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Hello everyone,
I am just popping in to wish all our American friends a Happy Thanksgiving. Have a lovely time with your family and friends.
Best wishes form the UK.
Sylvia xxxx
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Have a great Thanksgiving to all of us.
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Happy Thanksgiving everyone.
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Hi ladies and Mike. Well B day is Tuesday at 12pm, first on the list. To say I am scared is an understatement, I can't even think straight. I know from the CT scan that this is bad and I just do not want this biopsy but my family won't hear of this. I need to go back and read your latest posts but I'm too tired so will just say all those in treatment and those not having treatment I think of you every day and hope you enjoy your Thanksgiving. xxooxx
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Our dear sweet Cocker, we'll all be with you on Tuesday, holding you and praying. I know you're scared, and we are too. You're so strong but it's ok to be scared and not feel strong during this time, so let it all out if you have to. I wish we could all literally be with you but hold tight to your family. Huge (((((HUGS))))) my friend.
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Dear Annie, All here are sending hugs, love and BE WELL wishes and prayers. The biopsy will give the drs a treatment direction. Take this one day at a time and know that we join your family with support and encouragement. You have been through so much, - and you'll get through this, too!! My dearest friend went through many lung procedures and treatments stemming from stage 4 pancreatic cancer. She outlived all of her doctors predictions by many years! YOU WILL TOO!!
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Cocker - Sending you lots of love and (((hugs))). We will be there with you in spirit, and will continue to keep you in prayer.
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cocker in your pocket for tues. Holding you tight to keep you from feeling so scared. We all will be with you.
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Annie...we are all with you.❤️
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Thank you ladies for all of your love. It seems like my girls are phoning me every five minutes to see how I am. I have never heard from them so much. THey were the same with my breast cancer. My Alan has always been a devoted husband and is very kind and gentle but he is being extra gentle now. I appreciate the love from them all but I just wish they would let me say no to all of the following treatment that will come. I adore them all and my grandchildren but I am tired. I still laugh almost as much but I'm tired. I love my job but I can't wait for home time. I would rather go to bed than eat but my Alan won't hear of that and keeps feeding me up because I have lost so much weight. I do want to live but I don't want to go through what I know is coming - a big baby - sure am. xxxxooxx
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For Madam Cocker
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Madame Cocker,
I have been following your most recent part of your journey. I think I understand everything you say. It will be a process in "healing" for sure.
Some thoughts: We each have our own unique way of dealing with uncertainty. My MO said to me recently that if my CA comes back or not, in 4 or whatever number of years and I look back and only lived those years in fear, how might I feel? Would I have regret of not living fully? Then most recently when I was watching a documentary about children with autism, I was moved by this quote: "who decides what a meaningful life is?"
I certainly ponder these questions and quotes....not sure if any of this is helpful.....but, please know that we are all a part of your life- we are all together in this triple negative "club" and I truly think that together we might better serve the world- helping everyone embrace how to take life on our own terms with loving kindness- especially with oneself!!!
Janet
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Batesburg...WOW‼️ I love your MO's quote. Several years ago I thought I had ovarian cancer. Before the surgery I was overcome with sadness at all the time I had wasted on complaining, procrastinating and generally thinking and behaving as though I had endless time available to me. When the surgery showed no cancer, I promised myself I would not waste another precious minute of this gift called life. Now, being diagnosed with breast cancer I am trying to make the most of every day, putting fear and uncertainty on the back burner. It's hard but it can be done and it's really important for all of us. Thanks so much for sharing this lesson with all of us, especially Annie (Cocker).
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great news! I'm so scared about my shoulder as well! Have an old rotator cuff tear and bursitis which is letting me know about it during the taxol! Achy around the scapula as well which I'm hoping is arthritic as I have osteo. Will see physio after chemo but terrifie
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thanks Janet for your wonderful post!
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COCKER, as always you are in my thoughts
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batesburg and Cathy how true are your words. It takes having cancer to be scared, to start to live life fearless. It's in my signature below and I think about being fearless again every day. Don't know when I will get there but it's the journey that I want to be grateful for and appreciate. I relate it to when I was first diagnosed and cancer was my waking thought, my constant thoght throughout my day, and when I went to sleep. I just wanted not to b thinking about it every moment of my day. I wanted in a sense to be as fearless in my thoughts as I was before dx. I hope we all can get there.
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(((hugs))) for you cocker
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Cocker I saw this and thought of you. We are all over the world on this thread but we are friends that stay. Continuing to lift you up in prayer as you move forward.
Love, prayers & arm to arm linked hugs are flooding you daily.
Xoxo
G
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Rhonda, be sure before taxol to ask if you can get it weekly rather than in double dose every two weeks. Studies show that every week less likely to result in peripheral neuropathy, which I have permanently due to double dose every two weeks. If your MO refuses, buy some of those icy chemo socks. They may feel uncomfortable during chemo but if they prevent neuropathy it's totally worth it. Neuropathy decreases balance, and that is a prime cause of falling.
Hope this helps others too!
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Cocker Spaniel,
I didn't think you are a big baby; I think you are handling a "big burden"! I was thinking about you saying you want to live but you have fears of what's coming. I wasn't sure if you meant fears of getting further treatment or fears of saying no to it? Are you fearful of decreased quantity or quality of life either way?
I told my husband and daughter after completing treatment (chemo and surgery) that if and when my cancer recurred I'd be open to some surgeries but not any more chemo. They accepted this at the time. It is MY life, including all my bodily functions, and therefore mine to choose what seems right for me.
So there are my questions and my two cents. I hope I haven't offended or stressed you with this message.
Hugs,
Peggy
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Cathy and Janet thanks so much for your posts. Its so true, if we progress would we wish we would have worried more?
Cocker my thoughts and hugs are with you.
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Thanks everyone for your positive responses. I am certainly a "work in progress" and I can't deny that I have ups and downs to accepting uncertainty.
In fact, I go back and re-read my pathology report and sometimes look at the research regarding TNBC.
Our situations are all as unique as our DNA yet I still look for common threads to me. Mind games at work.
Here is my biggest question, what makes our lives as breast cancer survivors any less certain for longevity than anyone else? Hard for me to wrap my head around, frankly.
Thoughts?
My love to you, Cocker, as you head into a new week of challenges.
Janet
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My prayers and thoughts are with you, Annie.
Linda
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Annie, as always you're in my constant thoughts, but you'll be extra so this week as you navigate testing. We will all be here for you and in your pocket. I know you're scared, and knowing the type of person you are, I'm sure you don't want to see your family worry either, but try to let them take care of you. Is it possible for you to take a short leave from work while you sort things out? I only say that because you mentioned loving your home time. I can relate because I enjoy being home as well.
Sending you tons of love, prayer and strength. xoxo
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Annie, we are always here for you
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Batesburg, to answer your question I think our longevity is put more on our path than others. A cancer diagnosis in my opinion makes you aware of it more. I think those dx'd with heart disease etc feel the same way. You wonder how long with the medicine last, did it work etc.
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Cocker. I haven't been on in a while and just read the news. I'm sorry to hear what's going on. We are all here for you
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