Bottle 'o Tamoxifen
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Yes, this thread IS about tamoxifen. And implying that tamoxifen guarantees that your cancer never comes back belongs in the "Fairytales about Tamoxifen" thread. I haven't found that thread yet. Any discussion about this drug must also include discussion of whether or not the possible (possible, not inevitable) side effects are worth it, and that is what I see many people doing here. Kicking around this rolly polly uncertain ball of it might help, it might not help, I might have no problems on it, I might have lots of problems , will the problems be worth the uncertain outcome.... That is what we are doing. Debate. Discussion. Sharing. Research. All of it here. All of it ABOUT tamoxifen.
Your gratitude for this drug is a wonderful outlook. Those who have no problems are beacons of hope and encouragement for those just starting the Walk of Tamox. But the thinly veiled cautionary tale of a woman who should have, but didn't, and look at her now, and oh the different choices she'd make if only she'd known. Fear mongering. Threatening. Spreading of untruths. Sorry. There is NO ROOM for false promises and blaming. No room for what amounts to a lie. Because we can NEVER KNOW how tamoxifen might have helped or not. We just don't know!
Tamoxifen might be the best hope that many women, including me, have. But is it a guarantee? Hell no! No one should ever suggest that returned cancers can be blamed on not taking tamoxifen. Because that is Just. Not. The. Truth. So go ahead and express and feel your gratitude and I hope for all of us that this filthy beast stays away. But no discussion about tamoxifen should ever have the pointed blade of 'look what happens when you don't take it' thrust into the heart of the matter. That is punitive, cruel, victim blaming. I have zero patience for that shit.
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I, for one, am a very lucky person. All my life, things have just always worked out for the best for me, through no effort of my own. When BC was diagnosed, I was blownaway, hence my ID name. I've been titrating down on my daytime pain meds and will start weaning off my nighttime pain meds next week. In doing so, my pain has already doubled. Before starting Gabapentin, I was at my limit dealing with the pain that was not completely controlled with just Gabapentin so I started taking duloxetine. Combined, both did not completely alleviate the pain but it was doable. At this point, I'm taking a break from Tamo (last pill was yesterday) in an effort to determine if the pain is a Tamo s/e or CIPN which has already been diagnosed. I am 95% ER+ so once my little experiment is over, I'll be back on hormone therapy. I just need to know if this horrible all over pain is from Tamo or is chemo induced, which would mean the rest of my life instead of another 2-1/2 years.
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Runor i find your responses to Michelle very harsh. I don't read the Michelle Implied anything. I read that Michelle reported that the lady with the recurrence had some regrets about not taking tamoxifen and that Michelle is happy to have the option. I am pretty dang happy to have the option too.
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Molliefish I am sorry if I sounded harsh. My passionate response was not aimed at Michelle personally, but rather at the notion she presented, in a round about, back handed way, by sharing that story of the woman and her regrets. The IDEA, that people who don't 'follow the rules' and get cancer again deserve their cancer ... that suggestion directly, indirectly, as hearsay or in casual conversation offends me to my very core.
It is wonderful that we have the tamoxifen option. No argument there. But we should never, for one second, fool ourselves into thinking that it's a guarantee, and that if you DON'T take it, you deserve the cancer you get. I wouldn't wish this on anyone! None of us would. I say again that I find an utter lack of humanity and support in that finger pointing, after-the-fact blaming. I would say so no matter where I heard it.
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I had dcis in right breast in 2011. Stage 0, low grade but er and pr positive with allred score of 8. I could only tolerate the tamoxifen pain a year. I gained 50lbs and it wrecked my sleep and thyroid. Now take levothyroxine. I' also type 2 diabetic now. I developed uterine polyps, heavy bleeding and genital skin rage from the tamoxifen. The gyno said tamoxifen is the gift that keeps on giving.
I' almost done yr out from diagnosis and every year spend You want respect, then give it. I haven't had it EVER. I've been blamed for something your brother and mom did REPEATEDLY! I shouldn't of been on supervision in the first place because of his lies and her enabling and lies herself...i'm here and continually bombarded of my past which YOU NOR TINA know factually anythin about. You draw your wrong conclusions and act like they're fact. YOU ARE ALWAYS WRONG. worrying it will come back because of not taking meds. Anyone in similar position??
