Stupid comments ....

Larkspur, haha thank you! They used to be sane. The Bible quote was fine- the curse part, etc....was not. Especially because the issues I'm dealing with are documented as known risks with chemo I got. Maybe I will call my doctors and see if they can do an exorcism instead of medications. 😀

Solfeo glad you got clarification. Good job advocating for yourself. Maybe she will learn something.

Not sure about you all but cancer has removed my filter and tolarnce level of crap. That isn't really a good thing for me. I will work on it. There is a balance I suppose

Lula

Honey badger, Thanks and so glad you got the "Pox on her" If what I was saying was that we don't get cancer b/c of demons or things we have done there is no evil to it's cause. And then I say a curse on her. It was weird and I couldn't resist. And it was fun. And I miss RaiderGirl too. She only lives about an hour and half north of me. She went back to work life and dropped out.

Solfeo so glad you got a decent reponse from the doc. Yes, if she had just listened................

Pink, glad you made her leave. The vanishing friends is a trouble. Then after DH died a few more vanished. I didn't have a big circle. Sucks. I have to find an old thread that may give you some laughs.

Honey-I believe in the Bible but I am shocked and angered by that post. We get cancer and God doesn't like us? If we don't get cancer that means we are 'blessed' ? My 'Christian' friends in general were the least helpful. Made me feel like I was contagious and condemned. Funny-I don't remember getting that message from the Big Guy. Now I'm hoping for karma

HoneyB - I think you're a saint if that comment only annoyed you! It would have made me blow a blood vein!

However, I ABSOLUTELY agree that all breast cancer is caused by demons. It's the truth! Take a pic of your boob and email it to her and ask if she can identify which demon in particular is causing you all that grief and maybe a little 'laying on of hands' might be helpful?

If demons and idiots are kissing cousins, suggest that your friend spritzes a little holy water on herself and see if her head spins around. If it does I hope it's on straight when it's done. Wow. That was ignorant, I don't care what your religious bleifs are. That was a cruel shot.

Lala, I am there, too. It is funny to see the look on people's faces when they realize that I am a little more outspoken than I used to be. Sometimes I just want to say, "I have been through a cancer diagnosis. Don't mess with me."

Pink, what Sassy says is true. That thread is hilllarious. You have to have a bit of a dry and twisted sense of humor. It is a coping mechanism for a lot of us, after all. I'm grateful I still have a sense of humor. Maybe the page 42 poster doesn't have one. I started reading that thread while I was doing chemo and even as a newbie, I was amused and, in a weird way, it gave me emotional armor to prepare myself for some of the very weird comments people make. I do think most mean well. Some seem to be making a dig.

Sassy I had no idea that happened or I forgot. Maybe I didn't get that far. That makes more sense on the avatar and name changes. That would be great if you could see or get in touch with RaiderGirl again. She may have needed to take a break for a while, like you did. I would have paid money to see your son's face with the tin hats story.

Perigrin, thank you!

Jumpship, yeah, the implying you are "blessed" when you do not have cancer or do not have health issues is what made me boil.

Lala1, sounds like you have reached a good place with a healthy attitude. I would consider myself optimistic most times as, as well. I enjoy a pity party on occasion. This evening was one of them. I suppose, like you and Perigren have described, I have developed quite a bit of candor.

Solfeo, it is funny to think of the little things that got under my skin before. I was really good about not letting things bug me during treatment. Afterwards, I was a bit cranky and no one else may have noticed things bothering me (fat chance) but they were BOTHERING me! Now I know it was the demon attached to me. (sarcasm)

Runor, I know several people have already told you but, girl, you have a way with words! You need to write a book. I will give you a passive-aggressive tool I use to not pop a vein...when I respond with "interesting," I really mean "WTF??" It gives me time to take a breath and decide whether I want to verbally rip out a jugular or if I want to try to show some grace.

If I missed anyone, I'm sorry. I appreciate the comments. Nice to have a place where people get it.

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Me, too! Runor comes up with some good ones!

I find this thread very humorous (in a sad way), too. And don't we need to laugh about all this with people who, yes, get it!!!

I actually went back and read a bunch of older posts. Some zingers in there. One I recall: someone who said their mom said they got BC because they were a vegetarian! I mean, who says that???

sas-schatzi - life is too short to take ourselves seriously. I will enjoy reading the craziness!

The one thing my cancer doctors did understand is why I chose to cut off a "healthy" breast. I had so many benign problems my entire life. First breast surgery at age 12 before I even had breasts to speak of. Too many diagnostic procedures and biopsies since then to count. They would never say so but I'm pretty sure the cumulative radiation over a lifetime was a major contributor, if not direct cause, of my BC, because it happened in the most problematic breast.

I didn't think I could live with the anxiety of frequent biopsies after cancer. Then big surprise! I'm still having the damn benign lumps after BMX! That's something I would have liked to know was possible before I had such drastic surgery, but I don't guess it would have changed my mind. I don't have to have diagnostic mammograms anymore, and so far the lumps have been easily identifiable as cysts in US because there is nothing obstructing the view.

The stupid comment part of this story, is that new non-cancer doctors always show their disapproval until I explain the reason why, and I don't think I should have to defend my choice at all. So what if there was no other reason than to remove the ticking time bombs and ease my mind? It's not up to anyone else to decide if it was the best choice for me.

Honey Badger, I'm truly dumbstruck that someone thinks that would be helpful.

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Lyn

Yes, I'm back. God people are still as stupid as I remember. And I've got one to add. Whilst in chemo and having no immune system, I got a fungal infection in my big toe nail. A month ago I finally had the nail removed and killed. There was woman in the waiting room with her teenage son who also had a infected toenail. So “mom" says to me, “At least my boy has an excuse, he plays football. You just couldn't be bothered to keep clean." Her son had already been taken back and we were alone in the waiting room. So I flashed my non-breast at her and said “Yupe, I'm so dirty I had to have my breast cut off." The receptionist dove behind the desk LHAO and “mom" just stared at me. I l told her 1 in 3 woman get breast cancer so she better start scrubbing hers with a pumice. Later the receptionist called and apologized because she had wanted to applaud me but didn't dare.

I hope pumice (made by God) hurts like hell...

I missed you all,

bride