Here's what cheezed me off today

cliff · February 2017

what really ticks me off is how I have been treating my family through all this. snapping at them and growling like an old bear with a toothache. I have been trying to show my appreciation more and more, I just don't know if its enough.

Wren44 · February 2017

Cliff, Some of that could be the hormone pills. If so, it would give them an explanation. I used to pick a fight with DH every single month the day before my period started. When I hit menopause he asked how we would have our fight.

cliff · February 2017

I am trying to arrange a nice dinner at a good restaurant for sunday. my sil has some weird weekend hours.

Anonymous · February 2017

Rocky, I'm sorry for your loss but I totally understand distancing yourself. We're losing too many to this s&%t! Which brings up an interesting story. There was a woman I met during radiation who said she needed a friend to talk to so we scheduled our appointments at the same time and hung out for a while after our treatments. After the rads came to a close, she said she wanted to get together every Tuesday for lunch. She lived a couple of towns over so we decided on a restaurant and a time. On the appointed day, she didn't show up so I called her number. A lady answered who said she was her cousin and told me my "friend" was terminal and they were taking her home to Illinois to be with her family. The cousin said she only wanted to communicate with family members before she passed. I expressed my condolences and said I understood. For the past 4 years I have bought a luminary for her and posted a memoriam for her on the pink fire truck at the Relay for Life. Out of curiosity, I checked to see if they had a FB page in her memory last week. And..........wait for it.............she's not only alive but she's in complete remission and is out living it up with her non-BC friends! WTF? She is even still living two towns over. Her FB page gushes about how wonderful her life is and how much fun she is having now that her treatments are over. Am I cheezed? No. Do I feel like a doofus? Yes. Guess she just wanted someone to moan to. Oh well. Life is strange!

Freya244117 · February 2017

Rohanna, that is deplorable. What is the point of lying to you? On a positive note, you may have dodged a bullet by not having her in your life.

Anonymous · February 2017

Freya, I think you may have a point. She seemed like such a sweet, vulnerable woman as we went through rads but after looking at her FB page , I'm beginning to see she's a total loon. She dresses in the weirdest costumes and goes out in public. And most of her posts are incoherent.Bullet dodged! Whew!

Rockym · February 2017

rohanna, I too met someone who lived very close to me and acted like we were the best of buddies. I listened to her crap and thought she was someone real. Turns out she may have just been a lush since I only drank now and then, but she was ALWAYS drinking. Bullet dodged here too!

Anonymous · February 2017

Rocky, I don't understand users and I guess I never will. But to have someone tell you a relative is dying when they aren't is beyond bizarre. I would have hung out with her during rads even if I knew it was only temporary. Thing is, there was no need to lie. Seems that people like her and your boozer friend have something missing. I wish they were easier to spot because they're such a total waste of time.

Lulu22 · February 2017

I agree that rohanna's "friend" behaved shabbily but I'm going to offer an alternative explanation.

The end of cancer treatment can be a strange and unsettling time, and one my MO warned me about in advance. You expect to feel nothing but joy at being done, but for some people it can be disconcerting to go from being monitored almost constantly and having friends and family surrounding you with support to a void. Everyone expects you to be "done" with cancer and yet often you're still experiencing emotions that can leave you off balance. Some people go on with life as usual but others react with constant worry about their health or by wanting to obliterate any evidence that the cancer and treatment for it ever happened.

I wonder if the woman in question was experiencing the latter and instead of facing the situation head on and telling rohanna, "Sorry, I'm just freaked out and can't be around anything or anyone that reminds me of cancer right now" (which still would have been a bit shitty but at least would be honest), she panicked and instead told her cousin to lie or posed as a cousin and lied to rohanna herself.

Anonymous · February 2017

lulu,hmmmm, definitely something to think about. I'm not upset or hurt. Just puzzled. After looking over her FB page though, I think this one was just a loony! I did wonder if she was posing as her cousin. Wouldn't surprise me.

M0mmyof3 · February 2017

Probably was.

M0mmyof3 · March 2017

My mom cheezed me off twice this week.

