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  • Melinda0628
    Melinda0628 Member Posts: 67
    edited December 2016

    I had a bilateral mastectomy, so I lost both breasts. It has been tough but Id rather lose them than myself. I havent done reconstruction, I am still in the air about that plus I want to get through all my treatments first.

  • Melinda0628
    Melinda0628 Member Posts: 67
    edited December 2016

    Heidi

    I received four small pillows in the hospital. I had a double, so I dont have a good side. These pillows are small. They fit under your arm for support.

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  • Goincrzy8
    Goincrzy8 Member Posts: 387
    edited December 2016

    Heidibird I wonder the same as sx gets closer. I too am older and have saggy big breasts. Is the bra not supporting your saggy boob :)?

  • Heidibird
    Heidibird Member Posts: 213
    edited December 2016

    Goincrzy8, the front closure bra I have been wearing has little hook and eye closures on the front but no adjustable straps to pull up that one breast. I returned to work yesterday so had to have something to wear. But adding some of the fill I took out of the knitted knocker to that side at least makes it look somewhat the same. I have 4 or 5 back closure mastectomy bras I have already bought to try out but they are still very irritating to wear. I also bought some mock camis because I realized some of these bras are cut a little higher and will show under some of my shirts.

    I noticed there was a forum for older women with BCC so maybe I should see what suggestions those with a UMX have.

  • Goincrzy8
    Goincrzy8 Member Posts: 387
    edited December 2016

    So UMX is tomorrow. Actually feeling peaceful. Had my pre op with nurse today over , phone, asked what I will come home with? Compression bar? or???? What should I wear, she said wear a button up shirt, I would not have a bra? What did you come home in from hospital?

    She also said dont bring a lot, use our gowns etc.But have that button up shirt for going home. Dr can not call in RX before as he usually uses Norco. I have a mental block on norco cause the Dr I work for hands out like candy and his pt are addicted.

  • mustlovepoodles
    mustlovepoodles Member Posts: 2,825
    edited December 2016

    I wouldn't worry too much about the Norco. You probably  won't need it much.  At least, I didn't. I think I took a couple narcotics a day for the first 2-3 days, then switched over to Tylenol.  I did need a sleeping pill for awhile, but I just stopped it when I no longer needed it. I'm sure that there are people who are prone to addiction who might try to abuse the Norco, but I think that breast surgeons are pretty astute about giving out prescriptions.  I can't imagine any breast surgeon giving a second prescription for Norco, or any other narcotic, once a week has passed.

  • grandma3X
    grandma3X Member Posts: 759
    edited December 2016
    Another factor is that narcotics cause constipation, so use only as much as needed and then switch to tylenol or ibuprofen (with your surgeon's blessing since ibuprofen is a blood thinner). I had 2 separate MXs and both times asked for Tramadol instead of Onycodine or Norco. Even then I only took it for a couple of days and then just half a pill at night for a couple more days to help me sleep.
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2016

    Goincrzy- thanks for starting this, I've jumped onto the Dec surgery board as well- I'm targeted for surgery in January, trying to finish chemo as we speak (my #6 of 6 was delayed last week). The plan is a BMX (mom had BC twice and colon cancer- doing what I can to keep it away). Looking at the reconstruct options, and I'm a planner like a lot of you- even trying to figure out how many button up shirts I'll need lol. Thanks for all of the info so far ladies!

  • wendymk2016
    wendymk2016 Member Posts: 63
    edited December 2016

    I had my mastectomy on Nov 3rd. If not including the drain clog issue, everything else works fine. I started going out to take a walk one week after surgery.

    Now I had been back to work for two weeks and I am also taking the physical therapy to avoid the risk of lymphedema.

  • Goincrzy8
    Goincrzy8 Member Posts: 387
    edited December 2016

    had my surgery Friday came home last nite. No pain getting some twitches and burning but nothing I can't deal with. Slept in recliner with a dose of Tylenol with codeine. Trying to walk a little more today but not too much don't want to overdue it. Drain is a pain but will deal with it. Hope all is well.

