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  • rlk58
    rlk58 Member Posts: 155
    edited August 2017

    Thinking of you Val.Sending you love and prayers.

    Rhonda

  • rdeesides
    rdeesides Member Posts: 459
    edited August 2017

    MakeupLover -

    Sorry I have no advice re: reconstruction. I will be in the same position. But YAY for the Pet Scan. :-)


    Rebekah

  • Sam0623
    Sam0623 Member Posts: 110
    edited August 2017

    MakeupLover- I am your age (just turned 32) and am having a bilateral mastectomy with immediate reconstruction the beginning of next month. I made this decision pretty early on, but wavered a little because I know the healing time for a lumpectomy would be much shorter and easier (I hate the idea of not being able to pick up my kids for a month). I don't have any gene mutations, but my surgeon still thought the more aggressive surgery was warranted due to my young age.. She said even without the gene mutation my risk of developing a new cancer over my lifetime is higher because I've already had one (and another surgeon told me having one would reduce my chance of getting a second cancer by as much as 95%). The NP at my oncologists office also said she would do the same thing (she is around our age) because long term she thinks it will reduce my anxiety about every lump or bump I feel in my breasts (mine are pretty lumpy). My husband will support whatever decision I make, but was very upfront and honest that he would rather I have the mastectomy. It is such a personal decision, but for me (who was always such a modest person before this) after being examined by 20+ doctors/nurses and the various tests which required me to undress in front of so many strangers, I have become totally unattached to these things and they are just a unnecessary body part at this point.. I do however still want the reconstruction so I look normal- after 2 kids they may even look better! If you really aren't sure, one thing to keep in mind is you could always have a mastectomy after you have the lumpectomy if you change your mind, but you can't undo a mastectomy if you did that first. Good luck with your decision!

  • Shopgal2
    Shopgal2 Member Posts: 649
    edited August 2017
    • so sorry about your friend Val.

    I wanted to check in and ask for prayers. I had my endometrial biopsy and d&c surgery yesterday. I am doing ok as far as recovery but the doc said that the vaginal ultrasound that was done before showed a suspicious cyst on my left ovary. I actually read the report on my medical file online from my hospital and it read as possible neoplasm. The doc that did my surgery said he thought the original radiologist overread the results. I damn well hope sure. I am so nervous that it will be positive for ovarian cancer. The doc said I should get pathology results by fri. Either way he said possible hormone treatment and/or surgery. I'm really scared. I had a cat scan in March of my abdomen that was normal. And now just a few months later I have a large suspicious cyst on my ovary. Im not mentally ready to deal with a new cancer. This sucks. And I tested negative for gene testing when I was first dx 2 years ago. I can't think of having a full hysterectomy at 47. My mom had a partial heand developed issues with eliminating urine right after and had to catheritize herself daily to urinate. That is a fear for me also since I dealt with urinary hesitancy during my taxol treatment. Just can't think about more cancer now. Life is sometimes not fair. I have a huge 2 week trip to Amsterdam, Paris, & London booked and paid for that is in October. It was something I was looking forward to. Now as i am just past my 2 year mark since my reexcision I am facing another August surgery and a September where i may possibly be starting chemo. I'm just mad at cancer today. and thanks for listening.

  • Batesburg
    Batesburg Member Posts: 199
    edited August 2017

    Shopgal

    Please think positive about possibility of cyst being CA. I know it is so difficult NOT to "go there" after having cancer. I had two thyroid nodules biopsied just about a month ago and I was SURE it was cancer because one looked very suspicious via ultrasound....well, after MANY biopsies (5 in each nodule), both came back negative. I was walking around severely depressed because I was sure I had CA again. It is so tough until we get results. I am so sorry you are going through this.

    I also realize that after such a scary experience such as breast cancer it is difficult to "trust our bodies" again. At least it is like this for me. Seems to me that CA could be the least likely given the fact that cysts show themselves all the time on ovaries. These radiologists have to call out each and every possibility and I am convinced with a cancer history they become even more anal- kind of like a CYA attitude.

    I hope you get a call sooner rather than later and please share the GOOD NEWS with us when you do learn the results.

    Janet

  • Shopgal2
    Shopgal2 Member Posts: 649
    edited August 2017

    thanks Janet. I'm trying hard not to panic. I so need my tn sisters to keep me calm and share their stories and experiences. I guess I'm just feeling that anxiety before biopsy results. Plus I feel so bloaty today post op.

  • Abloorable
    Abloorable Member Posts: 21
    edited August 2017

    Thinking of you xx 😘 hang in there xx

  • HeartdesiresLife
    HeartdesiresLife Member Posts: 59
    edited August 2017

    Dear Shopgal2 - it seems to be the radiologist's job to overread because of course the goal is not to miss anything. So try your best to sidetrack your mind and concentrate on your glorious trip! Until something definitive comes out, that trip is still on.

    I truly admire you - I'm the one who can't even look at travel websites right now.

