Scared and alone

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. It's hard enough to deal with when you have good support and timely tests. To have neither right now - I don't know that it would be possible to overreact, really.

Everywhere is different. When I called the OB/GYN office about a lump I had found, they were able to schedule me to see a doctor within two days. That doctor called the radiology center and got me in the same afternoon for a diagnostic mammogram and ultrasound. The center scheduled me for a biopsy two days later. So, in my case, from my first call to the OB/GYN office to having a biopsy was less than a week. If I were you - I would discuss this delay with your doctor. It's possible that they can make arrangements for you to be evaluated sooner. They most likely don't even know about how long everything is taking.

That said - many people do have to wait for a pretty long time. And even if it turns out to be cancer - most are slow growing and most people would say that a matter of a few weeks won't really make any difference. But it certainly makes a difference in how you feel!

Sorry you're going through this Jennmommi! I'm in the waiting phase with you, and it is SO hard. And having a support system is so important. Lean on this group for sure, and I'm happy to listen anytime. Feel free to private message me.

I'm in the middle of the process. I didn't find anything, but went in for my FIRST mammo at 40, like I was supposed to. I actually went the week my mother in law passed away, which was crazy but I didn't want to change the appt. So they called me back the day my daughter was graduating to tell me they needed to screen my right breast again because it was dense. I was pretty cool then. Had the 2nd mammo and had to wait about half an hour, when they told me they wanted to do an US. They did that right away, and decided they wanted to do a core needle biopsy of the area. That appointment I couldn't get for 2 weeks. Had that done, waited 4 days and got b9 results (yay), but then the next day my gyn sent me a note that she saw PASH in my results and thought I should see a surgeon for a 2nd opinion and maybe have that removed. I was still OK, and the surgeon couldn't see me for a over a month (so 8/10). I was still cool. Then last week the radiologist called and said she didn't like the pathology results, felt they were discordant with what she saw, and I should see a surgeon and she was going to recommend having the area removed.

So from my first mammo to the surgeon appt is like 2 months! And I'm reading like crazy, and have convinced myself I do have cancer and they missed it on the biopsy. Waiting is awful.

My hubby is good, but only for coming to appts. I don't think anyone realizes that we really need support all the time, because it's ALWAYS on my mind. Sometimes in the back of my mind, sometimes it's all I think about. I also have anxiety attacks usually, and it's MUCH worse right now. My mom also just moved in with me too, which is NOT helping at all. And everyone in my life is just going about their normal day, completely not acknowledging that this is looming.

I'm so sorry you have to wait, but like NotVeryBrave mentioned, even if it's malignant, nothing is going to change much in a few weeks. But it doesn't help your mental state at all. I would talk to your doctor. Maybe if she can explain to the center that you have severe anxiety and need to be seen sooner. You don't want this to cause long term damage at work or home. I was a basket case yesterday at work and literally was biting people's heads off. It was awful. Today, I'm much calmer (of course I took Xanax with breakfast, so that helps lol).

Just know you're not alone. There's a whole bunch of us here, stuck waiting with you. Sending you hugs and positive thoughts!

Personally I think that is a ridiculously long time to wait. I would be talking to the doctor to see if they could talk to them and get you in sooner. All my initial testing was done in just a few days so we knew what we were dealing with. Took about a month to get through everything and start treatment. I'm not sure where you live but I'd be pushing a little.

I agree with Legomaster. Four weeks is a long time to wait for a biopsy. I would push for an earlier appointment if I were you or even check out some alternative breast care centers.

I'm sorry you feel so alone; does your breast care center have a support group? ((Hugs))

Hmm, it might not be an emergency, but if I suspected nodal involvement, I wouldn't want to wait four weeks, especially if I suffered from depression and anxiety. You would hope that the breast care center would "triage" Jennmommi up the line if the radiologist thought time was of the essence, but there's no guarantee of that.

By the way, I had my biopsy a week after my mammo/ultrasound. Within a month, I began chemo.

it could be an emergency if there is nodal involvement. You have to be your own advocate. I most definitely would be calling to request an earlier appointment and/or put my name on the cancellation list.

Sorry you're still waiting on results, Jennmommi, but I am glad that you've gotten the biopsy done and will know soon. We are here if you get any confusing results. Hoping for b9 results for you as well!

So glad you got back b9 results! Go celebrate!

So happy for your benign results! I had an axillary lymph node removed 2 years ago that was benign.

Now I'm sitting here waiting for a stereotactic biopsy tomorrow due to a cluster of microcalcifications in left breast. For some reason tomorrow's procedure (outcome?)has me more anxious than the lymph node procedure. I feel like I should be up and about getting things done, but I can't get myself motivated.

I guess I'll just take a "me" day and read all the supportive messages here. Everyone is so supportive in ways that others (irl) who haven't been through the tests and the waiting don't really get.