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moodyblues. Surgery went good. I haven't had too much pain. Took my last pain pill about midnight. Just really tired and weak today. The surgery didn't take as long as she expected. She thinks she got the entire mass. Now the waiting begins for the results. It just feels like a weight is off my shoulder just getting the mass taken out. Then I will deal with what they find. Thanks for asking.
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After aggravating several doctors about doing an MRI on my right breast to see if it was indeed cancer free (they never did a dx mammo of it as screening didn't show anything), I received a call from my oncologist. Left breast IDC AND DCIS. He is recommending a mastectomy. I am glad I pushed and pushed for the MRI otherwise they might not have caught the DCIS. I originally thought mastectomy and reconstruction but, after talking to doctor, I had decided a lumpectomy because I was a good candidate as it was small etc. etc. Now after the MRI, I am back to step one....MASTECTOMY. I almost threw up. My emotions are all over the place. How many of you did the prophylactic mastectomy of the unaffected breast? I wonder if I should just do both, I can't take this again.
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Hi Moodyblues i found out I had BC Nov 7th 2016 biopsy dcis in the left breast only and I decided to do a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction at the same time. My final report came back with 98% dcis and idc.
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Dear Moodyblues,
Your last sentence really spoke to me. Now that I have nearly a year of this whole cancer adventure under my belt I realize how lucky I was to have chosen a BMX over any other choices. Really cut down on the odds that it could recur. I never want to face this beast again. The emotional turmoil, the fear, of always wondering if it could come back. I don't care that the odds of lumpectomy vs mastectomy are very close. I don't care thatthe Drs want to be conservative and save a healthy breast. Now with this hindsight I realize the most important thing to me is never having to face this again because I was trying to save some breast tissue. I don't need my breasts and I'm really, really happy I made the decision to send them on their merry way.
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Moody, both my BS and the decision-tree video and materials she had me read (as part of a patient-decision study) said that all other things being equal the recurrence rate with mastectomy was 2-3% and with lumpectomy & radiation 4-6%. I chose the latter because I have large breasts and a small not-very-aggressive tumor located in a spot that would minimize the visual effect of lumpectomy. I have as much peace of mind as anyone else my age with the same type, stage, & grade of bc.
And overall survival (life expectancy before death from any & all causes) is the same for both surgical options.
But if you’re looking for true “peace of mind,” I hate to tell you that’s an illusion once we get diagnosed. We have many patients here on bco who got mastectomy, even bilateral (double) mastectomy and still had a recurrence and/or needed radiation—tumor cells can hide out in skin, axillary tail & nodes, chest wall, etc.—all of which usually remain after mastectomy. I know that I will need a mammo every 6 months, and I’m okay with that. Not having had positive nodes, as well as having had clean margins, and a small Luminal A tumor, improves my chances, but the chance of recurrence is never zero. There are no guarantees. Don’t do anything irrevocable for the wrong reason.
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The waiting for test results is driving me crazy.
I had an abnormal mammogram on January 10.
Tomography, ultrasound and biopsies on January 31.
Diagnosed with invasive lobular carcinoma February 3. Positive for estrogen and progesterone, negative HER.
MRI on February 24 - more potential cancer found in same area like a "string of pearls".
Saw surgeon on February 27. Genetic test ordered. Need more testing to biopsy and mark the ends of the string of pearls. Most of it only shows up in the MRI, only the first spot shows up on ultrasound.
Just didn't realize it could take so long before knowing if I will have a lumpectomy or mastectomy.
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Moody - I had DCIS in one breast and no known in the other. I had a BMX (double mastectomy) I'm so glad I did because the so-called "uneffected breast" had many tumors.
Unlike Sandy, I am REALLY glad that I had the BMX. Yes, I did have a recurrence in the lymph nodes, but that was again the luck of the draw.
You have some hard decisions in front of you. I wish you the best of luck.
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Hi moodyblues I am in a similar position as you. I am trying to decide between a mastectomy and lumpectomy also. I am meeting with my BS again and reconstruction surgeon soon to help finalize my decision. Just relax and review all your options. Ask all the questions and hear different opinions. Good luck and God bless!
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Thank you everyone for your replies, I feel a comradery here, and know that I am not alone. Grateful for your guidance.
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Minustwo, did you have an MRI before you decided on removing the unaffected breast?