    I'm cheering you on!!!

  • Cathytoo
    Cathytoo Member Posts: 667
    edited August 2017

    ShopGal...stay positive. Sending prayers. Amsterdam, Paris and London are waiting for you‼️


  • LoveMyVizsla
    LoveMyVizsla Member Posts: 813
    edited August 2017

    Shopgal, we are definitely here for you. It could very well be a cyst. I had a partial hysterectomy, kept my ovaries, before breast cancer. It wasn't too bad. Try to take cleansing breaths and dream about your trip. Let us know as soon as you get results.

  • rdeesides
    rdeesides Member Posts: 459
    edited August 2017

    Shopgal-

    I'm sure they are being extra cautious, which is really a good thing even if it's super stressful for you. Hang in there! I will think positive thoughts for you!

    Rebekah

  • MakeupLover
    MakeupLover Member Posts: 64
    edited August 2017

    hello again everyone :)

    I had a wonderful consult with the plastic surgeon. She was super nice and understanding. She explained two options for reconstruction, pros and cons for both etc. Well after meeting with her I feel more confident in going down the double mastectomy with reconstruction route.

    I still want a second opinion though and have an appt for that this coming Thursday. My surgery is already schedule for August 30, eeek! So I have to move fast. I have to let my job know as well lol.

    Sam, I also thought long and hard about lumpectomy vs. mastectomy. Everything you said, my doctors said as well. I guess it makes sense to decrease your risk as much as possible or recurrence and double mastectomy offers that. I would hate to do a lumpectomy and then have a recurrence somewhere down the line, I do know that nothing is guaranteed and even with a mastectomy cancer can come back. Lets hope not!! I wish you the very best for your surgery! Please keep us posted.

    Rebekah, yes I'm so happy the pet scan was clear!! how are things going with you?? what are your next steps, I think you are doing chemo first?

    Shopgal, I will keep you in my thoughts!! Enjoy your trip :)

  • rdeesides
    rdeesides Member Posts: 459
    edited August 2017

    MakeupLover-

    Good news that the PS was able to help you feel more confident about your surgery decisions. I am doing chemo first so have time to think about that. What will you do for Recon?

    I am going in for port placement today. I know so many of the ladies here have done it and said it wasn't horrible, but I'm pretty scared. Im going by myself and husband will pick me up after. Now thinking maybe I should have found someone to come with me. I hate disrupting anyone's schedules though... people have to work etc... Something to consider for when I do have surgery though. I tend to always think I will be fine on my own, but sometimes we do need help.


  • Shopgal2
    Shopgal2 Member Posts: 649
    edited August 2017

    rdeesides the port surgery wasn't bad. Just sore after. Ice and Tylenol helped.

    Thanks everyone for the encouragement. I esp needed it today. It definitely was a Xanax day. I just need to stop my racing thoughts. Plus I'm just extra crampytoday.

    Makeup lover sounds like you have come to peace with your decision. Always go with your gut. Most of us have had second thoughts on our decisions but you make the best decision with the info you have at the time. Do not look back and second guess. That just is not good. Trust me on this. And a second opinion will settle your mind.

  • Batesburg
    Batesburg Member Posts: 199
    edited August 2017

    Thinking of you, Shopgal and rooting for you BIG TIME.

  • Valstim52
    Valstim52 Member Posts: 1,324
    edited August 2017

    Hey Shopgal. Rooting for you. I so feel you about it not being fair, and the fear of a hysterectomy which causes it's own problems.

    My vaginal u/s in Feb 2017 showed a cyst on my left ovary. After the radiologist looked again and my MO they said it will correct itself or stay the same, as I'm post menopause. I was told by 3 different dr's that a cyst is different from a mass or growth on the ovary. I've had them in the past and they have disappeared. The worst one was when they did a biopsy and it burst. I was in pain for weeks.

    I've had a stomach ct, pet etc. It's easier said than done not to , but don't borrow tomorrow's anxiety today. With this beast of a disease, so many things come up, that if we had not had this dx, I feel would be handled differently.

    Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts about losing my friend. Devastated does not begin to explain my feelings.

    For those contemplating lumpectomy vs masectomy, you have to get your info, opinions and then be comfortable in your decision. We are all so different, our worries, concerns etc. I can say that radiation has almost made it impossible for me to consider recon at this time. My skin is so damaged. Good thing I knew this going in.

  • ALHusband
    ALHusband Member Posts: 344
    edited August 2017

    Has anyone heard anything at all about our friend Annie? (Cocker Spaniel)

  • VL22
    VL22 Member Posts: 851
    edited August 2017

    Rebekah- hope the port placement went well for you today. I managed to get a really nice nurse to get my chemo start date moved to tomorrow, which is when I'll get my port putin. Isn't it crazy to want to start chemotherapy? Sad we are here, but I'm always impressed by the strength of the women here.

    Hang in there ladies!

