breast cancer survior but feeling lost

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deann15944
deann15944 Member Posts: 2
edited June 2017 in Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts

im not sure how to start this but here it goes ......i feel like my whole world was turned upside down on december 10.2013 when i heard them words noone ever wants to hear im sorry the lump u found is cancer .i feel like i havent come back from it its like i dont know how to explain it like im living someone elses life i never went back to mine noone ever tells us anything never goes back to normal .i had to have chemo i had 16 treatment ,i had lythe notes taken out on my left side from under my arm ,i didnt need radation .i had my reconstruction on nov 14 ,2016 and i will be getting my nipple put back on june 26,2017 .im not sure why baut even after all this and getting a clean bill of health i still havent bounced back .i have my good days and i have my bad . i have no sense of humor so pretty much if someone tries to joke with me i take it wrong .i look at my body differently . alot of times i wear a bra ,a tank top ,and another tank top and if a shirt i have on shows any part of my breast scar i change till i find i shirt that hides it .im really having a hard time coping and i have moment where all i do is cry and feel so lost and alone

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  • Falconer
    Falconer Member Posts: 1,192
    edited June 2017

    DeAnn,

    It's good that you found us here. You are not alone. You are not alone. You are not alone.

    A breast cancer diagnosis and all of its effects is incredibly hard. Everyone, men and women, on these boards has been where you are at some time.

    One question I do have for you is are you taking adjuvant hormone therapy? That treatment can powerfully effect mood and must be taken into consideration by your oncologist if it is having particularly damaging effects on your mental health.

    Just before my diagnosis I felt I needed a therapist; I don't think it was coincidental. She has provided emotional support and healing. If you aren't already doing so, consider working with someone.

    With you.

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  • deann15944
    deann15944 Member Posts: 2
    edited June 2017

    no im not on a hormone theraphy and thank u so much for taking the time to reply to my post

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  • Falconer
    Falconer Member Posts: 1,192
    edited June 2017

    deann,

    Well that's good to know; it isn't medication. Does your health insurance cover mental health needs?


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  • MTwoman
    MTwoman Member Posts: 2,704
    edited June 2017

    deann, I agree with Falconer, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! There are so many of us that have been through similar circumstances. We do understand how difficult it can be to find our new "normal". It sounds as if you're not quite finished with your reconstruction surgeries, so it makes sense that you're still not comfortable with your new body. I also wonder if you have access to mental health support, either a therapist in private practice, at the hospital or someone at your local cancer support center. I think we all need someone to support us when we're struggling. We are here for you, but it might be nice to have someone local who you can meet with as well. What do you think?

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