I’m 35 feeling overwhelmed and nervous
Hi, I have been diagnosed with paggets on my nipple and DC on my right breast 3 weeks ago. They suggest I have to start quemo first then surgery, radiation last because of the HER2+. I’m supposed to start quemo next week and I can’t stop thinking about it, since the day I was diagnosed I feel like I’m not the same person anymore and can’t concentrate in one thing at the time. We are a family of 3 only and it is going to be hard for us to take turns to watch our child
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Hi Sunshine, and welcome to Breastcancer.org. We're so sorry you find yourself here, but we're really glad you found us. We're sure you'll find our community a very helpful and supportive place as you navigate your treatment journey. We know others will be by shortly to offer their advice and information, too!
In the meantime, you may want to check out the main Breastcancer.org site's page on Paget's Disease of the Nipple. Also, you mentioned in your post you were also diagnosed with "DC", and in your diagnostic profile, you mention DCIS but at Stage IIB,which indicates an invasive cancer (DCIS is a non-invasive Stage 0 cancer). Did you mean to select IDC (invasive ductal carcinoma)? There's some good information on the main Breastcancer.org site on IDC as well.
Also, there's a wonderful thread here for members currently undergoing chemotherapy at the same time as you -- make sure you stop in and say hi on the December 2017 Chemo thread, where you can compare experiences with others and support each other as you undergo treatment.
We hope this helps and we look forward to hearing more from you soon!
--The Mods
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Hi Sunshine and I'm so sorry about your situation. It is quite normal to feel overwhelmed, and we've all been there. But if you take it one step at a time you will find the strength to make it to the other side of this breast cancer journey. Have you told anyone about your diagnosis? It's hard to reach out for help but perhaps there is someone who could help with child care?
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Hi Sunshine!
((HUGS)) I also did chemo first and was HER2+. HER2+ cancer is definitely a marathon and not a sprint. Try to take it one treatment at a time. What chemo regimen will you be doing?
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Hi Elaine,
They said Taxotere and Carboplatin. Perjeta and Herceptin for targeted therapy. Any information on that would be helpeful
regards,
Sharon
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hi sunshine I was in the same situation few months ago
I understand your feeling specially you are young
(38 years old when I was diagnosed ) . Take step by step
Now focus on chemo ( the hardest part for me )
I had THCP it wasn't easy for me but I did it
Last week I finish radiation I had surgeries and I still have herceptin every weeks and reconstruction
Good luck be strong
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Hi!
TCHP is a common chemo regimen for HER2+ breast cancer. As you can see from my signature, I did an alternative regimen, Adriamycin + Cytoxan, then Taxol + Herceptin + Perjeta. TCHP can cause gastric distress (most notably diarrhea). I had Taxotere's supposedly gentler cousin, Taxol, and it did give me diarrhea two days after my infusion. But, I could manage it with Imodium, so that was OK. (I also learned the locations of lots of grocery store restrooms!) You will definitely lose your hair with Taxotere (and a very very small number lose their hair permanently while on Taxotere). It's best to have your head-covering/wig plan in place before you start. I bought a wig before chemo, and shaved my head after my second infusion.
Will you be taking steroids like Decadron before chemo? If so it might help if you get a sleep aid or Melatonin or something. Steroids can definitely interfere with sleep!
Are you ER+/PR+ as well? If so, you are triple positive. There's a very welcoming and supportive group of ladies on the Triple Positive Board, some of whom have had TCHP. ((Hugs)) It get's better....
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Hi Georgia 1, thank you for your response. I haven't told anyone yet. Everybody of my side of the family live overseas =( My husband says that my sisters in law are going to be helping out for a couple of days.
regards,
Sharon
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I understand. I wish I had some experience to share, but I started with surgery and went to radiation. I can only offer that you need to be a little bit selfish now. Tell people only when you want to; be with your child when you want to and accept help as you need it; and try to keep some routine in your life so you minimize the "not feeling like yourself" times. All best wishes to you.
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Hi Sharon,
To me... it made me feel better once I started to TELL... my hubby, my parents, my children, siblings and friends. And I feel much better when I started to work on my usual schedule. I don't feel I'm a"patient"... but me, the usual ME
Hugs...
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Hello sunshine and hello everyone else. First of all I am sorry you re finding yourself on here as well, and are going through this. It is awful finding out and hearing those words from the doctor. But you are not alone. Start telling your friends and people around you. I told my family and friends and the support has been amazing. Once you start telling them and talking about it you will find thy people want to help.
I am 34 years old so just a yet younger then you, we are also a family of three and I literally also just found out I have invasive ductal carcinoma, grade 3 and have a 3.2cm tumor. I was diagnosed right before thanksgiving and haven’t started treatment yet.