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SJI, yes, the waiting is intense as well as the choices between lumpectomy and mastectomy. I now have to have the mastectomy on the left breast (which at first was my choice in plan of care) (see my previous note above). We are basing our choices on what we think will save our lives during a time when we are reeling with emotions so much bigger then we think we can handle. Informed decisions hopefully. This site has helped me talk out the craziness and focus on hope and survival. ~Praying you'll have peace in your life while you make your decisions.
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I am new on here to! I just recently had a lumpectomy and 1 lymph node remove. Tuesday I talk to the doctor and oncologist as to whet kind of treatment plan I am to have. I was stage 1 with estrogen levels high but the other part was negative. Not quite sure I understand the whole process. I guess just go as I am directed
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Dear DebjR,
We welcome you here although we are sorry about your breast cancer diagnosis. Know that you have reached out to a supportive and informed group who can walk with you as you move forward. Please stay connected here. Keep us posted and let us know how you make out on Tuesday. We are here for you. The Mods
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I've read through the thread and I'm so sorry that you all are going through this. I remember it well.
I am reading everyone mentioning lumpectomy vs mastectomy, with the word radiation used only a couple of times. Please remember lumpectomy must be in conjunction with RADIATION. You must commit to it. I chose lumpectomy and radiation. After my chemo I was so tired, in such agony, one of my dogs (the loves of my life) became ill and passed, my other dog became paralyzed; I just didn't have it in me to travel three towns away everyday for 6 six weeks, so I didn't complete my rads. I am now three years out of chemo and I am now diagnosed with recurrence. Please make your decisions wisely.
You are all in my thoughts.
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I have posted this link in other threads but I believe it is also relevant here.
Summary or article discussing rising rates of bilateral mastectomy following MRI: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25159548
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Thank you DJmammo.
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My thing is my right breast is clear according to the MRI. Am I nuts to even think of a bilateral when it looks good now? What about next year....what if this cancer shows up then. I'll have to go through this again.
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MinusTwo, did you have an MRI before you decided on removing the unaffected breast?
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Moodyblues, what do you want to do? What, deep down in your heart seems like the right answer to you? That's the only answer that matters. Make the decision and then never look back because you know you made the best decision for you
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Luckynumber, I wanted a left MX only but, after thinking things over, I wonder if it wouldn't be easier on my mind just to get it all done and over with. Thank you for your response. How was it for you doing both at the same time? How hard was recovery with both? Are you happy that you made the decision that you did? How long were you in pain after the sx?
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Yes - I had an MRI before BMX. Very dense breasts. Even with the MRI, they found issues w/DCIS and tumors in the 'good' breast. Personally I wanted it all done so I didn't have to have mammos & worry going forward. Also I did not want to live with one breast.
It's such an individual decision. Good luck with your choices.
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Thank you for your honesty MinusTwo. Today I go back to the surgeon with my answer, I am more than a little grateful for this site and the ability to talk to others who are and have gone through the same thing.
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Moody Blues, make sure to ask what effect on treatment this decision on surgery will have. You will need radiation with a lumpectomy, probably not with a mastectomy. People do hormonal treatments longer when one breast remains. Etc.
My surgeon wanted me to do one at a time, so she could see how my body handled the first, due to some health issues. Both went fine and I am "flat," One piece of advice is to have a paravertebral block with a mastectomy, which lessens anesthesia potentially and totally avoids pain meds in the OR and hospital stay.
I would find out ER and PR and HER2 before deciding. Have all the information in hand.
ps my health breast felt "funny" to me which influenced my decision too...turns out it was chock full of cysts...also I hated having one breast!
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Good luck at the surgeon's today. What I tried to say (but not very well) in my first post in this thread was that I am unbelievably grateful that I chose BMX. I'm normally a very steady person and I wasn't prepared for how fearful this whole diagnosis made me. Before surgery I just wanted to get it over with but after surgery I was left to cope with all the emotions of what cancer meant, that despite the treatments it could come back. I could not have coped with the thought that there was remaining breast for it to grow back in. I could not have coped with frequent scans to be sure there were no new lumps. I just don't ever want to go through this again. Yes, there is a 1-2% chance that it could come back in cells that were missed but those are odds I can live with. Was it "cliff" in another post who said: if I had known this was coming I would have had them removed at birth. I say: Amen!
Many women have decided to remove just one, many have decided to also remove the healthy side. There is no wrong answer, just what's right for you. I didn't take the time to do the research that you are doing. I just listened to my inner voice and it turned out to be the best decision I could have made.
