I look for other flat chested women. A rant.
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Just to back up what Wren44 said: Last week I had lipo done on both sides of my chest as they were asymmetrical and lumpy looking due to too much fat (not breast tissue) left after my BMX in June 2016 as they didn't want to leave me concave as I'd asked that that be avoided if possible.
This time around I told my PS to be aggressive with the liposuction to make sure both sides were flat (previously it looked like I had deflated, lumpy AA cups, no thank you
) and that I'd prefer to be concave than have lumps.A week and almost a half out and I'm liking how flat everything looks, even with the swelling and bruising from the lipo, and both sides look pretty symmetrical now instead of one looking like a small pancake breast and the other looking like a small lumpy breast.
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Just wondering . . . . would flat symmetry be called flattery?
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My MO's Nurse declared to all (four) present that if she should ever have breast cancer, she will go flat.
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Onco,good one! 👍😀
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Onco, I like that.
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Onco, I like that.
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Just wanted to share a pic of my new shirt
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Sensitive, yes you are a 10! Love the shirt. Where did you find it?
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Great choice!
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should half flat count? they don't usually give us guys the choice. my choice would have been to chop them both off at birth. given what I know now.
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Ladies, found the shirt at www.feministwrath.com.
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Love your shirt. You are a 10.
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LOVE the shirt!
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SWEET SHIRT AND SO ARE YOU!
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A heads up: Myself and 5 other flatties are going to be interviewed on the CBS Sunday Morning show, this coming Sunday, March 12, between 9-10:30. Please tune in!
Shortly afterward, on March 14, The New York Post will do a feature on me.
So there will be a flurry of flat festivities soon!
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Cool!
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I'll be watching!
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Thanks for letting us know. I set my recorder
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That's awesome, Mel!!
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I flat on my right side. After having my mastectomy on February 2015, and having so many complications after and seeing that I would need countless surgeries to make my breast look like I breast I decided not to do it anymore. I was asked if I wanted a prosthetic bra. But, I'm comfortable being flat. Now, if they fixed the left breast where I had my lift and moved the nipple I'd be really happy.
Now, that my skin is changing in this area, my shirts are more pronounced. But, I don't care that many stare.
I'm not ashamed!! I know that a breast doesn't define a women!! I am the same person, and happy to be raising a 13 year old to know that a missing breast doesn't change who we are as a women!
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Happy New Yorker, I am glad you've found your happy space. Do what is right for you. You need to be ok with you.
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Great show, Melanie. You all spoke very well for your choosing (and in one case, accepting) and living the Flat Life.
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Some of the show segments were breaking me up -- making me teary -- but your Going Flat segment was completely comfortable to see and hear.
The lady who had given up on reconstruction because of raging infection -- Her story is a needed reminder to (uninformed) others that going flat is not always by choice. She did a great service to others who will be faced with their own reconstruction-or-not decisions, and they can draw on recall of her experience for notice that there are no assurances with reconstruction; that serious complications can come with it; that they should ask about these things if the information is not volunteered. And they will know that if they choose to go flat -- or if, as in her case, it chooses them --, there is a Sisterhood with connection and belonging for them.
I am sure many women will appreciate having a good lead on a Medical Center -- besides on that Doctor -- where Flatness is now routinely offered as one of the options, and where that choice is as respected as any other. I do not remember exactly the percentage of mastectomees the Doctor says are choosing reconstruction -- was it like 59% ? --, but that means the others are going flat, yes?
The influence to accept us as complete persons has a long way to go. Thank you for all you have done for us and others to come. We see your strength too -- every kind of strength.
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Melanie enlightening the world.
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Look forward to watching when I get home. Had to work today
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Well done, Mel!! Certainly appreciate you and the other ladies speaking for us Flat Ladies!!
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Great segment, MT! For those of you who missed it,you can watch it online.
http://www.cbsnews.com/videos/foregoing-reconstructive-surgery-after-breast-cancer/
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I watched it, good job ladies! I was annoyed when the interviewer said, "but doesn't it remind you of the cancer every day when you see the scars?" Someone should have said (actually, someone probably did and they edited it out, come to think of it...) that reconstructed breasts have scars on them too, and look nothing like a real breast, so it's exactly the same daily reminder when you look in the mirror...
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