It’s awful and everything is moving soooo slow. I see a lot of discussion on the HER2. My first test was HER2 negative. Then fish analysis came aback amplified but I only tested positive at 2.46 they said anything below 2.0 is negative. Soooooo now long story short my doc had my case reviewed by another specialist who wants the HER2 RETESTED. I’m freaking out Bc everything is so so slow moving and I have no treatment. This has to be retested in California. Apparently the best doc is out there who tests for this HER2. I am negative on ER/PR.
My treatment will either be TCHP or AC+T depending on the test outcome. So first treatment then surgery I will be doing a double mastectomy. But I’m super nervous as well about everything and don’t know a lot.
Did anyone out there have a similar problem with testing so low on the HER2? I’m scared Of this delay that this thing will just spread..
any input will be greatly appreciated
Much love to everyone!!!
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Hi Daniz,
I'm triple neg and my HER2 was done using SISH method. S for silver.
Cancer cells usually take years before detected. Please do not worry too much about "not doing anything now". I'm sure your doctors know what to do, it's just they need to confirm your situation. Like my case, because of the triple neg the approach was different. Neoadjuvant chemo might be suggested to shrink the tumor before removing it. And regime differs too based on the hormonal status.
My prayer and best wishes with you Daniz, while lying on hospital bed awaiting my first chemo to kick in.
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Hello Hariry,
Thank you for your response! are you feeling okay with the chemo, any bad side effects?
I am hoping to find something out soon. It’s going to be 4 weeks next week since diagnosed. Just want them to figure it all out. It’s all so hard.
Good luck to you!!
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Wanted to reply yesterday but couldn't, Daniz. An awful evening. Crawling on my bed, my couch, every kind of position but the lightheadedness and nausea just not going away. Puked twice. Finally decided to take a xanax, guess what? I slept through and got up fresh and normal. I'm myself again! Praise the Lord.
Btw what I meant was the cancer cells took really some time to grow, maybe mms in months. So please go chase the doctors but not to worry too much. Stress is something we don't need. Especially now. Go out for a jog, sweat, enjoy some serotonin, eat and sleep well.
Hugs...
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Hello Hairy,
How are you feeling today? I hope you are not feeling sick anymore. Thank the Lord you got some relief!!! I’m so nervous and scares of the chemo and side effects but I told myself I’d take all the medicine before just in case. What chemo are you doing?
Thank you for responding and yes that does make me feel better to know it grows slow. I tried looking it up on google once and it scared the daylight out of me so I stopped. So I will try to stress yet I’ve been nothing but stressed since I got diagnosed
I also wanted to tell you one lady told me she is drinking alkaline water daily in addition to regular water and her side effects have been non existent. I bought a case to drink while treating but wanted to tell you to try people are having amazing results. She sips on it all day and drinks about a bottle and half to two a day. That’s it.
Wishing you a wonderful weekend keep me posted on how you’re doing whenever you get a chance!!!
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hi Hariry,
Thank you for posting even though you’re feeling so lousy. I’ll have to remember that about the Xanax during chemo. I start AC+T this Friday. I took Xanax when I was having trouble sleeping during my postop recovery ( around the five-week mark)and it made such a big difference and I finally felt back to myself again. When did you start your chemo treatments? I hope you’re feeling better today
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Hi Laura and Daniz,
Thanks for your kind words, i'm slowly recovering. Day 4 after first chemo (AC) I'm off 5HT today (antiemetic) and tapering dose of dexamethasone. I took a morning walk and had some nice breakfast and lunch. Night is still a bit restless. I tried not to take xanax. just more nap during the day. thanks Daniz for your kind suggestion. Yes we've got ourselves some water purifier with alkaline water. But I read through some medical research saying that the effect might be controversial. So I carefully balance pure and alkaline water (1:1). And you are in my prayer, that the results would be soon....
When C (cyclophosphamide) went in I had a bad throbbing, headache, and all my sinuses were reacting, feeling slightly burning. The nausea. SE of A(adriamycin) kicked in later when the antiemetic weaned off. I'd suggest Laura to dampen your face with something cold, and some ice in the mouth would help too. I'm going to request my MO to give me another dose of antiemetic before I leave the hospital, next cycle. All the best.
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Hey Hariry! How are you? I hope you are feeling well. Can you share what you read about the research showing controversial about that alkaline water. I tried looking online but Wasn’t able to find much so invasive just curious before i strt drinking the water.
Also. I literally just got an update from my doc who said that they heard back o my HER2 testing and the doc said he would rule the HER2 negative. My oncologist will call me tomorrow to Dow is tteatment but I am certain I will be starting AC+T. I’m terrified!!!!! Not sure why completely ruling it as negative when it was clearly amplified the second time...
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