First cheering incident was when I told her that I was going to attempt making corned beef and cabbage for dinner today. Her response was: "Why? I never made it when you kids were younger. Just because you have a little Irish in your ancestry doesn't mean you have to make that!" Told her that I was doing it because I wanted to try something new.

The next incident came the day of the blizzard. I was in the middle of cleaning the dust off my ceiling fans and she called me complaining that the card she had sent my older brother had gotten returned as he no longer lived at that address. My brother asked me not to give her his new address when he and his wife bought their house for several reasons due to various reasons that stem from things she did when my older siblings and I were growing up and I honored that. It's not that we don't care about her but she created some hard feelings from her actions that all of us older kids shared. Well I got chewed out royally and I snapped back that I only hear from him occasionally when we have to let the other person know something important. I also told her that I was not getting in the middle as it is not good for me and that both my husband and brother agree I don't need that hassle and stress

dtad · March 2017

Hi everyone. This is what cheezed me off...My sister in law had a mammo and u/s recently. They called her back and said she needed a biopsy for two micro calcification clusters. She decided to see a breast surgeon first. I happen to know this doc personally and she is very well respected in her field. So she agreed she needed a biopsy. Told her 80 percent chance it was benign. However if it did turn out to be BC the worst case scenario is Stage1 but most likely Stage 0. Then she proceeds to tell her that either way they will suck it out and she will be cured!! I was speechless when my sister in law told me. Maybe she was just trying to be optimistic until the biopsy comes back but WOW! So tired of docs underplaying this very serious disease. Good luck to all. Thanks for letting me vent...

M0mmyof3 · March 2017

Tired of seeing hospitals such as the one I go to running ads with slogans like "Closer to Free". They are misleading the public that if they go to these hospitals that they will be cured. The best they should tell the people that go there is that they won't ever be cancer free but they can treat this disease

Rockym · March 2017

Cancer is big business now. When you see all the billboards of happy women at their "cancer centers" you know the marketing is way out there. I live where these "centers" are everywhere. When I talk with people about my past cancer treatment, I tell them how I picked my team and some wonder why not just go the the center.

All I can say is that health care in our country is very good, but it is also way too organized, not individual centered and costly (have you see the real bills). dtad, this is probably why your SIL thinks it's a quick suck it out and done. I hope it turns out to be nothing for her. A lot of calcifications can be watched overtime without getting in there and making a mess, but that's another story.

M0mmyof3 · March 2017

Rocky, my hubby and I look at my bills every time one comes in for this crap and it doesn't suprise me that they charge so much. It's like they banking on us to get worse. I was lucky that when the mamma came as suspicious in my case, my primary sent me to a surgeon that he knew would treat me as a person. My surgeon helped me pick my plastic surgeon and the path of treatment she thought was best for me

dtad · March 2017

Rockym..thanks for the reply. Actually it was the breast surgeon who said they would suck it out and she would be cured! Thats what cheesed me off! Good luck to all navigating this disease.

Wren44 · March 2017

Dr. Susan Love's Army of Women were invited to take a survey about our feelings about the term 'cancer survivor'. I had never thought about it, but realized I don't like the term. You're only sure you've survived cancer when you die of something else. My preferred term is 'former cancer patient' for people who have had it in the past but are considered cured. Curious about what other's think.

M0mmyof3 · March 2017

I prefer to be called an "inspiration" to those fighting this crap

magiclight · March 2017

I do not use that term to describe myself, however I did look it up and found a couple of definitions that fit my ideas and that is ' to remain alive or in existence' and in that regard I am a survivor however another definition ' remaining alive after an event in which others have died' does not really fit me, because my cancer was diagnosed at a very early stage in later life, so based on data, few in my category die from breast cancer. I do think that the specifics of age and cancer stage would need to be know to make sense of how women feel about the term cancer survivor. I think we all want to hear about how other women feel/think.

M0mmyof3 · March 2017

To me it has to do with your age, stage of cancer and yourdetermination to keep going. I was almost 38 when I was diagnosed. I was determined to live past 40 (my dad was turning 40 the year he died) and 44 (the age my older sister would have been later in 2010 when she died).

