I HATE MY NEIGHBORS!!!
These f%ing @holes! They have been nothing but a pain in my butt since day one. I am a shy person and from the moment I met them they were in my face saying hi and bugging me. Not that this is the thing that gets me. But some time in October they ask my boyfriend if they can take us to dinner. He said yes...I said NO!!!!! No!!!!! Nothing good ever comes out of being friends with neighbors. Now when I say neighbors let me clarify. They live right below me. Imagine a house with an upstairs and a downstairs. They live in the downstairs. So they took us out to dinner. (Against my will) It seemed ok but the very next week the backyard (which was supposed to be mine) was completely redone so that I could nto garden there. I was NOT happy. So I asked my boyfriend to go and speak with the guy downstairs and ask him what area could be mine. The guy said that neither side could be mine since his wife had "put a lot of herself into the backyard". He walked away saying that they would talk about this latter. In the mean time the @sshole moved a bunch on $hit in the way of my car. Of course I backed over it, being that it was under my tire. So then Eric goes down again to speak with the jerks and asks them not to touch our things and not to block our entrance in and out of the driveway. We are still on October and for 5 days my entrance into the garage is blocked by them. So we ask them to please keep the garage free. They said that if they were ever blocking the garage then to have their car towed. Well they are legal residence of the building of a shared garage so I can't have their freaking car towed. So I start parking on the street. Then I start getting notes that my car is blocking their storage unit in the garage. Mind you I am parking on the street. So we move things around and try and free it up more. Now Eric has ONE plant that he has in a planter. He puts it in the backyard. The woman comes to Eric and says to Eric to "get his plant out of her yard". So Eric, like a fool moves the freakin plant. Now we have nothing in the backyard, nothing in the garage. We are just trying to lvie in this fucking building with out making problems. So a couple of days pass and I ask Eric if I can garden in the backyard. He says to me "let me go down and talk to them about an area in which you can garden." So he goes down there and speaks with them woman and she says he can't have any area. So Im frustrated. Im pissed in a manner of words. So I say well that is just not acceptable and call the landlord. I explain the situation and he is appalled and calls the woman a bitch (in other words). So he tells me I can use the left side of the yard. She finds out about it and starts slamming doors one day and banging on the walls. Im super annoyed and pissed off. The same evening their father parks in the driveway. Eric and I had had enough. He goes down there and asks if the car belongs to them and to please move it. The guy goes away for five minutes and comes back banging on our door so loud that I think he is going to break the glass on the door. Eric goes and answers the door and the guy gets in Erics face and yells at him "If you keep harrassing us Im going to call the cops on you." So now Im freaking out because Im not sure what Ive done to get the cops called on me. Im in a panic. So Eric calls the landlord and says "we need to talk". And he tells the landlord what happened so the LL comes down to mediate the problem. In the mediation the guy accussed Eric of making Vodoo dolls and of following him around the house and throwing things on the floor. Then he accuses Eric of peeping on his wife. Now IM SO insulted because Im sext too! Now come on. Just because I don't have boobs does not mean Im not sexy. So the outcome of this mediation is that Eric and I are no longer allowed to speak to them anymore. A couple of weeks pass with minor problems. I think ok this is not bad we can work this out. NO!!!! Tonight they turned their radio up so loud that my walls were vibrating. Now in our mediation they said should they make a lot of noise they would give notice of 48 hours. Not that Im holding to the notice but, I should go back a bit. Earlier this evening my BF was on the back stairwell and he dropped his glass and cigerette. He went down and cleaned it all up by when it fell it was noisy. Then when he went down their he slipped on the wet stairs and fell. Now Im embarrassed that he made this much noise but Im also not stupid. I know that this was pay back for his stupid clumsiness. Not to mention and I admit this is petty but for some reason we get a free newspaper delivered to this house. Just one newspaper. When we moved here I assumed it was theres and left it on the door step. When Eric went down there in Oct. to speak with them about the garden they called me dirty and said they were tired of cleaning up after me. Meaning the newspaper and junk mail that came to the door. So I started picking up the paper and all the junk mail and take out menus that got stuck to the door. Now this week I had enough. I figured they could pick up the newspaper just once. It has been sitting out there for over a week now. Now tell me why can't they pick the paper up just once. I feel like their freaking slave. Im pissed!!!! Is there any way to salvage the realationship? I hate these people and I don't want to keep hating them but IM MAD. Im SO mad. I want them to be quiet and I want them to pick up the freaking paper. Immature I know :-/