  • Molly50
    Molly50 Member Posts: 3,773
    edited December 2016

    Congratulations GoinCrzy8!

  • Heidibird
    Heidibird Member Posts: 213
    edited December 2016

    Glad to hear you're not experiencing a lot of pain. The recliner was my best friend for a while. :-)

  • KayaRose
    KayaRose Member Posts: 183
    edited December 2016

    Hi everyone, Just wanted to wish you all the best of luck on your surgeries. I had a mastectomy of my left breast in March of 2015. I had chemo first, then the mastectomy and then radiation. I'm currently taking Arimidex.

    I'd say the actual surgery wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Didn't like the drains - no one does. Fortunately, they came out pretty quickly. I slept in a recliner for a couple of weeks. I could probably have gone back to the bed sooner but had a real fear of my DH rolling over and accidentally hitting me. I started radiation about 3 weeks after surgery. I had to go for physical therapy because I could not raise my arm above my head which was the required position during my radiation treatments. That was difficult and painful but it helped. Sounds silly but one thing I was really worried about was having the staples removed. Just sounded like it would be so painful. My BS removed half of them at one visit and the other half at the next visit. Turned out I never felt a thing. Amazing.

    I was sent home from the hospital in a binding type of bra that zipped up the front. It was the most comfortable bra to wear for quite a long time. I had bought a special cami that held the drains but never used it because it was uncomfortable. A zip up hoodie worked best for me - drains stuffed into the pockets. I do recommend button down shirts - loose fitting and a soft material. I bought two sizes larger than I normally wear. Not only were they useful after the mastectomy but also wore them all during radiation, too.

    Bras have not been my friend since the mastectomy. To this day, I'm still not comfortable wearing one. I go without one at home. I tend to wear a coobie or genie bra rather than an actual mastectomy bra. They're just more comfortable. I am considering having my right breast removed. I have very dense breast tissue and have had two very stressful mammograms/ultrasounds and am fearful of not finding cancer if it develops. ILC is known for being very hard to detect. I had a clean mammogram one year and by the next year it had spread into my lymph nodes.

    Anyway, good luck to all those heading into surgery and hoping for an easy healing to those already done. Take it easy and be good to yourself!

  • Goincrzy8
    Goincrzy8 Member Posts: 387
    edited December 2016

    here are my thoughts

    Dealing with constipation

    Wondering what to wear as a bra for the one boob I have bandages on the left and I can't go bra less for 6 weeks large boob and I'm older I did get post op mastectomy camisole will try tomorrow as I have post op and really want out of jammies

  • Abracadabra
    Abracadabra Member Posts: 1,369
    edited December 2016

    Hello,

    I had a R lumpectomy in July with positive margins, then a re-excision in August still with positive margins. Because I have 2 positive nodes, the tumour board felt I should go straight to chemo, and then deal with the positive margins afterwards by having additional radiation boosts done to the tumour bed.

    I've finished my AC chemo, but still have 3 months of Taxol chemo to go. I'm feeling troubled by the idea of the lingering cancer in my breast (who knows how much!), and by the idea of extra radiation to deal with it. Before chemo, my scans showed that 1) I have below average heart function (LVEF) and 2) nodules on my lungs which are apparently not significant. I know that higher radiation doses can cause heart and lung damage down the road, so the extra rad boosts are not appealing.

    I'm going to see my breast surgeon next Tuesday, to see if I can schedule either UMX or BMX after chemo but before rads. Some questions:

    - Is is difficult to get BMX if only one breast has cancer? I don't have any real reasons for BMX except for psychological reassurance and closure.

    - How long do you have to wait after surgery before starting radiation treatment? (Will it push out my radiation treatment too far?)

