Double mastectomy was a breeze but chemo scares me to death
I'm not sure if I've dealt with being diagnosed yet but I had a bilateral mastectomy 10 days ago and I emotionally dealt with it a lot easier than starting chemo on June 5th. It has been a whirlwind 34 days from diagnosis to this. Reading everyone's stories have helped but I'm scared to death of the side effects from chemo. With the surgery I knew what to expect and why bit with chemo it's the fear of the unknown. Help!!!
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GameOnIWin, check out one of the "Starting Chemo in..." threads. We have one for May, and lots of us have just started within the last week or so, so you might get some useful info there.
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Hi!
What chemo regimen has been recommended for you? I was nervous about chemo, too, but it wasn't too bad. I worked through chemo, though I was hardly my most efficient self. Of course, it's different for everyone.
Today, medical oncologists do a better job of preventing and addressing side effects. Some things can't be avoided (like hair loss in many cases, though cold capping helps many), but most of my side effects (e.g., heartburn and diarrhea) could be managed with over-the-counter drugs.
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GameonWin,
I've done both. For me, the BMX with DIEP flap was hard, but I have to admit the chemo was harder. Maybe because I had five months of it to slog through. But I did it.
I thought I would be totally debilitated for those five months, but I wasn't. I had crappy days, but I also had plenty of not so bad days. I managed to cook Thanksgiving dinner for 15 people a couple of days after my last Adriamycin (AKA Red Devil).
It sucks, but it's totally doable. Good luck. We're here for you
Trish.
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GameoneWin,
It's very understandable - I found the surgery a breeze ( well not quite but it was fine 😉) by comparison to chemo.
But chemo is doable. You will have some couch days and then some medium function/good days where you can get out, walk, drive, go for a lunch. Walk even for 5 - 10 minutes on your shittiest day and it help. Just get up no matter how you feel - that would be my strongest message
I think it much much harder if you have to work.
Lots of planning info on various past threads so keep reading. Most centres run a info session.
Without going into specific these are the broad areas to stock up on.
You will need some meal preplanning/freezing and some home help if possible. Take all offers. Order online if you have to. Herbal teas to hydrate - drink your fav but keep in mind your taste you change over chemo.
A list of what medictions to take for what side effects - and familiarise yourself with them now.
The list below is used by my centre ( obviously it needs to be individualised and proviso not allergic to anything!!)
Most centres will give you antiemetics with your therapy and two days of dexamethasone ( helps with potential drug reactions and the nausea)
Zofran - nausea ( can cause constipation)
Losec - reflux
Imodium - diarrhoea
Movichol - constipation
Loratidine - itch rash muscle and bone pain
Ativan ( lorazepam ) anxiety
Worth ascking to be prescribed a mild sleeping tablet - you do not have to take it if you do not need it.
If you are needle phobic a cream or patch called EMLA ( local anaesthetic in it) placed 30-45 minutes prior over the area will numb skin.
There are others but I would call the above the basic kit.
And a few surrounding comforting things for when you are flat - fresh linen, music, and DVDs worked for me.
It plays with your smell so perfumed anything does not help. Cheap clean natural creams/oils are best.
Biotene, natural yoghurt, baby toothbrush and toothpaste helps with mouth hygiene.
Some centres prescribe oral dexamethasone mouth wash but I go with natural Greek yoghurt any day for ulcers.
Make a decision about your hair now - multiple options com cold caps, synthetic wigs ( choose your current hairstyle in a wig if that how you'll go), wraps. Find a good pencil that matches your eye browses - you will loose some at some point. Get a lighter colour lipstick - your face will be paler all round.
Decide on a couple of comfortable outfits for home and out and keep that smart and simple for this time.
Find a class - yoga, reiki etc that you can go once a week so you have a little pocket away from home.
You can do this!!😊
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My oncodx score of 34 came with a strong recommendation of chemo. My gut said don't do it. I was so afraid of the side effects and permanent damage. Also the hair loss issue was huge for me. No one ever mentioned cold capping. But even if I knew about capping and medications to address side effects, I flat out couldn't accept that it may save my life. I am over 5 years out NED.
It is like you need a crystal ball when deciding your treatment. It makes me so mad we don't have safer treatments. We shouldn't have to take dangerous drugs and pray and hope it keeps the cancer away. We need a cure.
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