For Older People with Sense

Hi... I too would like to join this thread. I laughed at the tile " older people with sense." I am 62 yrs old with stage 1V bc. Since my diagnosis 6 months ago, it s changed my way of looking at life. I ve thrown my usual good sense to the wind in my determination to live each day to the fullest. In a way...I may be the one that has no sense at all.lol.... For example, I m usually a thrifty type of person but this week I bought 3 pairs of new Summer shoes. Did I need them? No...but they were on sale and looked great on me so I thought what the heck and bought them. My husband said jokingly, " I think your good sense has gone to the wind". So I felt I just had to join this thread when I saw its name. That being said, I have a great sense of humour and a positive attitude and simply don t have the time for negativity. I look forward to the support, encouragement and guidance and perhaps a little fun along the way

Ps...if I figure out how to insert pics on this thread, I ll post a pic of all my new shoes...lol...

Chrissyb! You re Amazing ..2009 diagnosed and stage 1V and living well. Would you mind sharing some of the positive lifestyle changes you ve made since your stage 1V diagnosis and also tips you ve learned that help that are practical and make good sense...lol....at least in theory...It seems that it s part of the puzzle of us all living longer with MBC.

I had my first 3 mo Onc appointment this past week and the Drs were pleasantly surprised at the improvement in my bone mets....My cancer is an aggressive grade 4 and scans showed my bone mets are almost all healed over. I m on Fas/Xgeva injections with just a couple of side effects.

When the Drs learned I lost 30 lbs in the 3 mo and on an exercise program, they were really surprised. They actually weighed me a second time...lol ..didn't t believe the scales I guess !

You will prob laugh but in Jan. I was supposed to see the cancer clinic s social worker and learn all that was needed for end of life but I cancelled the appoint. I remember thinking to myself " screw that plan...if I am going to leave this life, I m going to leave kicking"! Lol ..

And so began my journey to work on something positive and that felt I had control of....diet and exercise..It wasn't t easy at first I ll admit. but now it s just routine.

I m chuckling as I remember my Onc s last words to me last week after I told her I cancelled the social worker appointment. She said with a smile, " something tells me you re not going to need it anytime soon my dear"

As I left her office, wearing my new pair of peach coloured shoes and matching purse and scarf, I skipped feeling a few steps of happiness. Life suddenly feels good!

my ankles are coming along.. my left one is pretty good, my right one with all the hardware not so much. But I am vertical and threw away the wheelchair and walker. It's amazing how many muscles you use just to stand up if you haven't stood for 4 months. No weight on the feet really cramps one's style.

So good to see everyone. Wouldn't it be fun to see everyone in San Diego, especially a return from you Chrissy.

you are too funny Chrissy😎

Hi all,

Just discovered this thread and thought I'd jump in. So sad to hear that some (one?) of these threads can get contentious. Thankful that the ones I've visited haven't been. We need all the love, hugs and support possible.

Being diagnosed can send one right to the edge of a cliff, looking waaaaay down! I was a deer-in-the-headlights while waiting for any results. Lost 15 lbs, for loss of appetite, and couldn't sleep. Am nearly 3 years out now and doing great. Decided to have a BMX and not worry about future mamos, etc. Being small, I absolutely hated them! While there is some chest wall nerve pain, and the psychological stuff that comes with what we have gone thru, I'm alive and healthy and celebrate that.

Love how you ladies are so supportive of each other, though it is impossible to read all 300+ pages. LOL. Kudos for taking up photography, art, writing, whatever. Expressing oneself this way is so healthy. As an artist, I would suggest that you not worry about whether or not you're work is 'good,' whatever that means. Just do it and enjoy it for yourself. It will make your heart happy.

Interesting that someone earlier gave the name PTSD to what some of our reactions are to this whole exercise in living well, despite our surgeries and treatments. Therapy is helping me so much. And I'm told that time further out from our dx does as well. The hardest part is remaining neutral in the docs offices but that's getting much better with therapy as well. Helps so much to keep grounded.

Right now I'm dealing with a minor case of shingles on one side and it itches like crazy with anything touching it. The only thing that brings relief is a gel pack to numb the area for a bit. Wonder if putting a silicone foob in the fridge then wearing it would help. LOL Hope none of you have gone thru chest shingles. Yikes! We've been thru enough already, for heaven's sake.

Anyway, my CA numbers have always been low normal and I'm very thankful for that. Life is good and I'm healthier now than before because of how I've made healthy changes. Feels good to take care of my self; I deserve it!

Happy Easter, Happy Passover, Happy Spring, Happy Happy evreything and hugs to all!

Hi Egads007,

Love that name as that just about says it all, what we have all been thru.

But, as soon as you (someone else?) said PTSD, that resonated with me. And, I can readily understand how you feel around anything medical these days! Sooooo glad you're considering therapy. Don't give up on yourself if things start to feel uncomfortable at some point. That only means you're getting ready to expose some gold nugget that will help you. After all, considering what we have all been thru, exploring our feelings is a piece of cake!

I thought I was doing okay, too, till about a year later, I had a melt down and thought it was an 'anniversary' reaction. Just started crying without any prompting. Nope, it was just some stuff that was begging to come to the surface to be healed. I'm told that stuff like this, and I'm gonna call it the grieving process, won't go away till we look at it and own it and love it free. Denial doesn't work at all.

So hang in there and go for it! Better than being sick driving past anything medical. ;-)

Hugs, Judy

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