Just got the call

Sorry to hear, you will want to know more the kind, size, grade, hormone status and her2 status. I was never sick after my diagnosis 6 years ago. Hopefully, your surgery and treatment will be uneventful too.

You don't have to tell anyone until you are ready. I told my husband and sister and that's it. You get to decide how you want to handle it. I am a very private person so I didn't tell many people even later on. I never went public on Facebook but many people do because they want the support.

I agree with the above. Sorry you are here, but welcome. Ask for a copy of the pathology report, your entitled. I also was very tight lipped on whom I told. That's just me. I know anyone I would tell would be supportive, but I just can't deal with the oh, I'm so sorry words and look.

Do what feels comfortable for you.

KimYR, I don't have any advice but I know what you are going through because I just got diagnosed. I am also Stage I but that doesn't make it any less scary because cancer is cancer. I'm sorry you were alone when you found out, I was also alone. I really thought that it was going to be just a cyst or a benign tumor. I've only told my immediate family and one friend. I'm not sure who I want to tell about it either because I don't want to be the cancer mom either. It is all starting to sink in though and I do think the more support you have the better.

Hugs.

Hi Kim,

Sorry you had to join this group. I got the call last week. I'm 39 with a 4 year old, about to be 5 year old girl. I get, as we all do, the emotions running. The day of my call, I had to leave work for the day. I couldn't do it. The next day was a bit easier. I was better around people, it's harder for me to be sad when people are around. I make inappropriate jokes instead. Once I had that day of not dealing, then I started to feel a lot better about what was going on and what was going to happen. Not better as if it didn't happen, but better than the day before.

Like another poster said, you don't have to tell anyone. I'm more of the writer, so I made it apart of my blog and shared it through social media. That's how I cope. You have to figure out what makes it easier for you to get through the day and if it's people not knowing quite yet or until you are all done with this, then that is what you do. Good luck!

Agree with above, you can't stage at this point, they may have meant grade 1. Grade is the aggressiveness of the cells (grade one is low grade, closest to normal in cell division), while stage 1 means it is local and hasn't spread to lymph or other parts of the body.'

Tell who you are comfortable. I started a messenger group with my closest of friends (because I have moved a LOT and they are everywhere, but not with me lol) so that I could repeat my stories once and not over and over. But everyone is different. Just make sure you have someone to talk to, it might not end up being the person that you think it will be either. My very best friend who is far away felt very helpless to be there for me and it was causing her so much anxiety I finally quit telling her much. Others were much more supportive for me in the moment.

Try to take it day at a time. Make sure you do lots of self care. This is stressful.

And yes, you need the MRI and a breast surgeon. Make sure you get references and feel comfortable with them. If not, find another.