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I would bet we could all share the "Neighbor from Hell" story. Mine neighbor that was insane actally tried to get a restraining order for me and my 4 children, youngest was I think 9 at the time. She said that I supposedly coerced someone into assualting her. Like I have control over a mentally ill neighbor who liked to drink and do drugs????? He had enough of her antics and knocked on her door, when she opened it "WHAM" he punched her in the face. Her husband jumped in and she ended up with a sprained wrist. She lied and told the cops he had a gun and a knife on the 911 call. Our only regret is that he didn't hit her harder when he hit her! Oops! Did I think that outloud???? I could probably write all day long about the things she put us through, I leterally had the police knocking at my door everyday over her. I finally had to tell the police, either arrest me for doing something wrong or quit bothering me! I was ready to retain an attorney for them to talk to than have to put up with the harrassment! Alright, I will quit digressing. I hate to say this but the easiest solution is to find somewhere else to live and QUICK! I know it is not fair, but in the long run it will be easier and much less stress! If I were renting, which I wasn't but am now I would move in a heartbeat! That was a major factor in my deciding to move out of my house I owned years ago and was probably one of my better decisions. Sorry you are going through this, but if it gets beyond livable it is time to move! Stress is bad for your health!
LuAnn -
Ahhh Thank LuAnn. Its nice to hear Im not the only one with crazy neighbors. I look at the rental ads everyday and should something that I like become available I would probably take it. The rental market in SF just never seems to be good. :-( Tired of dealing with stupid stuff.
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PS what happened when you told the police to arrest you? Just curious I assume nothing happened. Ive kind of taken on that attitude of "go ahead, what are you going to do anyway."
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gwenn - I felt stressed just reading your post. I can imagine how bad it is for you. I'm sure you're in a difficult situation, because It must not be easy to find a place in SF. You were there first. Your only hope is your landlord. He needs to stick up for you. I can't believe how these people have taken over. You must be just sick. You don't need this agravation.
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Sorry but while I was reading your post I had to laugh. Not at you! Everyone has the 'neighbor from hell' story in their life somewhere. Especially if you ever rented and had to share close quarters like parking, yard, common walls, etc. My neighbor from hell was actually arrested for harassing me. He actions were that of a borderline stalker. The judge convicted him and he got a one year probation and a big fine. He finally moved. Hurray!
May I suggest a movie for anyone who has ever had a 'neighbor from hell'? Please rent 'The Burbs' with Tom Hanks. You'll laugh your arse off.
Also, the suggestion about moving is a very good one. In a battle of who's going to get the house, it would seem that you have lost since the landlord didn't side strongly with you. Its not going to get better. It never does. I would move, even if its a temporary place until you find a better more permanent place. Its just not worth it in the long run to try to win a conflict like this. You don't know these people or their past. Just because they look like a fine upstanding couple, you never know. -
Gwenn, is this the place you found after searching all last summer? You've had such a tough time with your housing. I don't have any great advice, except, I would just do my thing and ignore them as best I could. It might also be a good idea to write down when specific things happen. Then when you do have to discuss it, you have dates and times.
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When I told the police to arrest me or leave me alone, he didn't have much to say and left. That was the last time they knocked on my door. Unfortunately not the last time we heard from the "Neighbor From Hell". But if this helps the old saying "What goes around come around" seemed to ring true in this case. I could write a whole book with everything we went through on our block, but the lady finally crossed the line and ended up being arrested herself several times. She now has a felony conviction on her record as well as several misdameanors. If she so much as runs a red light her probation will be revoked and she will go to jail for 2 years. Keep the faith, it will come back to bite them in the A$$.
