Enjoying your 30s...and breast cancer!
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Hey, lottemarine, did you pay privately for genetic testing? My genetic counsellor said QLD health will only fund genetic testing for high risk patients. I was able to get testing for one gene (tp53 - negative) but not anything else.
She also said the same thing: I probably have a mutation but we don't know what yet.
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Hey Bluekoala,
I got the brca testing done through the public system, but I waited a year for the results (didn't think it would be that long)..yeah i have heard of other ladies who have been denied it..which is kinda crazy, I'm not too sure but maybe because of my extended family history they decided I could have it. My oncologist approved the testing.
I was given the option of going private (I'm with bupa), but it costs thousands even though I hear the results come back in 2-3 weeks. At dx they also found calcifications in the other breast and I have heard that you are at a higher risk of having a genemutation if found in both. Although it turned out to be benign, my onco still thinks it could be a precursor.
Yeah I definitely think there's a lot of us under 40 with some sort of mutation and give it 10 years or so, it will probably be discovered.
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apparently I can get because testing through Peter Mac in Melbourne for $450 now that they have my DNA on file. But it won't change anything, so I guess I will just wait until the next thing is discovered.
It would be nice to know for my sisters' and daughter' sakes.
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I had one maternal aunt with BC at 42. My Mom is 1 of 10 (7 girls). If you add my Grandmother that's 8 women. 1/8 is the risk within the general population. No BC on my Father's side. No other cancers at all within both families.
I tested negative for BRCA mutations and will have a full panel eventually.
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can I join this group? Diagnosed at 37 3 year old son. So devastated
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Hi Adelozier---of course you can join. When were you diagnosed? I was diagnosed at 38 (will turn 39 pretty soon)---my daughter is 4. It's hard.
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Of course adelozier. What were you diagnosed with? I was overwhelmed and cried a lot when I first found out, and for a while couldn't think about anything else. Since then I've gotten through the waiting, the surgery, the more waiting, and now am in the middle of radiation. I'm happy to answer any questions I can. I recommend putting your diagnosis in your profile and making it public because treatment options depend a lot on your specific diagnosis. There are tons of people here who will have advice about every part of it and will understand what you are feeling.
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I added what I could. I have not had the lumpectomy yet. I was just diagnosed yesterday. I am in shock and my.anxiety is over the top! The surgeon said from the ultrasound and mam my lymphnodes look good. I obviously don't believe her. She said she believes I caught it early. I Dont even know what to say. I'm getting a second opinion. The first doctor was mean and brass From the moment I.walked in.the door before any testing. My life is flashing before my eyes and I guess I'm just looking for hope. I have breast implants. I swear they caused this!
I also have three masses in the same area right beside each other. The largest is 1.8cm. I don't know what this means. Does that mean its spreading?
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Adelozier: When I first found out I couldn't think about anything else and I cried all the time. What helps is figuring out your plan. I also got a second opinion- it is a big thing, a second opinion is always good. I was so overwhelmed I couldn't even make that appointment myself - my boyfriend called for me.
You can definitely have hope - now that you know what is going on you can deal with it. Try making a list of everything you are worried about and all of your questions so that you can ask the next doctor you meet with. I know you are worried about it spreading but it doesn't spread that fast - you have time to get a second opinion and make sure you are comfortable with your surgeon. -
im so confused about it all. How can one person have a 1 cm mass and be stage 3 and another have a 4 cm mass and be stage 0,?
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DCIS is always stage zero. IDC is staged based on tumor size I believe.
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Adelozier, the stage depends on the size, lymph node involvement, and mets. Here's a link with the stages and criteria for each stage
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hi guys.. Feeling a bit alone and scared today.. Looking for encouragement and hope. I.want.to see my.little guy grow up!
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Adelozier, I'm not too far along this journey, but I can say that for me, the hardest time so far has been the weeks after diagnosis, but before we started DOING something about it. My mental/emotional state has improved as time has passed and we have developed and started a treatment plan.
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My bs stated she does not believe there has been any node involvement via biopsy, 3 d mam and ultrasound .. But cant be sure until snb. Has anyone heard this? My anxiety is so high. I'm getting a second opinion this week.
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Yes I was told that too. And then I had the SNB and she took out 4 nodes and they were all clear. You will see your little one grow up! You may have a rough few months but you will get through them. Bring someone with to your appointments if you can
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im traveling 4 hours away to be treated at cancer treatment center of america. I do not want treated around here. I will be there initially for three days. For more testing ect. Then we will go ffrom there. You are all ao upbeat and positive. I should really stay off the rest of the site. Thank you!!
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Adelozier- you WILL see your little one grow up! You are in the absolute worse part of this journey right now. Once you have a plan of attack you will feel such relief. I was in your shoes 11 yrs ago. I was 36 and my son was 9. I was terrified. I remember hiding in the bathroom to talk on the phone because I was worried about scaring him since I couldn't talk about it without crying. I just knew I'd never see him grow up. He is now 20 yo and I'm so proud of him!