  • rdeesides
    rdeesides Member Posts: 459
    edited August 2017

    VL22 - I never thought I would say I was excited to start chemo, but here we are and I am ready and eager! I just want this all to be over! FYI when you do yours it isreally not at all bad. I had more anxiety than I needed to have

    Port insertion was perfectly fine. A little sore in my neck. Hopefully that doesn't last too long. No pain where the port is inserted.

    There was a small hiccup with my heart during surgery. I think they said it was palpitating. They said it happens sometimes. Cardiologist came and checked me out and they did a chest xray and said all is fine now.

    So far, so good. Just want to keep taking steps forward! Let's bring onchemo!!!


  • HeartdesiresLife
    HeartdesiresLife Member Posts: 59
    edited August 2017

    Dear Rebekah, I hope the chemo sessions will go very smoothly for you.

    VL22, good luck with the port placement and chemo tomorrow.

  • MakeupLover
    MakeupLover Member Posts: 64
    edited August 2017

    Rebekah, glad your port placement went well!

    Keep us posted on your chemo :)

    Hope everyone else is having a good day!

  • 6feetover
    6feetover Member Posts: 320
    edited August 2017

    @ALHusband: I was just thinking about her this morning. I truly hope she's ok. Has anyone messaged her daughter?

  • VL22
    VL22 Member Posts: 851
    edited August 2017

    Port placement went well - Sitting inchair waiting for infusion. Eating a very good donut!

  • rdeesides
    rdeesides Member Posts: 459
    edited August 2017

    VL22 -Yay! Two big steps! Hope chemo goes smoothly

  • Valstim52
    Valstim52 Member Posts: 1,324
    edited August 2017

    I too hope Annie is ok. Here is hoping for news and updates.

    Rebekah glad port placement went well. Hoping for smooth chemo (if that is even a possiblility) and few side effects.

    To all just embarking on this boat of bc, sending virtual hugs.

  • ScotBird
    ScotBird Member Posts: 650
    edited August 2017

    Shopgal So sorry for the scary uncertainty you are going through. Your trip is definitely going ahead until and unless you have to postpone it for some reason. The assumption must be that everything is OK until you have more news, right? Hang in there, there's no point in worrying. I know it's hard but we're all cheering you on.

  • MakeupLover
    MakeupLover Member Posts: 64
    edited August 2017

    Rebekah, when do you start chemo? How is your port healing? As for reconstruction I'm liking the idea of DIEP flap, how about yourself?

    VL22, how was your first chemo?

    All, after having my second opinion, my treatment plan has switched to do chemo first, then surgery, then radiation. The doc I met with today agreed with all the findings, her only suggestion was chemo first since I'm a candidate and to reduce the number of lymph nodes that have to removed in surgery, as to prevent lymphedema. I was grateful for her opinion. I called my current doctor and she agreed, saying she was thinking about suggesting this to me as well. I feel happier going this route.

    I have an oncologist appt this Monday, an appointment with a fertility doc on Tuesday. What typically goes on during your first appt with an oncologist? Are chemo drugs and schedule discussed?

    *hugs to all*

  • VL22
    VL22 Member Posts: 851
    edited August 2017

    Hi MakeupLover- first chemo went very smoothly. When I got home I felt extremely fatigued, but I think it was more from the twilight drugs to have my port put in - in total I was at the hospital for 7 hours.

    I woke every couple hours last night, when I usually don't, but I woke up feeling fine. Probably the steroids in the premeds. Port feels great. I made breakfast and walked dog for 4 miles!

    So glad you're moving along! First appointment will be going over your chemo regimen and setting start date. I asked about the Neulesta shot, and they checked with my insurance company and it covered the one that is this little pod that is attaches to the back of your arm after chemo - 27 hours later it gives you a shot and you remove it an hour later. Saves returning to the hospital.

    Hope all goes well - you will so much more at ease knowing the schedule and getting the first one done

  • rdeesides
    rdeesides Member Posts: 459
    edited August 2017

    VL22 - Your port feels great?! I am so happy for you and have been thinking about you since we both got ours in at the same time. I do NOT feel great at all. I am going to email my doctor today. Although, I wonder if I should take a long walk and if that will help. I know exercise makes a big difference. My entire body is sore. I will try that this evening!

    MakeupLover - Sounds like we are going to be going along together through treatment! I wonder when you will start chemo. I meet with my oncologist on Monday too! My first meeting with her she just wanted to examine me and generally talk about what was going on. She is making me come in again to actually go over all the information I will need to get started with chemo. I still had one biopsy result that we were waiting for last time I saw her, so she was hesitant to give me the chemo regimen then, thinking that the results of the biopsy may sway her decisions one direction or another. If you already have all your test results back, your MO may be ready to give you your chemo regimen. Let me know how it goes!

    Rebekah

  • Batesburg
    Batesburg Member Posts: 199
    edited August 2017

    Shopgal, any news??

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