Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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What is important is to realize that whether we understand fully who we are or what will happen when we die, it's our purpose to grow as human beings, to look within ourselves, to find and build upon that source of peace and understanding and strength that is our individual self. And then to reach out to others with love and acceptance and patient guidance in the hope of what we may become together.
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Ah ha, now I know what my Charlie horses really are !!!! I don't get them very often, but the last few years it seems when I do --- sigh ---- they run right through the bottom middle of my foot. That is a difficult place to work with as a little rubbing ( if you choose to try ) might make a difference. I do know most movement of the foot rather than rubbing hurts like the dickens and seems to do little for you anyway.
So pleased it is Sunday -- no special reason. I think because the sun is out bright ( maybe today I will go to the car-wash ) and that always makes my spirits high and happy. Dh will work again today. It is I think the end of the Black Friday blow-out. So all hands so to speak. He at least won't have to show up at 7 a.m. today as they will go in at the regular time of 11 a.m. Even in this little ( though I mainly love it ) one-horse town people were at the door at 7 a.m. Friday morning. I guess there has NEVER been enough of a bargain for me to get up and go out shopping at ungodly hours. Later if at all, is okay for me. I've been out everyday so far, but mainly not for Black Friday shopping -- just the regular out of dog or cat food or milk here at home type.
Hope Sunday for all of you will be everything you want.
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Back home in New York State after our trip to see my son and his lady for Thanksgiving. Had a nice visit and saw their new house. Pahrump is an interesting town. Didn't even bother with LAsVegas, been there a couple of times! Wudn't want to live there nymore than in New York City. Though I was brought up in Chicago, I'm no longer a big city woman. Had a long day of travel, got home last night. Good to be back in our own bed, now to play catch up. 42 this morning, same as Nevada AM, but here won't get much warmer. There it was in the 70's as a high.Guess I better get going, have a good day everyone.
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Husband and I enjoying Sunday breakfast at new local restaurant during Thanksgiving weekend.
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I don't have too much trouble with cramping in my feet or calves anymore. I try to make sure I drink plenty of fluids and I keep bananas on hand. They usually go away fairly quickly with a massage or walk. Recently, I have been experiencing horrendous cramps in my upper thigh, front and back at the same time. Can't walk them out because I can barely stand. The pain is different from a Charlie horse in that it burns like something on fire. I am seeing PCP tomorrow & will ask her what I can do. I wonder if it could be a side effect of the letrozole.
Sandy, a bar of soap at the foot of the bed? I laughed about your son checking to see if you were dead; mine would not have noticed until there were no clean dishes and no one had turned off the TV! H would not notice until he ran out of underwear or cash!
Gotta love 'em...they are my men!
We stayed in Friday & yesterday. I don't like to deal with the crowds during this time of year. S and girlfriend baked a scratch pumpkin pie, here, Friday. It was good. This young woman likes to cook and appears to be good at it. They went to the Renaissance Festival yesterday. S said it was crowded. It's going to be a zoo everywhere we go from now until New Year.
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We are given a life—a precious commodity—and are placed on this earth for a short while. We are surrounded by incredible beauty, strength, and love along with incredible violence, hatred, and prejudice. Every time a person becomes happier, they are moving one step away from prejudice and violence and closer to love and compassion. So think of your personal joy as a contribution to peace on the planet as well as food for your spirit. -Charlotte Davis Kasl
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I believe in the absolute oneness of God and therefore of humanity.
What though we have many bodies? We have but one soul. . . . I know God is neither in heaven nor down below, but in everyone.
Mohandas K. Gandhi -
*One-and-All*
Husband and I are serving up a Thanksmas dinner for Son, Daughter and Boyfriend during December.
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In learning to embrace your being, don't look at your mistakes. It is a given that we will all make some mistakes in life. It is a given that you will make inappropriate choices for inappropriate reasons. They will in no way affect your worth. No matter what you say or do, nothing can minimize the worth of your being. Your worth is a gift from God. Your worth is a gift of grace. -Iyanla Vanzant
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Should be a good day here as the past two or three have been. So warm it has been. As usual I have tons of things to do, but looking forward to all of it. I'm hoping you are all getting set ( just like Teka ) to have a wonderful Christmas. It is the last BIG holiday and pretty special as well. Surely ( though I'm not in too big a hurry ) it will be cooler as we get closer. For three yrs. or so running we have heard that it is going to be a harsh winter. None of that has materialized and hoping it won't this yr. either.
I hope you are all going to have a wonderful Wednesday.