A second opinion is always a good idea. Bc.org is the best place to gain accurate, up to date information and also a huge support group from those in the same position. Don't get wrapped up with dr. Google or statistics-some of them are way outdated.
Deep breath.... educate yourself..... gain all the facts about your cancer.... and kick some cancer butt. You have time to make the decisions that are right for you.
Alli
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well I had my surgery. Breast implants removed, breast lift and lumpectomy. Two days later I feel like I was in.a horrible car accident!! My husband says my breasts look great.. I dont want to look yet because of the drains and such. There was a pathologist in the or and the initial report says clear margins and no lymph involvement. My anxiety it through the roof. Just wanted to touch base!
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Great news about the nodes. Take it easy! The surgery is rough and it takes a while to feel "normal" again.
I know it's hard but try not to overdo it with your little one
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Glad to hear your surgery went well! Definitely try to get some rest....it will probably hurt for awhile. My lymph node biopsy incision hurt for a good while afterwards.
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I am numb fr under my arm to around my.shoulder.. Like novacaine! I have mo appt. Today. I know she is gonna suggest chemo based on my age. I don't know what to do.. Im so torn.
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Adelozier---not necessarily with the age thing. Were you early stage, like 1 or 2? With the er/PR positive tumors they usually send the tissue out for genomic testing to see if chemo helps. Your doc might have you do it anyway, but mine didn't--i was lymph node positive but the genomic testing said little benefit from chemo so my MO skipped it.
Please update us with what happens!
Make sure your doctor knows about the numbness, but it's normal because the nerves around the armpit are irritated from surgery. It took a couple of months for mine to calm down, and even now it's still a little numb. I know it feels weird!!
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Yes they said its stage 1 no lymphatic angio invasion and no lymph node involvement on preliminary report. Clear margins are exam in or. But they told me " chemo is just not something you can get out of at your age." Amd kept insisting I see someone to talk about freezing my.eggs ect... I am on my way back to philly for a follow up appt right now with my plastic surgeon and mo. Im.not sure if the oncdx or mammoprint will be back yet. I feel like they are gonna push it on me either way. Im overwhelmed hysterical sick n damned if I.do amd damned if I dont. I am highly allergic to most meds.
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If they tell you to do chemo and you don't think you need it, you can get a second opinion. It's not always an age thing. I'm 34 and don't need chemo. Ask them for the chances of recurrence with and without chemo
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Adelozier, I'm 39 and chemo wasn't part of my treatment plan until they found the four positive nodes during the sentinel node biopsy. I'd get a second opinion, if I were you.
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I wonder...the fact that they sent it out for Oncotype/Mammaprint means someone is checking on that. You know, I had the surgeon telling me that I'd definitely get chemo (because of age plus positive node), and went as far as trying to set up an appointment to get a port. The MO got wind of that and put the hold on everything until the Mammaprint came back. It's not that the doctors didn't agree, but chemo decisions just weren't up to the surgeon and she made an assumption based on older information. She was beyond thrilled for me when we decided no chemo.
It will be interesting to see what your oncologist recommends. In any event, don't stress yourself to the point of hysteria (I know, easier said than done). I remember that first appointment with the MO and the anxiety of the day, but you will get through it. One day you will look back with amazement at all you went through, and will know you are stronger than you could have ever imagined. And if you do end up needing chemo, make sure they are aware of your tendency towards allergy. They can handle that!!!
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today couldn't have went any worse. I had my breast implants removed with the cancer and a lift... Well it turns out my margins that were clear in.the or infact one has dcis!!!! this means a masectomy now most likely.. Im losing it completely!! I mean really losing it. I can't stop pacing and sobing. They don't know what this means for me at this point. They are taking it to the tumor board.. Whatever that is to discuss as to whether radiation can just take care of it. How can this even be? That had a path in the or!!!! Lymph is still negative but something about angiolympatic invasion and my ki76 ???? My mo never sent for a oncdx!!!! I had to insist today!! She told me they found 7.. Yes 7 tiny tumors!!!!!!! I'm literally sick.... I am looking at my.little boy picturing his life without his momma!!! She said based on the findings the oncdx is a waste and chemo eould be necessary anyway... wtf!!! Im so scared ..She told me "think positive"
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Wow...sorry to hear that. That's a lot to deal with. Having your case presented at the tumor board is a good thing though...that means your case will be discussed among the doctors so it's like getting a bunch of opinions at once.
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After weeks of lurking on the "Worried" and "waiting on results" boards, I find myself here. Every step of the way I was told "this is almost certainly benign" yet today I was told otherwise. I found a large lump back in early May that (seemed to me) came out of nowhere. I had that and a spot of calcification biopsied on Tuesday and both came back cancer - one was IDC and one was IDC inside DCIS. I'm 34 with a small child. Trying to think positive - I meet with a breast surgeon tomorrow and my husband is extremely supportive. It's just such a shock to be here....I really appreciate everyone who contributes to this community and shares information. Hugs to you all!
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