My 30 year old daughter just had a core biopsy

I'm sorry SimolySammi. The waiting is the worst. I had my the results of my biopsies pretty quick. I know it must be so hard as a Mom to have a major health issue with a child. Don't over google your research just yet. You will always find yourself going to the grimmest places and worst case scenario pages. There are many successful treatment options should it become necessary and this is a great community to help answer questions and explain things. Stay as positive as you can and I'll keep you in my prayers. Hopefully you will hear something soon. I'm sorry about the recent loss of family members and your moms troubles. .

I am so sorry to hear these results. Your daughter can get through this! I will keep her and your family in my thoughts and prayers. (Hugs)

I was diagnosed stage IV from the beginning just 7 months ago at age 41 and while it initially feels devastating, it does get better once you have a plan and some control back. This can turn out pretty well in the lower stages and even not so bad as MBC depending on the location of mets. There are threads here for younger ladies and those in their 30's specifically, I would recommend this site to you and your daughter, the support and information here are so valuable.

SimplySammi, - I can imagine how difficult this is for you, as well as your daughter, - but she WILL get through this and be ok!!

My daughter has a 32 year old friend who is also dealing with BC. She, too, is single and was able to harvest her eggs before beginning treatment. She had a dbx, and has only one chemo treatment left. She used cold caps so she kept enough of her hair to avoid needing a wig. Her friends all pitched in to help with the caps on chemo days. She stayed with her parents for 2-3 days after each treatment, but then returned to her own apartment, and to work, and social events. She was able to join a group for young BC patients, - perhaps your daughter can find one, too!

Oh Sammi, I am so very sorry to hear about your daughters bc! We are here to help her and you. Please let us know what you both need. There are forums full of different threads about IDC, chemo, surgery (discussing various types of surgery and reconstruction). If you are looking for something and can't find it, just let us know. The wealth of experience and support here is immense. Sending you both warm thoughts and gentle ((hugs))

simplysammi, do you think it would be helpful for your daughter to join the forums here so she can start to get information that will let her make treatment decisions with her team?

" Her mind always races from one thing to another so she's actually not thinking about all this BC stuff right now as much as I am." which is certainly fine, a respite from "all bc all day" is helpful. I just wonder if she is getting up to speed on the lingo and treatment options (pros and cons) so that she can make decisions for herself. It is a steep learning curve (as I'm sure you've experienced reading through these forums). At 30, she is certainly old enough to possibly have different opinions about what treatment she wants. While wanting her Mom to collect all the info and schedule the appointments etc is understandable, it is also important for her to begin to feel empowered in her own treatment by active decision making. Actually initiating treatment (after much testing, deliberation and planning) is a common turning point for many women in their mental road to recovery.

This post was meant to be helpful, not critical. Having a loved one with bc cannot be easy. ((hugs))

Oh my goodness Sammi, your concern and role as advocate are most certainly understandable, not to mention commendable. I completely heard the love and concern for your daughter, no question. And do know that no one can be pushed into doing research about a scary health diagnosis - not helpful, and even potentially harmful in her case. It sounds like her current treatment team (for mental health) will be invaluable as well as the new bc treatment team. Bless your heart. I am sorry for my intrusion, I just wanted to welcome your lovely daughter to join us, but totally understand that she will engage as much as and when she is ready. You are doing a great job in using these forums to get up to speed. I do hope that you have support of your own, it sounds like you're carrying quite a load. Sending you and your daughter warm thoughts and gentle ((hugs))

I'm so sorry she is having to go through this. It is hard enough on us older women. So not fair.

Take care of yourself too.

I'm sorry you find yourself here. I, too, found this website and found comfort here when i found a lump. I had the core biopsy as well. My tumor was a big black blob on the screen and was moderately suspicious. The results came back as a benign Phyllodes tumor. Benign was great to hear but when I visited my oncology surgeon he said... "well it says benign but they want it out because they just aren't really sure". Well that burst my bubble! I just had surgery and the whole thing is benign. I'm 44 years old. Mother of 3. This was my first surgery but it had a happy ending. I know I will never be immune to BC but I can breathe again. I am hoping the same for your daughter. My mother was a mess as we went through this. I just wanted to share my story with you. Hugs. Renee

We are all in her corner. Fighting for her. My thoughts and prayers will include her!