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I had dcis in right breast in 2011. Stage 0, low grade but er and pr positive with allred score of 8. I could only tolerate the tamoxifen pain a year. I gained 50lbs and it wrecked my sleep and thyroid. Now take levothyroxine. I' also type 2 diabetic now. I developed uterine polyps, heavy bleeding and genital skin rage from the tamoxifen. The gyno said tamoxifen is the gift that keeps on giving.
I' almost 7yr out from diagnosis and every year spend months worrying it will come back because of not taking meds. Anyone in similar position??
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BLuewillows, I think even those who do take drugs (hormonals) worry every day about the cancer coming back. A vein running through these posts is the struggle, private or public, tearful of chin forward, to get the devil FEAR out of our heads and hearts and to allow us to live like we did BEFORE the day we heard those heart stopping words, you have cancer.
Pardon me, but can you speak more about genital skin rage? I used to get a bar of soap and lather up and now, don't even think about it! I feel all the time irritated and icky and uncomfortable and just miserable. I have had several suggestions of things to try and I know that vaginal and bladder changes are part of the package. But the genital skin rage, the feeling of being raw and irritated, this is new and I'm not loving it. Is that what it was for you? Just a raw, almost itchy, sort of burning, all the time feeling?
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Yes, I too have experience more frequent and UTI and overall irritated genital area....my OBGYN says to use NOTHING on the area...only water to wash the area. No soaps, no creams as these can and often irritate. For lubricant, she suggests organic almond oil. For me, these solutions have worked for me.
Good luck!
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runor Thanks for your comments regarding victim blaming etc. I have chosen not to take Tamoxifen and have felt very unwelcome on this website ever since making that decision. I used to find bc.org very helpful but comments like Michelle's have pretty much driven me away.
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Hi everyone...lets all try to remember that treatment options are a very personal choice. I'm happy for anyone who does well on Tamoxifen. However perspectives from those who have bad side effects vs those who do not are obviously completely different. We all need to respect and support all treatment decisions made without judgement.
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CD: I am curious if you mind sharing who your oncologist is? My oncologist is the same way and I live in Illinois as well.
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Tryler, I'm in southern IL and receive my treatment in MO through Siteman. Are you up north (aka Chicago, the only part of IL anyone knows about or considers IL 🙃) or in my neck of the woods?
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Hi,
jpBCfree, I noticed that you live in Los Angeles. I live in Pasadena. I follow an vegan and following a WFPB diet as well. Have you been able to find any doctors in LA that are supportive of a WFPB lifestyle?
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SJI, you are welcome.
Victim blaming is ubiquitous. I think often we do it without even realizing because it is mixed into us the minute we pop out in this culture.Now, some decisions we make DO carry negative consequences, like drinking and driving. Can the person who drinks and drives REALLY complain when they get in an accident? No. That person made a choice when they KNEW the negative outcomes.
But tamoxifen is not so clear cut. The outcomes are not known. Take it an do well. Take it and feel like hell. Take it and get no recurrence. Take it and get a recurrence. Take it and get no breast cancer but uterine cancer instead. Or a blood clot. Or a beard like a circus lady. Tamoxifen is hopefully a good thing, overall, but it is offered with a shrug and grimace and fingers crossed. Because, no guarantees.
It think it is important for women who had no problems to post that here. We NEED to hear a balanced view of outcomes because I believe it does offer hope. Women can give tamox a try hoping for the best but knowing that others have had hellish times and if it turns out to be hellish for them, there should be no guilt or failure attached to ditching it. And no stories of gee, if only you had toughed it out you wouldn't have cancer now or wouldn't be second guessing yourself later, beating yourself with guilt and questions. We all do the best we can with this stanky disease and we all have to draw our own line in the sand of what we are willing to tolerate. How far we are willing to go.
SJI, you ARE welcome on this site and indeed your voice is one that needs to be added to the mix. If you do not feel welcome SCREAM about it, because other sisters, feeling the same, can step out of the shadows and begin to claim their place on these pages. Because if there isn't a place for ALL of us, this is no place for any of us. Sharing must be open, honest, personal and NOT laced with threat and judgement.
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i agree, we are all different people who react to different things. We also come here for support. We should be supporting each other. Not fighting. I am on that has few side effects from Tamoxifen. I consider myself lucky, but i would never be rude to others who have nasty SE. I get enough of that from others.
Every one is entitled to their opinion. And welcome to share it. But i would hope we can all be respectful.
