The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

you know, I was on the other side once.... my neighbor had a BMX and flap surgery nine years ago. Seven years before I joined the club. I remember asking her if she liked her new boobs. Her reaction, very tactful, made me realize immediately that I had said the wrong thing. However, I didn't really know how wrong until I was in her shoes.. (now, of course, a tech should know better, waaay better, but your average Jane? Not so much).

My SIL said, after uni mx, when I was crying and miserable, "Buck up and get a frilly shirt". She's Irish. My Irish cousin said to me when I told her about all the reconstruction surgeries, "I didn't know you were so vain." I am going on a family trip to Ireland again this summer, and I am SO, SO happy neither of the above people will be there this time.

Frilly shirt? So you could throttle her with it? wtf? sheesh....

LifeAloft. Next time he wants to get 'frisky' tell him it's probably all in his mind, i.e. 'mental'.

Got a good laugh out of that one blondedoris.

GP

hi all

So my fav is someone told me that I got breast cancer becuase I have no children. Really?! Thanks MOM

HA!! or a stand up comedian, I'm told by a friend

MoreShoes, Oh man the glare you must have given her

I have Paget's disease and small amount of dcis (I hope it's small) only recently diagnoised, I'm having a wle on Thursday to remove my nipple, I'm devastated my "friend"text me saying "all set for Thursday" as if I was going off to a wedding I text back no, she said I'll call for talk if you want I said ok, she spent the whole time saying you'll be grand, I'd told her I'm treading seeing my nipple gone spoke about getting nipple tattoo as soon as I could, so she knew I was upset about this. When she was leaving she said "next time I see you you'll be nipple less or you'll have one nipple" I was in shock I really couldn't believe she could be so nasty.

My Dr had given me zanex last week which I didn't take but I had to take one after she left.

Define normal......

I am now a long term survivor, and I heard most of the dumb things others have posted; but I believe my favorite was from a neighbor, not a particularly pleasant neighbor. She was known for making inappropriate comments to everyone. I don't think this neighbor had ever actually been to my house - she lived just around the corner across the street from a good friend neighbor. When I came home from surgery, she came to the bottom of the steps leading to a back porch. I had just come in from the back porch but heard her and walked back out. She never came up the steps. She just stared at me and told me she could never come over again [as I said she never had before] because every time she looked at me she would be reminded of what could happen to her. I just turned around and went back into the house.

I was diagnosed in 2011 and decided to have a bilateral mast with reconstruction so I had the extenders in, partially filled. My general surgeon, (the butcher) took a look at my chest and said "that's nice, at least you get to go home with a little something." WTH.. I went from a triple D to an A within a few hours and was just getting used to the idea. I felt like punching him..

From the boyfriend: "When my mom went through chemo she played tennis every day." Yes, please add one more way I'll never measure up to your mother.

A coworker: "You look fine to me. Why are you not back at work?"

A friend: "I thought cancer made you lose weight? You must be eating well."

An acquaintance I don't know well, just YESTERDAY: "I just read that eating beets cures cancer but doctors don't want people to know or they'll be out of jobs. If I had cancer, I'd eat beets." When I gently suggested she should check her sources and expressed my doubt that eating beets would cure me, AND that thousands of doctors all over the world were keeping this secret cure from us, she replied in a huff, "Well I know if I really had cancer, I'd eat beets." Okayyyyy

Let me set the stage: I'm hospitalized with sepsis 3 days after 1st chemo, sick as I could be. When the bone pain showed up and settled into my sacrum I was utterly miserable and crying. My husband had the nerve to ask me if I was reeeally in that much pain or was I just carrying on! Let it be said right here: I am NOT a cry-baby. I have a very high pain tolerance. Honestly, if I hadn't been almost rigid with pain I would have taken a swing at him. To his credit he did call the nurse to bring me something for pain but I was pretty put out with him.

When he had his prostate out last summer for cancer I thought about retaliating--briefly--but then decided instead to take the high road.

Route67 and mustlovepoodles

Do you girls not want to get better????

You are not trying at all. Really!

Simply eat crushed unicorn hooves, mixed with fallen stardust, add a pinch of end of the rainbow colour with some fairy sparkles............

and wallaaaaaaaa!!!!

But maybe you girls don't really care if you get better, you just want to keep on with the medication and specialist medical advice route????

Well, which is it?

Mustlovepoodles

Not telling your mom sounds a good idea. Sometimes they worry too much and after the event might be the best time to tell her.

Best of luck with the reconstruction in April.

GP ((((())))