Spookiesmom · March 2017

I survived the year from hell, even when taxotere tried it's best to kill me. I normally just say I had cancer.

M0mmyof3 · March 2017

I am so cheezed off today! Have a routine CT Scan on Monday. When I scheduled my appointment I was told I only had to fast for 4 hours and as of last night I am told I can't have anything to eat until my test is over but I should take my meds as I normally do that morning. Do they honestly expect someone to take their meds on an empty stomach? I can't take meds without eating as I get very queasy. That really irked me and I wanted to tell the ditzy tech off! How do they expect someone to go almost a whole day without eating????????????????

magiclight · March 2017

My DSIL is in ICU with yet another sepsis as the result of kidney stones. Clearly my SIL believes her urologist is competent, but his office staff is miserably incompetent. They loose orders, do not get the results to the doc, and put up road blocks at every turn. Why she puts up with this and does not change docs is beyond my understanding as the consequences of repeated (now for at least the fourth time) being hospitalized with sepsis with this time ending up in ICU. Personally, I think an inept office staff speaks volumes about the competence of the physician who may be more interested in not being disturbed than with treating patients. When my brother confronted another doc in the same practice,t this he was obviously aware of the problem. Yikes, that scary. Now I find myself getting mad at the sick person for not changing docs, for not wanting to make waves. URGGGH!! Unfortunately, I'm just the boat rocker but rather that than the funeral planner for this dear woman who has survived breast cancer x2 and melanoma.

Lulu22 · April 2017

What cheesed me off today, although I appreciated that Jessica Ravitz wrote the story, was this-

http://www.cnn.com/2017/03/31/health/hfr-paulette-...

Breast cancer is tough enough to deal with without people pulling scams that make it harder for women and men with this awful disease to get the support they need.

marijen · April 2017

I find this pretty cheesy and not sure where to post it.

Women being conned by breast surgeons....

http://www.naturalnews.com/2017-04-17-women-being-...

M0mmyof3 · April 2017

So cheezed this morning. Some moron called at 10 p.m. last night trying to sell me on having my house power washed and carpets cleaned!!!! I hung up on him. Woke me up out of a sound sleep!!!!! Anyone with an ounce of brains knows you don't make those kind of calls at that time of the night!!!!!

Lulu22 · April 2017

Neighbor stopped to comment that son was looking sad. I explained that he had just had to say a final goodbye to his grandfather, who has gone into hospice care. Idiot neighbor: "Oh yes. You should know that [other neighbor], who seemed to be doing well until recently, is now actively dying of the same cancer [my husband, said boy's dad] is battling."

Wow, that was a ray of sunshine to brighten up my son's day! Some people just don't know when to STFU!!

Luckynumber47 · April 2017

Why are husbands such stupid insensitive clods? Last year I think I celebrated my birthday by having my drains taken out so this year I was ready to really enjoy my birthday. My grown daughter planned a fun little family party and made sure all her brothers came. My husband didn't get me a gift! It's not like he forgot with a house full of people. So today I finally told him how much it hurt me that he didn't get me anything. You know what his excuse was? He said he didn't get around to it. Are you kidding me!!!! His only hobby since he retired is SHOPPING! He went out shopping at least 5 times the week of my birthday and even went to Home Depot (my favorite store) twice on my birthday.

I said the least he could have done was write something mushy on my card about how much he loves me and how happy he is we could put the last horrible year behind us and look forward to a healthy future. His answer was that I'm doing so well he never thinks about the cancer anymore and figured I didn't either!!! Are we even living on the same planet? I mean, the cancer radio certainly isn't blaring constantly but it's sure coming in loud and clear. I'm sitting here thinking I might need antidepressants and he's thinking I'm totally fine. Wow!

He did apologize for not getting me a gift (he never apologizes for anything) but I didn't even get a make-up kiss so I'm still feeling pretty bummed.

So far he's bought me (unbeknownst to him) a cruise and a new phone. If I have to buy my own gifts I'm going to go all out!

Stllivin · April 2017

I like your style! He will remember next year after he gets the bill for this year! More power to you! Life is too short! 😉 Enjoy the cruise!

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