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runor.....rage was autoorrect typo...but rembering now I had a horrible itchiness on tamoxifen. It should have said skin tags....lol
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Bluewillows, too bad, I think rage is an appropriate word to describe the state of my vagina these days. I blame all my bad driving on vagina rage! Ha ha!
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Ladies, I am one of the blessed ones who has been taking tamoxifen for several years without any major problems. The hot flashes at the beginning seem to have gone away and having had 2 hip replacements my joint pain is much better. The hip replacements had nothing to do with tamoxifen, they were damaged before breast cancer. I started treatment in July of 2014 and so far no reoccurance, thank God. BTW I am 74 yrs old. Love, Jean
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Has anyone who quit Tamo (primarily due to bone pain) and switched to a different hormone therapy have an easier time and if so, which one?
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hello,
First time posting here.
I quit tamoxifen couple of times because of unbearable bone pain, night sweats, leg cramping, insomnia.... I have been back on it for about a year now but at a lower dose.
I'm at 10mg and definitely tolerating it better. But I'm also taking venlaflaxine/effexo - (anti depressant) which supposedly helps with some menopausal symptoms. My onc has been pushing to increase the dose back to 20mg and asked me to talk to my dr about increasing the dose of venlaflaxine to counter some of the side effects...
I'm very reluctant about this because of my medical history - I'm seeing her again in a few weeks so we'll see.
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Pleione, if you have to go up to 20mgs, see if you can take 10mgs 2x per day, even ask if you can increase it to 15mgs per day for one month and then up it. You might also be able to add in a small booster of elavil to supplement the effexor. Even 5mgs of elavil could be beneficial at night. Elavil/amitryptline has been used for pain relief, but too high of a dose can cause weight issues. If you are seeing a psychiatrist, they would be the one to figure out the combination of medications that will work for your situation. I have had some bone pain, and I do alot of walking to keep it at bay. Another thing that has helped with bone/musculature pain has been epson salts in the tub, and a dry bar of dove on my shin bone if it starts hurting. I know it is an old wives tale, but it does work. The more I move and walk, the less the pain is noticeable. If things get tough for me, I see an acupuncturist who is wonderful.
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Hi Ladies! I just wanted to share this because I found it amusing and we can all use a smile sometimes. So I have a 20 month old daughter who is learning all these new phrases seemingly daily. Well, after Momma stopped playing dress up with her and the winter hats yesterday, her newest is "Momma's hot flashing!" Because that's what I gave her for an explanation. I can only imagine the amount of times that is going to get repeated, possibly to perfect strangers!
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those of you who have been on tamoxifin for a time and got SE , when do you see SE? is it immediate withing a day or two or does it cumulate over a few months?
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Mine came in a few weeks, not the same day. And then in another few weeks some of them eased off.
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CDV: Chicago suburbs.
I didn't get mine right away. I am hoping drinking more water helps with cramps.
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I got the muscle/joint pain within about 2-3 months. The nausea and dizziness didn't start for almost a year and then took another year to figure out how to get rid of it!
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Hi Shinee84
Yes, I live in LA too! Sadly I have not found a doctor who knows as much about Whole Foods Plant Based diet as I do...I get support from Dr. Greger's NutritionFacts.org and I'm planning on visiting the PCRM (Physician Committee for Responsible Medicine) in WDC this summer. My doctors are fine (Internist with Cedars, Oncologist with UCLA, OBGYN with Good Samaritan) but they don't talk to each other or really seem to explore beyond our 40 minute appointment. I'm in the process to trying to find a integrated doctor to help me connect the dots with all the blood tests, etc. Really would love love find a doctor who is fellow BC survivor!
cheers.
JP
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I had bone pain the entire time I was having the Herceptin infusions. I'm one month past my last infusion. I am also on Tamoxifen. I had zero bone pain pain before this. Mine is not in my joints , just the bones.
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I just started taking Tamoxifen on Tuesday. Dx at 30 and now almost 32, pre-menopausal, and SOOO not looking forward to any more hot flashes. Had bad ones from Lipton during chemo. Anyone else around my age have any feedback regarding se's with a similar situation as mine?
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Blownaway~ I am right there with you. Hard to determine whether it's the CIPN or Tamoxifen. I think it's both. Let me know what you figure out, ok?
Runor et al~ Let's support each other, and also remember that taking Tamoxifen does not mean we will not have reoccurrence. No magic pill, no illusions. I would never place all my faith in the pharma industry.
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