The "Be Positive" myth

But since you know what she asks, you can have a good comeback prepared like "Wow, that's really a personal question' and then walk away.

Terrible of that gal to be like that.

Another way to try to get your point across that you are wanting to move on is when she or anyone else asks something like, "So, where are you cut?" First, look them right in the eyes, smile, pause for two seconds and say, "Heard any good jokes lately?" I find that some people will take the hint and follow your lead to steer the conversation in a different direction.

Other questions you can throw back at them: "I can't decide what to make for dinner tonight. Any suggestions?"

"Where do you think I can buy a good bottle of wine."

"I'm looking for someone to: put a roof on my house/paint my lIving room/install new windows. Any recommendations?

This lets them know you have other things on your mind besides bc.

You could also redirect this way: "Thanks so much for your concern. Everyone has been so supportive. I hope you dont mind, but I don't actually feel comfortable discussing all the details at this time as its been a roller coaster of emotions for me. I know you understand. I am hanging in there and moving forward. Please keep me in your prayers."

I sometimes butter up invasive people by treating them like they are truly concerned. It feeds their ego, and with this response, they have something to go back and tell others, (which is often what they want): "Oh, she's going thru a lot right now and doesn't want to talk about it." If they say this in the lunchroom or a crowd, it helps get your message out there that you want some privacy and you may get less direct questions.

It just never hurts to have a few ready made things to say to protect your emotional well being.

Mrs. M, that's not only just about the perfect response, it's also an excellent strategy.

I like that strategy as well!! Thanks