I didn't have much pain, just discomfort, especially when trying to sleep but I just cuddled up to a pillow for extra support and slept fine. You'll have drains on both sides but no SNB on the prophylactic side so no issues with range of motion. I don't think recovering from BMX is much different from UMX. You'll feel lousy for several weeks, need time off work, etc, regardless of which way you go.
Sending you warm hugs, Lucky
(Disclaimer: I had cancer in both sides so my choice was between lumpectomies on both sides or BMX, but the emotions are the same. The DCIS in my right side was totally missed by the mammo but thankfully my BS ordered an MRI and we found it and got rid of it. First, I had planned lumpectomy on the one side, then they found cancer in the second side. Ok, lumpectomy there too. Then the pathology of the DCIS came back grade 3, ER/PR negative. Wow, if I could grow something that aggressive they both need to be gone. Best decision I ever made)
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moodyblues - if your tumor is 2.2cm, and triple positive (ER+/PR+/Her2+) you should have a consult with a medical oncologist about receiving chemo and targeted therapy (Herceptin and Perjeta) prior to surgery. You qualify for Perjeta based on the size and Her2+ characteristic of the tumor and doping this may offer you an excellent chance for eradication of the larger tumor and create additional surgical options once chemo is done.
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Just curious......will insurance pay for BMX if one breast is considered "healthy"?
There's a woman where I work who was going to have a MX after she was diagnosed and she wanted the other breast removed too, but her insurance (BC/BS) wouldn't pay for it. That was maybe 5 yrs ago.
Thx
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ruby - some will, some won't - same for surgeons, some will and some won't. Generally speaking, the legislation passed during the Clinton administration (the WHCRA Act of 1998) that offers insurance protection that guarantees coverage for reconstruction after mastectomy, offers surgical symmetry as part of that. For many symmetry means a BMX so that either you are bi-laterally flat, or bi-laterally reconstructed even if your contralateral breast has no disease. Reconstruction is guaranteed if your insurance covers your mastectomy, but whether they are mandated to approve removal of a "healthy" breast is somewhat subject to interpretation as they may insist that symmetry can be achieved without mastectomy and recon. FYI - lumpectomy and symmetry correction is not currently covered by this legislation, although oncoplasty during lumpectomy has been paid for by some insurance companies, as has fat grafting after lumpectomy. That seems to be a case by case basis at the moment. I self-elected BMX even though I had cancer in one breast only for a number of reasons - I wanted to minimize my risk, I had a 20 year history of very dense and fibrocystic breasts (I had at least 4 simple and complex cysts in each breast at the time of surgery), mammography failed to "see" my 2.6cm palpable cancer so I could not count on it in the future, my non-cancer breast had been more heavily surveilled in the couple of years leading up to surgery, and I wanted to achieve symmetry surgically. My oncological breast surgeon has no qualms about doing a BMX despite no evidence that there were any issues with the left breast. The post-op pathology revealed ADH and ALH that were previously unknown in the non-cancer side, DCIS and IDC in both ducts and lobules, and a positive SNB. Additional surgery revealed a large positive node that was missed on pre-surgical MRI. I have had many breast cysts, many ovarian cysts, numerous uterine fibroids, a 3cm pre-malignant ovarian mass, a 3cm nerve sheath tumor in my calf - all prior to diagnosis of breast cancer. Although I was unaware at the time of surgery I had cancer that had spread regionally outside of the breast - I felt pretty sure my body could make cancer in the other breast - it appears that was a distinct possibility based on the pathology report at the time of my BMX.
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After a very abusive relationship with TEs/ Reconstruction, I chose to get both breasts removed with no reconstruction. I'm thrilled with my choice. I feel 100% back to my old self (as opposed to when I attempted reconstruction.) I can see my flat chest and notice any sign of recurrence easily, plus no bras, boob sweat, I can jog, no more mammograms, no radiation needed that could affect my heart/lungs, and I look helluva thinner. There is a closed group called Flat and Fabulous on Facebook that welcomes people trying to decide to join. It is great to see pictures and how women are rocking the flat.
Also, new studies on BCO, show that women with dense breasts are more likely to get it in the healthy breast after BC. (I had dense breasts), http://www.breastcancer.org/research-news/breast-density-affects-contralateral-bc-risk
and younger women benefit more from Mastectomies than older women do. http://www.breastcancer.org/research-news/best-surgery-for-early-stage-may-depend-on-age
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