

    Thaf is so sad. You are done with your treatment so it should be a relieved and happy time as is Christmas typically. I’m sorry you don’t have family support but you can make the best of it. Christmas isn’t forever. I can’t relate because I love Christmas. Actually my family which is huge get together at Thanksgiving and Christmas means several are traveling elsewhere.

    I do have lots of grandchildren and very close to my youngest son. He is a single dad with twin grandsons. We will celebrate the holiday with them and my DH’s family Dec 30. Too many people to schedule on Christmas Day.

    So take a deep breath and feel good about what you have already gone through. It’s a lot. We can all relate.

    Hope your holiday goes better than expected.

    Diane

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  • vampeyes
    vampeyes Member Posts: 1,227
    edited December 2017

    Hi Ruby,

    As my therapist has taught me - we have choices! If you don't want to spend Christmas with these people, don't. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. It's your choice and yours alone. Don't stress over it, do what you want to do as it is your life. Be happy and put your health first, being around or in situations that cause you anxiety and depression is no good for your health.

    Take care,

    Cheryl

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  • arolsson
    arolsson Member Posts: 118
    edited December 2019

    My situation is also different, my husband started cheating on me during my cancer treatment and now has a new wife and baby while I am 2 years into the hell of Stage IV. I used to love everything about the holidays but now I am mostly alone and too weak to foster much cheer. I invited lots of friends for Christmas, days in between, and new years--but everyone is busy with families. We all have different family situations but--use that C card to get out of your family commmitments altogether or take short breaks to go lie down and meditate!

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  • rubyredslippers
    rubyredslippers Member Posts: 228
    edited December 2019

    that’s terrible Arolsson. I’m not too busy for you, send me a private message if you’d like to talk

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