    - If you are going to do any reconstruction/implants, does it have to be done or started before rads? I've heard that radiation treatment changes the breast skin and makes healing more difficult.

    All comments and suggestions are appreciated!

    Thanks, Barb

  • Molly50
    Molly50 Member Posts: 3,773
    edited December 2016

    Barb, talk to your MO and RO . Perhaps if you have mx you won't need radiation . I had radiation after mx . It definitely makes reconstruction more complicated . Not all PS are willing to try implants after radiation . Many will want to do flap surgery .

  • Heidibird
    Heidibird Member Posts: 213
    edited December 2016

    Hi Barb,

    I also had a lumpectomy and then a re-excision with still no clear margins. I opted for a mastectomy over another lumpectomy instead of dealing with what else they were not seeing (my MRI before the re-excision showed nothing else, but the pathology report found more DCIS). I had chemo first, then my UMX last month. I was told I need no radiation. Yeah! One less thing causing harm while trying to get rid of the disease. My aunt had a UMX, no chemo, but rads. Doctors and treatments are so different and I guess it depends what stage, grade, etc. as well.


    Goincrzy8, I used Miralax the day of the surgery and ate fiber gummies the first couple of days as I did with the chemo. That took care of my problem. :-) As for the bras, I am still trying to find a comfy one. I have 5 or 6 different ones thrown on a stack in the corner that I have bought and tried. It's been a week since I tried wearing one. I even added 2 bra extenders to make sure everything was nice and loose and it still felt awful after a couple of hours. UGH I can't go braless at work so I have been using the one front closure bra that is way too big and rides up all day. But at least it doesn't leave the marks. Still not the most comfy thing. I pad both sides to help perk up the real breast. Otherwise the foob filling looks way too perky in comparison. Had a second post op this week and BS gave me the prescription for the bras and prosthesis. I need to get those ordered before Dec. 31st as my insurance company changes January 1. Yeah..not!

    ~Heidi

  • Abracadabra
    Abracadabra Member Posts: 1,369
    edited December 2016

    Molly - I'm pretty sure I'll have radiation because I have 2 positive nodes (with extra-nodal extension), and the radiologist told me that both the axillary nodes and supraclavicular nodes would be radiated, as well as the tumour bed.

    If I'm reading your profile correctly, you had a UMX and reconstruction before rads, then another UMX and reconstruction after rads. Did it work out ok? Could I go with a BMX and have tissue expanders placed before rads, or does this get in the way of the rads treatment? Also, I guess that the more interventions involved, the longer the healing time, and the longer the delay before rads can be done.

    Hmmmm ... well, I already mentioned the possibility of surgery to my MO on Monday, and she said she'd confer with my RO. I'll to so my BS on Tuesday and see what she suggests. (My, my, my ... so many acronyms!)

    The more I read (and think about this), the more I feel like getting as much done surgically to remove cancer now. Not crazy about the notion of flap surgery though ... seems like it would bring the possibility of all sorts of new complications.

    Heidibird - Yup ... my fear is exactly what you described ... that those lingering cells are the tip of the iceberg for more DCIS hiding out in what remains of my breast. There's no way to know what's going on in there, unless you remove it. Thanks for sharing your experience.


  • Molly50
    Molly50 Member Posts: 3,773
    edited December 2016

    Yes , I had umx with tissue expander first . Then found out that I have a genetic mutation so after radiation I took a break and then scheduled the other umx with tissue expander . I haven't had exchange surgery yet . I will have it sometime this coming year hopefully between January and March . My PS thinks that I will be OK with implants but wanted me to understand that the radiated side will not be the same as the non radiated side and I have a high risk of developing capsular contracture . Still better for me than flap surgery .

  • Abracadabra
    Abracadabra Member Posts: 1,369
    edited December 2016

    Molly50 - Thanks for sharing your experience to date. I hope that the exchange surgery and implants turn out well for you.