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As it is starting to feel like the best holidays are just around the corner I thought I'd share something with you. This is a subscription of mine that helps me with little known facts. I often guess wrong since I seldom am very familiar with the items that turn up --- but this time, even though I guessed right -- I was still a little amazed.
Who originally came up with the idea of electric Christmas tree lights?
- Alexander Graham Bell's son12.2%
- Nikolai Tesla's electrician20.8%
- Thomas Edison's assistant47.7%
Before the advent of strands of electric Christmas lights, families would illuminate their Christmas trees with candles. This practice fostered many a home fire. In 1882, Edward H. Johnson, Thomas Edison's longtime assistant and friend, put together the first string of electric lights for stringing around a Christmas tree. Though Edison had fashioned a string of lights together in 1880 for display strand around the outside of his Menlo Park laboratory, Johnson's version was specifically for the Christmas tree, and the rest is history. Source: LOC.gov
- Charles Dickens' barber19.3%
Here's your activity for the last 7 days
- Alexander Graham Bell's son12.2%
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Success or failure, the truth of a life really has little
to do with its quality. The quality of life is in
proportion, always, to the capacity for delight.
The capacity for delight is the gift of paying attention.
Julia Cameron -
Once you recognize that greed, jealousy, and aggression
are symptoms of fear, you can begin to respond to negative people
with compassion, rather than with anger.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie -
This is the true joy in life, the being used up for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the community, and as long as I live, it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can. I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no "brief candle" to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for a moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.
George Bernard Shaw -
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Beautiful out today. Our mini-but not quite heat wave will come to an end shortly as rain is coming. I'm not sure that it will get too cold though. Maybe just unpleasant from what we have been having. It has been very quiet here. Hope you are all okay and just busy with December events, shopping and other things that take place this time of yr.
Today we are going to work on the yard a bit. Hopefully my cousin will help Dh clean out the back end of the garage. I'd start putting my car in there if they did. I hate that it sits out, but we are the only people I know with a four car garage that is too full to put cars in and that really needs to change. We will see how it goes. This is my viewpoint and I don't know if those men will share it or not.
Hope you all have a beautiful Sunday whatever you choose to do.
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Jackie, That's what garages are for - storing men's junk. Silly you, thinking they're for parking cars. I can relate. I don't think we've ever had cars in the garage. We certainly don't in our current one and I don't see that changing.
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Hi all, just popping in to say a quick hello. I was so sure things were all going to be finished this weekend. I no longer am trying to anticipate a “finish” date. I believe I told you that when the installer for the new shed saw the cement slab, he refused to set up the shed, because the slab was not level. Two weeks go by before we can get the cement guy back. He worked out there for a while and said everything was okay. Install guy finally showed up about 5pm Thurs. Told my brother (I wasn’t here) that he thought it looked okay, but since it was getting dark, he wouldn’t know for sure until Fri mornin- he got here at 6 am ( bet the neighbors loved that!). Again, I had a Dr appt. when I got back, my brother was furious. The shed is all put together, but it is noticeably not level. On one side he has pieces of wood holding that roof side up, trying to make it level. My bro can fit his whole hand between the cement and the shed. So, now, not only do we have to find someone to level the slab - we’re thinking they may have to demolish what is there to start from scratch! We have to somehow get the shed off the slab then back on. Since it will be on the grass while the cement is poured and drying, we will lose an 8x10 patch of grass
Plus the guy who installed the new windows and doors didn’t pass inspection. He didn’t show up for a few days, and to thank us for understanding, he said he would install a new screen door from the patio to the yard, replace all the patio screening, and install a larger doggie door. He came to do that we thought! But he worked on the windows and doors for a good three hours, after he had told us they were done. After he worked on the windows and doors, he said he could put the screening up,but it would cost me $100 because he was supposed to be at another job. I very calmly and nicely that it was fine if he couldn’t do the screens. My son and grandson have been fixing the screens since they were 10 years old. He came back the next day and put the screen door up and installed the doggie door. Again, thought we were done. He called Fri night to see if he could come over Sat to put some extra screws in. We thought he needed to put two more screws in the kitchen windoes- he told us that was why it didn’t pass inspection,but he put a lot more screws everywhere. I am really glad we needed the permit. At least someone is making sure they are installed correctly.
And so it goes on, and on, and on....
Don’t know what I’ll do all day when the workers are all gone. It sure will be quiet.
Just didn’t want you to think I had dropped off the face of the earth.
Ann
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Good to hear from you Anne, but just wow. I hate to think of people who don't even have their dates maybe to even get started. Then again, you may all finish ( or so it seems ) close together. Sure wish it was going better. It will ALL hopefully get done, but I think it is difficult to be an older person and deal with these things. We hope we have learned some patience and we likely have but the hope is that our patience is for work that is fairly consistent until the job is done. That really isn't close to the at it is happening for you.
