Cancer gone but left with anxiety.

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I am cancer free. Got a great prognosis that not expected to return and most likely cured through surgery. Two months afterwards I get stuck in this anxiety state. I am going on my third month with this stuff that won't go away. I am on Effexor 150 for 8 weeks and Buspar 40 for 2 weeks. I see improvement for a day or so than I it goes the other way.need help with coping skills and how long is this going to last. Ive got a wonderful family that's needs me!

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited January 2017

    Butterflygirl2,

    Welcome to Breastcancer.org, and thank you for posting! This type of emotional effect after a breast cancer diagnosis is extremely normal -- many women even experience post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), which can be crippling. You're sure to find a great network of support here, as there are many others who have similar experiences!

    While you wait for the ever-helpful insight from our incredible community, you may want to check out the main Breastcancer.org site's pages on Anxiety and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) for tips to help manage these effects.

    We hope this helps and that we hear more from you soon. We're all here for you!

    --The Mods

  • Butterflygirl2
    Butterflygirl2 Member Posts: 6
    edited February 2017

    how long will I feel this way. I know that everyone is different but what is the average time. I am doing everything that I should be doing for myself.

  • Butterflygirl2
    Butterflygirl2 Member Posts: 6
    edited February 2017

    I exercise, eat healthy, taking meds and going to a therapist. I am scared most of the day. Have trouble going to work and scared to be away from my family. I feel like I'm going crazy!

  • KathyL624
    KathyL624 Member Posts: 217
    edited February 2017

    I know how you feel! I have the same thoughts, although I am one year out and they are getting a tiny bit better. What was your diagnosis? Oncotype?

  • ml143333
    ml143333 Member Posts: 658
    edited February 2017

    I understand where you are, trust me, and it is scary. I pray that the positive changes your made to your diet and exercise combined with the medication and a therapist will kick in soon. From what I hear, it takes a good 6 weeks for the medication to fully kick in. Keep talking to your therapist and us here, If the meds are working, switch to something else.

    I am done with active treatment and will be (hopefully) 3 years out from diagnosis this July. In no way am I the same person I was before I had cancer. In some ways, I am better and in some ways worse. I am much more likely to let things go than fight about anything. My nerves just can't take it. I am more likely to advocate for myself personally and medically, but I pick my battles personally. I don't worry about things like I used to, I just don't want to. Things are going to happen to me both good and bad, and I have to choose how I react to them.

    Most of the time, I am very anxious and jittery inside, but I deal with it by myself. I don't talk with people as much as I used to because quite frankly, they don't really care all that much. When someone asks "how are you?", they are basically just asking out of politeness. They don't really want to know how I'm doing inside so I just say good and move on. There are probably two people I really share with and that is good enough.

    I read an article recently about breast cancer survivors ad PTSD. Do a google search and you may find it.

    I wish you nothing but the best and hope that your world will soon be happy again!

  • pupmom
    pupmom Member Posts: 5,068
    edited February 2017

    Butterflygirl2, if you really believe the cancer is gone, why on earth would you be anxious? I sense a disconnect here.

  • MTwoman
    MTwoman Member Posts: 2,704
    edited February 2017

    pupmom, it makes perfect sense, no disconnect needed. Anxiety is not rational, it cannot be explained away with evidence. Anxiety can start with a real (or perceived) event and then become a biological phenomenon that moves beyond that event. The physiology of anxiety can be extraordinarily powerful.

    Butterflygirl, I agree with Mandy that it takes a bit of time. You seem to be doing all the right things to help yourself - eating healthy, exercise, medication, seeing a therapist - and those changes all take some time to be truly beneficial. I know that a faster resolution would be great, but changing your body's responses takes time. As both a cancer survivor and therapist, I would also encourage you to try some additional things (if you aren't already) like: using a warm bath or massage to help relax your muscles, listening to soothing music, use aromatherapy (candles or essential oils using lavender etc), going for a walk (to use up some of the excess energy anxiety produces), yoga and/or trying chamomile tea to help you relax. All of these things may help you feel less anxious as you continue to work with your therapist. It does get better. Sending you healing light and hugs.

  • pupmom
    pupmom Member Posts: 5,068
    edited February 2017

    MTwoman, cognitive behavioral therapy is designed to forge the disconnect between anxiety and reality. Maybe OP should look into that therapy. Best wishes to all!

  • MTwoman
    MTwoman Member Posts: 2,704
    edited February 2017

    I understand how CBT works, pupmom, but that takes time and she is reporting having pretty extreme anxiety right now. She also says that she is currently seeing a therapist, so they're working on it.

  • pupmom
    pupmom Member Posts: 5,068
    edited February 2017

    I wish her the best. Just trying to offer suggestions.

  • Butterflygirl2
    Butterflygirl2 Member Posts: 6
    edited February 2017

    thanks for the input. I was stage 1A. No nodes, low aggression, no chemo, 15 radiation and on tamoxifen now. My doctor said not expecting it to return. I believe this but it scarred me so bad at the beginning and I was not expecting this at all no cancer in my family. It's like I am stuck in this scared state!

  • KathyL624
    KathyL624 Member Posts: 217
    edited February 2017

    Butterfly, our diagnosis is similar. I had a low oncotype, which my MO keeps pointing to. But still I worry. A lot. I have small children and the thought of leaving them motherless is unbearable.

  • Butterflygirl2
    Butterflygirl2 Member Posts: 6
    edited February 2017

    I can relate. I think that is the root of my fear, is having to leave my family. But I can not get past this fear and move on! My dr said several times that she doesn't feel like mine will return. I just want to move on but my feelings will not let me. My dr said I am not giving it enough time. I was diagnosed in September and had my surgery in October. Did you feelings gradually leave months after your surgery. I know I will always have fearbut I don't want to live in it 24/7.

  • Manu14
    Manu14 Member Posts: 153
    edited February 2017

    Butterfly, I'm older than you and 3 years further along, but I was also early stage with good prognosis.

    I think you're expecting too much too soon of yourself. Hearing that you have cancer and working through treatment is a huge upheavel - no matter the stage. Keep doing all the positive things you've mentioned and don't try to look too closely week by week. I found my mental and emotional well being changed very slowly but did keep improving. It was such a relief when one day I realized that cancer wasn't the first thought I had when I woke up each morning or the last thought I had before falling asleep. That took me at least a year.

    You will get to a better place on your own tomeframe.

  • Butterflygirl2
    Butterflygirl2 Member Posts: 6
    edited February 2017

    thank you. I need all the encouragement I can get. I feel like this being over scared and on the edge is never going to end. Just want to feel normal again! Thanks

  • catlady44
    catlady44 Member Posts: 159
    edited February 2017

    Yes, anxiety is a constant struggle for me. I was diagnoed with PTSD too. I wasn't that scared of recurrence but in the last year I've 6 scans/scopes to rule out metastasis, and now I'm terrifed of recurrence. I know what a stage 4 diagnosis means and while I was in radiation, my uncle died from cancer so I know what that looks like too. Generally speaking, I feel anxious all the time and I'm not sure why. I find returning to life post treatment is a terrifying prospect. There are so many things I should be doing, that I am overwhelmed and end up paralyzed. Getting out of bed scares me, getting ready to leave the house scares me, almost everything does. I'm on medication and in therapy, but therapy isn't an instant cure.

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