    I had not even heard of capsular contracture until your post, so I'm grateful to be aware this info before I meet my BS next week. Guess I'll continue doing my research until then. My mind feels like a whirlwind ... it seems like I have this little window to make the right choice, but first I have to figure out what that is!

    Barb

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2016

    Barb- I just had chemo #6 of 6 (fingers crossed the end) today....I knew I was always going to do a BMX if this ever happened (mom had BC twice, and colon cancer- other female family members with BC), and just thought implants. The past week I started to look at other stuff and it just gets so overwhelming and confusing with all the options so I feel your pain! I think I'm back to TE with implants. Keep me posted on your journey- I'm waiting to hear about surgery date but assuming mid to late January.

    Everyone's feedback is so helpful- thanks!

  • Goincrzy8
    Goincrzy8 Member Posts: 387
    edited December 2016

    Had post op today, drain still with me :(, path not back :( bandages changed and it looks good and he said healing well. Not the day I hoped for.


  • tsoebbin
    tsoebbin Member Posts: 474
    edited December 2016

    goingcrazy8 .... Sorry to hear your drain is still with you but glad things are looking good and you're healing well.

  • Heidibird
    Heidibird Member Posts: 213
    edited December 2016

    Congrats on being done with your last chemo, Kelly! Woohoo!


    Goincrzy8, sorry to hear that your appointment didn't go quite as you wanted it to. Getting the drains out is always such a relief. Hope they have scheduled you for another appt. soon. My home health care nurse said if my drains were ready to come out before appt. with doctor, that they would have her do it. Do you have HHC too?

    The good news was the words they spoke of you healing well and looking good! Yeah! I worried I wouldnt know if my incisions looked good or bad.

    My dermabond has successfully lasted 5 weeks. The BS told me this week at second post op to start picking at it. Does anyone have any good tips to get that glue off of me. Picking isn't working too well as the dermabond absolutely loves my skin.


    ~Heidi


  • Goincrzy8
    Goincrzy8 Member Posts: 387
    edited December 2016

    hi Heidi no I don't have a home nurse my daughter came home for surgery and she has been my caretaker the only thing she had to do is empty the drain no bandage changes etc

    She goes home Sunday and today is one week from surgery. I will miss having her home but maybe I can find a cabana boy to get me my coffee and wait on me lol

  • Heidibird
    Heidibird Member Posts: 213
    edited December 2016

    LOL @ cabana boy! I love that idea. :-)

  • nayda985
    nayda985 Member Posts: 361
    edited December 2016

    HI Everyone!

    first time posting on this board....I don't have a date for my surgery yet b/c I am still doing the Taxol run..I think I have 4 left...when I spoke with my ONC on Friday..he says that I should get a mastectomy on my affected breast...and I agree....I asked him if I should just go ahead and get it done on both breast...he said I could If I wanted to but that would be my decision/ if I went that route I wouldn't have to get the mammograms any more...he said that there are a lot of options for reconstructive surgery If I wanted that in the future....I told him I will think about this...but I think I know what I want to do....I want to do the mastectomy on both breast...b/c what if in a couple of years cancer invites itself to my good breast..i would be so upset and I cannot go through this again...so I am going to just get both of then taken off.

    Has anyone else went this route? and if you have what are the cons and pros of going this route?

    Thanks

  • tsoebbin
    tsoebbin Member Posts: 474
    edited December 2016

    Choosing a double mastectomy is a personal choice, I'm glad I did for the exact reasons you listed, nayda985

  • Molly50
    Molly50 Member Posts: 3,773
    edited December 2016

    nayda , I initially had a umx but after a few months could not handle the stress of mammograms so had a second mastectomy .

  • nayda985
    nayda985 Member Posts: 361
    edited December 2016

    Ty Tsoebbin and Molly for your response

    I feel good about my decision...and I am going to relay that to my Onc..my next treatment....I don't want to stressed out every mammogram either..and I most definitely don't want to go through this again...lol

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