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many Member Posts: 254
edited March 2017 in Stage IV/Metastatic Breast Cancer ONLY

My wife passed away on 16th after a 6 year battle with cancer Today after -3 days of her passing,I am not able to accept that she has passed ,I keep on searching her in my home/Garden/Washrroom ,I can't find her ,I can't leave with her,SHE WAS MY LOVE,MY LIFE ,I CANT LIVE WITHOUT HER

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  • bevin
    bevin Member Posts: 1,902
    edited February 2017

    Dear Many

    I am so sorry for the loss of your dear wife. Please seek help and counseling , be with friends and family if possible. Also crisis hotline is1 800 273 8255.  please call them or your personal physician and seek some support. Best wishes and my sincere sympathy is extended to you.

    Bevin

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  • mike3121
    mike3121 Member Posts: 410
    edited February 2017

    Oh God Many, I know how you feel. My wife has been battling cancer for the last 4 years. Tamoxifen has failed her and her latest PET scan shows significant progression. I go around the house in tears, everything reminds me of her, I just can't lose her. She will probably be on Xeloda as she's had both estrogen positive and triple negative at the same time.

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  • LindaE54
    LindaE54 Member Posts: 2,054
    edited February 2017

    Many, I'm so sorry, my deepest condolences to you. I know exactly how you feel, I lost my DH to brain cancer 8 years ago. I never accepted his death but learned to live with it. It takes a long time to grieve, cry, scream, whatever. Taking care and then losing our soul mate takes an emotional and physical toll on us. It's like losing a part of ourselves. I started seeing a psychologist after his passing where I could pour my heart out with someone who understood and was objective. I also went to a grieving support group where all of us were going though the same pain. Please seek professional help, people around us don't want to talk about death and don't always say the right thing. It will get better, I promise you that but we can't skip the phases of grieving. Sometimes you'll feel you're making one step ahead and go back three. That's normal. Feel free to pm me if you want, I'd be happy to offer whatever support I can. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  • cliff
    cliff Member Posts: 290
    edited February 2017

    even for those who dont believe, a minister is a great comfort during these times. a supportive family is important, grieving should not be alone.

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  • DaughterOfStageIV
    DaughterOfStageIV Member Posts: 49
    edited February 2017

    Sovery sorry for your loss. A support group might be helpful if that is something you are interested in.

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  • Beckers
    Beckers Member Posts: 1,883
    edited February 2017

    Many, I am very sorry to hear you are going through this. I hope you have a belief in God and a faith even if just a bit because that is what will sometimes help you just get through a moment. Wishing you peace

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  • many
    many Member Posts: 254
    edited March 2017

    I still strive hard to leave without her but all in vain. I CAN NOT LIVE WITHOUT HER

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  • MinusTwo
    MinusTwo Member Posts: 16,634
    edited March 2017

    Many - I'm so sorry for your pain and grief. I hope you are getting some grief counseling, maybe one-on-one now and in a group later. Your doctor or your religious leader should be able to recommend someone. For now, it's just one day at a time.

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  • LindaE54
    LindaE54 Member Posts: 2,054
    edited March 2017

    Many - You are going through the worst phase of grieving. It is so hard and unfair. Talk to us about your emotions, your wife, your loneliness, get it out of your system. I feel for you so much. Keeping you lifted in my prayers.

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  • cliff
    cliff Member Posts: 290
    edited March 2017

    I can sure relate to that, I don't know how I would react to loosing my little Luisa. she has been such a help to me during all my problems.

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  • SSInUK
    SSInUK Member Posts: 245
    edited March 2017

    Many,

    Just sending you whatever human love and care one stranger can offer another. I so so feel for you. No one escapes the place you are in. But it can be survived. I find nature some comfort - to be in it without words or thoughts. Thinking of you and wishing some easing of your pain. Please don't be alone.

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