Hope you are all done soon and can look forward to putting up X-mas decorations and having a great holiday with a house/home that is sparkly and looking tremendous. Fingers crossed for you.
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I think we were mostly raised by men who fixed things and built things and wouldn't rest until it was right. I know my Dad was a perfectionist. He did a lot of jobs around our house and did them well. Lots of current workers seem to think it's not a big deal not to do it right the first time. I hope the rest of your projects go well and you're back to normal soon. I hate having workers around all day, so I'm sure you're looking forward to that quiet.
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Gorgeous weather still here--high of 55 today, walking around with a light leather jacket...open. Tomorrow they're predicting a high of 64 by 6pm, and then the bottom drops out: thunderstorms, cold front blasting through, only 32 by 6am Tues.
Today was the closing matinee of the Bar Show--with only four performances (due to both budget constraints and limited theater availability) it goes by so fast. Few if any glitches, though my voice was a little grittier than it had been the previous 3 nights--karaoke, even singing backup, in a crowded bar till midnight will do that. But the highlight of the run was last night: just between the curtain call and the group encore, a young man entered, got down on one knee, pulled out a diamond ring and proposed to his girlfriend (a cast member). Only the producer was in on it. Thank goodness she said yes!
Starting tomorrow, I file down my L hand nails and start practicing holiday songs and singalongs--and try to teach them to my next-door neighbor, who knows only his own original material (which tends towards the sensitive introspective singer-songwriter stuff). I am hoping to be able to convince him not to recite his poetry (he is an actor, director and playwright), because we have only an hour and our audience will be mostly seniors--who (rightly) expect to be entertained, not enlightened nor challenged.
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Education is more than schooling. It is a cast of mind, a willingness to see the world with an endless sense of curiosity and wonder.
If you would be truly educated, you must adopt this cast of mind. You must open yourself to the richness of your everyday experience--to your own emotions, to the movements of the heavens and the languages of birds, to the privations and successes of people in other lands and other times, to the artistry in the hands of the mechanic and the typist and the child. There is no limit to the learning that appears before us. It is enough to fill us each day a thousand times over.
Kent Nerburn -
"A human being is part of the whole, called by us Universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest - a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
―Albert Einstein -
Looking dreary out-of-doors right now. There may be someone coming soon to do some work on the house and maybe get some windows in the garage. There was some rain overnight but I can't tell at the moment from the sky if we will get more later. Just have to see. Dh is off tomorrow but has to have some work ( an x-ray maybe ) at the V. A. We may have to drive to Marion for that. I'm not keeping up so well with some things. Guess maybe I should slow some parts down until I do catch up a bit.
We have had wind yesterday so my leaves found their way back in the yard, but not that many. They will be easy to handle.
Hope you are all going to have a good day.
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One of the hardest lessons we have to learn in this life,
and one that many persons never learn, is to see the divine,
the celestial, the pure in the common, the near at hand--
to see that heaven lies about us here in this world.
John Burroughs -
From what we get, we can make a living; what we give, however, makes a life. Arthur Ashe
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Do not dwell in the past,
do not dream of the future,
concentrate the mind on the present moment.
- The Buddha -
Beautiful sunny morning although it is really cold out this morning. Winter is trying its best to say hello and I'm closing my ears. We are starting to adjust to the loss of one of our dogs --- Chico. He was a Puggle that was just going to be 15. Had heart trouble ( had it for yrs. ) but his joints and hips were really bad. We kept him going for may months with pain medication freeing him from most pain. He still continued though to have to walk stiff legged. Finally last week it became evident that all the glucosamine and chondroitin plus pain pills would not do near enough. We said our very tearful farewells and sent him home to the Rainbow Bridge. Sill missing him so much but knowing that he is so much better off now. What a beautiful companion who surely deserved his peace.
Hoping you all have a sunny day where you are and sure praying for all those in the California fires.
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My heart goes out to you, I can't imagine what you are going through.You have released you him from his pain, and while that won't end your sorrow I hope it may alleviate it in some way.
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BP gas...thank you for your words of comfort. He was a valiant little soul --- always wandering out of the yard to see if he could chance upon someone else feeding their companion out of doors -- hoping to share the spoils. He had enough appetite for 10 dogs which is one of the things that convinced us he needed to go. He was losing interest in his food bowl and so we felt it was not making up for the pain he was starting to endure daily.
Thank you again.
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