surgery for stage one breast cancer

She needs to have surgery.

'You' can find all sorts of 'gobbled goop' on line that has no basis in FACT. Anyone can write whatever they want and because it's their personal agenda they can post it. Did you ever hear of the Laetrile hyp that was foisted off as the 'Cure for All Cancers' back in the '60's. And how many gullible people fell for it, went to Mexico where it did have at least some approval for use. And how many died because of it not 'curing' a thing, only allowed the cancer to progress until it was too late for tested medical TX to do anything.

I was 63 when DXd. Without a mastectomy, after neoadjuvant Chemo to get it to where surgery was even an option if I wanted to live. Live I did and am enjoying, loving, living every day I have been blessed with to the utmost 8 yrs after DX. I do everything again (if I need to) in a heart beat.

Suggest to your Mom to write all her question down when she thinks of them - make a second copy to ha d to her Dr so that all her questions can get an answer from her Dr(s). Another good idea is to use smart phone to record what the Dr actually says so it can be reviewed later in his/her exact words, not just what she thought the Dr said and wrote down at the time. If what is said is not understood, then keep asking til the answer is put in words that are understood.

You didn't mention what type of BC or her ER/PR status or HER2 status. These come into play with the TX plan. Also her overall health going into whatever TX, can be a concern with the TX options. For me there were no health issues to be concerned about as my only 'isssues' were osteo arthritis in upper back (been there for yrs before DX) and osteopenia (again years and a huge family HX of it) so I was healthy going in. (Still am.)

Unless she has issues with mental ability and is a legal Ward of the Court or an individual, her decisions are hers to make no matter what they are without undo pressure to do the wishes of another. It is hard to do but put aside your personal choices (what you THINK you would do now IF in the same position because you aren't) and truly LISTEN to what she says - not 'hear' what you want to or push your opinions her.

Bottom line - it is HER life for HER to make HER own decisions on what TX (or even no TX) to do with information from her Drs. I was fortunate as our 31 y/o at the time Son and Hubby ( of 34 years at the time) never tried to influence me but whole heartedly supported my decisions to fight with everything that was offered. They did get together and come up with how they were going to take over all that I did so all I had to do was fight the Monster but if I wanted to do something they were handling on a daily basis, I did/could if I wanted/felt like doing but if I didn't - everything (house, meals, dogs, bunny, horses) was taken care of by them.