LuAnn -
Oh wow...I too felt stressed just reading your post. Luckily I have wonderful neighbors. I too would just start looking for someplace else to live. You certainly don't need the stress...none of us do. I know moving is hard but it sounds like living with these people is even harder.
Hugs and the best to you
Vickie -
I have very NOSY neighbors. They see everything I do and know when I leave and when I come home. Everything I do they watch. Not just one across the street but on both sides and all around. Very, Very annoying. I'm very private and keep to my self. I want my husband to put up a 10 foot high stockade fence all around. But it's not allowed in the city. Next door are criminals and drug addicts. Have to make sure the doors are locked tight if we leave. Other side is an old lady who thinks her garage roof leaks because of my tree. Can't be that the roof is about 40 yrs old and never reshingled. She hates when I plant anything. Even though it is on my property. Across the street is one who sees everything, no matter what time it is. I don't talk to any of them anymore. It is better that way.
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Your stories make me glad for mine - I have great neighbors.
Margaret -
Well, after this week I RE-hate my neighbor 2 doors down. They have 3 boys, 2 are twins. Nothing against twins but these guys are bad news. They have always been in trouble all their life, from swiping tarps (from our backyard) to traashing the local Dairy Queen.
Well, Sunday night, I had just finished paying the pizza delivery when I walked back into the kitchen to see the one twin, cutting through the back with one of our bags of potting soil! I threw open the door and yelled at him to drop it and he did and took off. I had had it! So I called the cops. Because of these men, I have known the non-emergency number for years! The cops came over and checked out what happened. They left a message, of course nobody answered the door down there and told him to call in or he would be arrested for trespassing. he was ordered not to cut through again or come near our property or he would be arrested for trespassing. The thing is a bag of potting soil is so stupid to take...but the cops say it is a bad habit and they can't resist.
I have lived here all my life except for the 6 years I was married to my 1st husband and they have been trouble almost all that time. These men are in their 30's! They are the ones that the cops figured burglarized our house but were never able to prove it. They swiped a tarp from our backyard and when the guy working here found it at their house, I thought he was going to break heads. That kept them at bay for a while and then they decided it would be fun to go around slicing tires. Again, everyone knew it was them because kids in the neighborhood saw them do it but it was never proven. I also suspect they were the ones who stole a picnic set out of our backyard. DH wants to buy a new grill and picnic set again. Now he knows why I say I am skittish doing it. He heard first-hand from the cops, he thought I was being paranoid. Not anymore!
The rest of our neighbors are great! When mom fell over a year ago, two fo the men came over and helped the ambulance guys. When someone on the street needed the ambulance during a snowstorm, everyone went out and helped shovel tracks to get up our hill. These two bad apples make me crazy! -
I'm sorry to hear about your neighbors. It's pretty hard to live next to someone so obnoxious. I've always had good neighbors, except for two. In Virginia Beach, the family across from us had a juvenile delinquent teenage son. He stole things from our cars, or neighborhood yards. One Christmas Eve he stole our neighbor's Christmas toys. Also, a few years ago I broke my ankle, and I was sprawled on the sidewalk unable to get up, my toddler was crawling around the yard, and my neighbors looked, but got into their car and drove away.
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I can't imagine having neighbors who would see you sprawled on the sidewalk, get in their cars, and drive off! Fortunately, I've got great neighbors on both sides of me and no neighbors across the street.
Margaret -
I have to say, there is nothing like a snowstorm to bring out the good in people. My next-door neighbor is 82. She cannot go out in the wind and cold to clear her very large drive; it is two cars wide. She has one of the larger lots on the block and her sidewalks at the curb are long. So, one of the guys across the street got out there with his snowblower and my ds went over and helped clear the rest. She came over today with cookies! She wanted to pay ds, but he looked at her and said, "Grandmom Claire, I did it because we all love you." It still is bringing tears to my eyes. This makes the bad neighbors diminish in size.
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"Green acres is the place to be...farm livin' is the life for me. Land spreadin' out so far & wide.....
Cheri
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